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Can I wear this if I'm a SAHM ?

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baggingareaunattended · 22/09/2021 18:47

There's a few tees I like, not so keen on the girl slogan ones as I'm a women, but I like this one and the WOMAN one .. but would I be a bit of a contradiction? As it goes I'm not married, but I'm technically engaged 😬

thespark.company/collections/feminist-t-shirts/products/on-wednesdays-we-smash-the-patriarchy-fitted-v-neck-t-shirt

Can I wear this if I'm a SAHM ?
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baggingareaunattended · 22/09/2021 21:16

@CorrBlimeyGG ohhh right have they spoken out on JKR? I haven't studied the whole debacle, but I thought she just called a spade, a spade.

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baggingareaunattended · 22/09/2021 21:22

@fiveinfulham

No you most certainly can not wear that as a SAHM OP. What do you do all day fgs? You should be knocking up your own clothes from old curtains. Not spending HIS money on T-shirts! Shock I find your thread an outrage. Get the slow-cooker on.
😂 I just whack something in my le creuset in the Aga personally. Leaves more time to damp dust my Montessori play room with my bamboo cloths.
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DontBuyANewMumCashmere · 22/09/2021 21:23

@Mrsfrumble Yes that sounds about right!

@CorrBlimeyGG Has she supported transphobes though? Really?

Bluntness100 · 22/09/2021 21:25

If you really like mean girls and don’t really like feminism go for it. You need to do you,

Personally id turn away from you. But it’s irrelevant.

accentdusoleil · 22/09/2021 21:28

And are you smashing the patriarchy ?

ReeseWitherfork · 22/09/2021 21:30

A thread that talks about mean girls, the SAHM debate and somehow drags in JKR?! Wow OP, you've achieved something quite bizarre. If you like the t-shirt then wear it Smile you can definitely be a SAHM and a feminist.

Bluntness100 · 22/09/2021 21:32

@accentdusoleil

And are you smashing the patriarchy ?
Or are you staying home raising kids so your husband can beat those pesky working mums who need to get home to raise their kids? Are you staying home making damn sure he can beat them?
Bluntness100 · 22/09/2021 21:33

In fact op, maybe tell us all about how you’re smashing the patriarchy?

SecretSpAD · 22/09/2021 21:34

Well of course you can wear it. Don't be daft. Just because you are a SAHM doesn't mean you can't be a feminist ffs. 👊🏻

Mytooferts · 22/09/2021 21:35

True. It's a bit shock value "style" over substance.

SecretSpAD · 22/09/2021 21:37

Oh when my nephew/adopted sons mum died he found a t-shirt of hers with the slogan "this is what a feminist looks like"

He wears it, with pride.

ReeseWitherfork · 22/09/2021 21:38

In fact op, maybe tell us all about how you’re smashing the patriarchy?
I don't think she's asking us to assess whether her patriarchy-smashing actions qualify her to make such a statement. She's only asking about whether being a SAHM should automatically disqualify her from making it.

YouMeandtheSpew · 22/09/2021 21:40

You certainly wouldn’t necessarily be a hypocrite to wear it as a SAHM. You would be a hypocrite to wear it if you aren’t in fact a feminist or smashing the patriarchy.

AICM · 22/09/2021 21:41

Isn't it a bit like being a vegetarian on Wednesdays but not the other 6 days then wanting praise for being a vegetarian.

FirewomanSam · 22/09/2021 21:49

Oh my god I think this is the funniest thread I’ve ever read on here. I can’t believe how seriously and earnestly some people are debating over a novelty t shirt with a Mean Girls reference on it Grin

JoborPlay · 22/09/2021 22:16

YABU - theyre shit quality, men's style t shirts. Disappointingly.

pianolessons1 · 22/09/2021 22:18

If you're an unmarried SAHM then unless you're independently wealthy you have much bigger problems than what tshirt to buy. Why would you give up work with no legal protection at all?

U2HasTheEdge · 22/09/2021 22:19

@Bluntness100

In fact op, maybe tell us all about how you’re smashing the patriarchy?
Why should she? So you can pull it to pieces?

Of course you can wear the t-shirt OP.

WaterBottle123 · 22/09/2021 22:22

Well you're perpetuating the patriarchy day to day. But you can wear whatever you please

Doghairismyglitter · 22/09/2021 22:35

I love slogan tee’s, my favourite one I own has a large gravestone on it and says “R.I.P All The Men Who Told Me To Smile”

You can be a feminist and a SAHM. They’re not mutually exclusive; if you like it OP, wear it! 🤘🏼

DontBuyANewMumCashmere · 22/09/2021 22:44

"Or are you staying home raising kids so your husband can beat those pesky working mums who need to get home to raise their kids? Are you staying home making damn sure he can beat them?"

What the fuck? It is unfeminist to stay at home because you're ensuring your husband can 'beat' all the women in his workplace?

Feminism! Empowering women to make their own choices unless they're the wrong choice that we don't like

MrsTerryPratchett · 22/09/2021 22:57

True feminists, they don't support transphobes like JK Rowling.

Hmm

Plonker

GroggyLegs · 22/09/2021 23:05

Personally id turn away from you

You can't sit with us.

Newmum29 · 22/09/2021 23:09

I’d wear it but I’m pretty confident. I have to say when I’ve worn my “the future is female” top I get A LOT of comments so be prepped for that.

Limejuiceandrum · 22/09/2021 23:10

Yeah
Don’t be a cunt
HTH