To feel I have utterly let down my children by sending then to a state school?

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I went to a private school, and achieved very well academically.

My children go to a state school, as I can't afford private school. I will never be able to afford it sadly. They go to the local community school, which has a reputation for not being academic.

My eldest is extremely bright, and tested many years ahead of her age on entering the local primary. Now, she has failed to even get to the second round of the 11+. She has really just coasted at school, as they have not set any appropriate work for her, despite multiple requests. They say they can't offer 'gifted and talented' provision, due to funding.

Her sibling is very behind on learning, as she missed loads of school due to lockdowns, and the school offered very little remote provision throughout most of the time. I have asked for support for her, but am told that nothing is available, again, due to funding. Meanwhile, she is struggling with even the basics.

I do think that both of my children would have done better, had they gone to a school where their individual abilities and learning stage was catered for, and they were helped to achieve their potential. I feel I have let them down by not providing them with a good education, which they could have had if I had the money.

Now it's looking likely my eldest will have to go to the terrible, and rough, local secondary, and the underachieving will continue.

Op most people cannot afford private school, but you can do a whole lot at home if you set aside an hour before or after school and 4 hours on a Saturday and a more 'fun' 2 hours (quiz type learning) on a Sunday for example....
My DD missed lots of school due to a long term health condition so the year before senior school l did this.
We covered English, Maths, verbal and non verbal reasoning, using workbooks from WHS. she went from bumping along at the bottom of her class to close to the top in a year.
We did times tables for 15 minutes on the morning school run, and spelling for 10 minutes on the way home with hot chocolate as a reward if they got 9/10 (EVERY day.)
My view was l did not want her disdvantaged for senior school so Maths and English had to be to a very good standard. It takes discipline and l am sure as a Dr you work very hard but you have to find the time and stick to it.
Note l went to a rubbish Comp so have always prioritised education as l have seen first hand the advantages.