DH said I’m useless. Have I done this wrong?

[Dandy008]

DS was finishing lunch, we were heading out afterwards and I asked DH if he would go upstairs and get him some fresh clothes.

He was up there for ages and when he came down he’d brought clothes from his nursery drawer (you know, the clothes that are the ones you don’t mind if nursery ruin)

I’d said these are his nursery clothes, and I did make a comment that I wouldn’t have put that top with those bottoms.

DH told me it’s my fault, I’m useless and don’t know how to arrange his drawers properly.

He has two sets of drawers in his bedroom.
Each has 4 big drawers in.

One set of drawers is nursery clothes, bottoms, vests, tshirts, jumpers etc.

One set of drawers are his normal clothes.

Then he has his wardrobe space.

I have a decal sticker on his nursery drawers, labelled “nursery clothes”

DH said it’s stupid putting his clothes away like I have and that I should put them away as outfits, then it would be easier to dress DS.

The thing is a lot of his clothes mix and match so I don’t want to put them away as an outfit.

It seems trivial but I’m so upset he’s called me useless.

I struggle with my self esteem, especially since being a mum and comments like this really get to me. 😣

But you said you had a set of drawers for nursery, not just one drawer?

@cookingisoverrated

He's lashing out at you for his mistake. Not on.

I'd tell him you look forward to seeing the reorganisation of the drawers by the end of the day since he clearly thinks he knows better than you in spite of the obvious labels.

Do you really think the OP would allow him to do this? I don’t.

so you asked him to choose some clothes. You criticised his choice and he got pissed off with you.

Have a cup of tea and move on. Do you really want to carry it on longer than necessary

@CaptSkippy
Your husband sounds vile, OP.

He didn't match the outfit and said she was useless in response to her criticism. It's nowhere near vile behaviour. 😂

@Dandy008

*You asked him to pick out clothes and he did. It's not his fault you decided they weren't suitable.*

I know, you’re right. I should’ve picked them myself or told him what pick.
It still doesn’t excuse his name calling though 😔

Actually, I think what people are saying is that it doesn't matter if he picks wrong, just go with it. Not that you should pick for him.

clothes that are suitable to wear on a warm day that aren’t stained and more suited to messy play?

You’d have a point of she said the clothes were stained and more suited for messy play. She didn’t. She said they didn’t match.

@Getyourownback

Still these relatively innocuous threads are turning into real bitchfests from certain posters. What is going on at the moment? Is it a society-wide state of misery turning people into arseholes?

Nothing will top the absolute onslaught to the woman who was at the end of her tether with her ASD child, but even this thread has got posters acting like dogs with bones.

I agree. Theres some crazy overreactions and assumptions on here. I dont post any more because even something minor becomes an onslaught. Sad to see

Six of one and half a dozen of the other.

He was rude, and owes you an apology.

But it is really fucking weird to be this picky about clothes, let alone the weirdness of putting labels on drawers.

My DP and I often disagree about clothes - we have quite different tastes, and also DP always worried about DD getting cold while I always worry she'll overheat, so each of us is quite capable of choosing outfits that the other thinks is inappropriate. You have to learn to bite your tongue, unless you want to take responsibility for all of it.

But it is really fucking weird to be this picky about clothes, let alone the weirdness of putting labels on drawers.

@SarahAndQuack

I take it you don’t follow Mrs Hinch / Stacey Solomon?

Labels aren’t weird…! I label all sorts. In a fun stylish way.
Not the weird obsessive way you’re probably imagining!!

For example…..

@Dandy008

For example…..

That’s exactly the weird way I was imagining.

I think your bar of being insulted is very low. I feel sorry for your husband.

@Branleuse

so you asked him to choose some clothes. You criticised his choice and he got pissed off with you.

Have a cup of tea and move on. Do you really want to carry it on longer than necessary

She clearly does...

You were fun, OP. He was being a cunt.

Why is your job to organise everything anyway?

Fine, not fun

@Dandy008

But it is really fucking weird to be this picky about clothes, *let alone the weirdness of putting labels on drawers.*

@SarahAndQuack

I take it you don’t follow Mrs Hinch / Stacey Solomon?

Labels aren’t weird…! I label all sorts. In a fun stylish way.
Not the weird obsessive way you’re probably imagining!!

What on earth would be fun or stylish about this? It must look absolutely ridiculous.

@SarahAndQuack

That’s your opinion. Plenty of people like it.

I’m sure there would be lots of things in your home I wouldn’t like.
As long as you like it, that’s all that really matters.

[quote Dandy008]@SarahAndQuack

That’s your opinion. Plenty of people like it.

I’m sure there would be lots of things in your home I wouldn’t like.
As long as you like it, that’s all that really matters.[/quote]
Ignore it, OP. People are being unnecessarily bitchy tonight, think the fuel shortage is getting to them.

Nobody cares if your toddler bottom and top do not match.
Do not pick apart , he got fresh clothes. Run with it.

1. you have way too many clothes for your child, as an adult I don't even enough to fill 8 drawers and a wardrobe!

2. you were out of order to criticize his choice other than maybe if he chose shorts for a snow day type of thing, but even then I wouldn't say I wouldn't have picked it, just a "that might be a bit cold given the weather"

3. he was out of order saying that to you, but this could either be a one off as both tired and irritable (i.e. no need to dwell) OR it's a common occurrence and this is just one example of many, in which case he doesn't respect you

God I'm glad I don't follow Stacey Soloman or Mrs Hinch. But you crack on if that's what floats your boat, but maybe don't insist your DH buys into that weirdness too eh?

@ejhhhhh

God I'm glad I don't follow Stacey Soloman or Mrs Hinch. But you crack on if that's what floats your boat, but maybe don't insist your DH buys into that weirdness too eh?

YY, that's the point.

If you want your house full of labels as if it were an institution, fine, crack on. But your DH is also a parent, and you did ask if you'd done something wrong.

@Dandy008. Leaving your husband to one side for the moment, I'd love you to come and label my entire house. That cupboard is exactly how I want to live. Instead everything is shoved in mine and you take your life in your hands when you open a door in case you get bonked on the head by a tin of soup. I love your organised way of living!

OP wait until your child is older, picks their own outfits and doesn't fit into your neat, ordered and controlled life

[quote Porridgealert]@Dandy008. Leaving your husband to one side for the moment, I'd love you to come and label my entire house. That cupboard is exactly how I want to live. Instead everything is shoved in mine and you take your life in your hands when you open a door in case you get bonked on the head by a tin of soup. I love your organised way of living![/quote]
I’m very organised, and nothing is labelled! I can see whether it’s spaghetti in the jar, or tea bags!