To think high heels look a bit silly?

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I'm a sucker for them (or used to be) but the more time goes by I'm starting to feel they have very little place in my wardrobe.

I feel overdressed and try to hard in them. I think it's hard to pull off the effortless look in heels. But I also feel like something is missing when I don't wear them on a night out for example.

I feel like it's yet another pointless trend for women to continue following - that are really uncomfortable and serve no real purpose.

I've also noticed younger women rarely wear them - have they seen the light?!

Or AIBU for feeling this way

[quote WaterBottle123]@JasonMomoasgirlfriend

Shoes don't need to offer support. Our feet are perfectly evolved to walk without support. Shoes are a pretty recent invention you know [/quote]
Ok well I didn't think it needed pointed out but since we actually wear shoes and don't go around walking to work in bare feet...the shoes you wear should offer support...

[quote postingfortraffichere]@Rubyflint I think fir summer months wedges are still quite popular for evenings holidays etc [/quote]
Yeah I'm sure these neck pieces are coming back reeeeal soon!

It says that young people, who aren't shackled by 50 years of tradition or social convention, are choosing to do things differently, making a different choice which suits people better. It has nothing to do with looking like a young person

But many are still following trends. This time filers and botox.

A lot of men take steroids for bigger muscles etc, so they do do risky things for trends

Well done. You found the one thing which confirms the posters comment that men rarely take risks for vanity.

But many are still following trends. This time filers and botox.

Again with the "many" I take it you have figures to support that? Because of the many, many young people I know, they are not doing this.

As a male in my 30’s I won’t lie I find stilettos very sexy on women, totally disagree they look dated I think they’re timeless, but as with anything in life everyone is or should be free to wear whatever they like.

I work in several offices and I would say 2/3 of our female staff, typically aged 18-50 are in heels virtually every day, there is no uniform policy I don’t care if my staff wear suits, football kits or clown outfits so long as they do the job they are paid to do.

10% definitely come in very casual, 90% make a big effort and wear suits etc for men and business type clothing for women, but this is entirely personal choice and nobody is under any pressure to wear anything of any style.

Anecdotally on the tube at the weekend I would say 10% of women I noticed were wearing heels, they are definitely still out there, thankfully! Yes I know I’m being shallow, hate me if you like I don’t mind

I live in flip flops but I do like mid-heel scrappy sandals for a dressy night out. I also like to wear stockings on those nights (yes, objectification, we’re consenting adults!) how do you manage that in flats without getting Nora Batty wrinkles round the ankles?

Would love to know as although I can still rock a cocktail dress, it’s increasingly difficult to find shoes that fit my ageing feet!

*strappy, although scrappy as well perhaps!

@Icenii

It says that young people, who aren't shackled by 50 years of tradition or social convention, are choosing to do things differently, making a different choice which suits people better. It has nothing to do with looking like a young person

But many are still following trends. This time filers and botox.

Exactly. Young people aren't a homogeneous mass. For every young woman embracing comfort and practicality there's another who goes full on glam with all the trappings. Its completely up to them and should have no real baring on the choices of other women. Its understandable that some women have rejected heels, they can be restrictive and uncomfortable and if women don't want to wear them, great. No need to legitimate that choice by making out that women who make a different one look wrong, dated, ridiculous or...horrors!...OLD.

I love the look of heels but I can't walk in them so I only wear them for special occasions. Someone always asks me whether I am all right though! 🤭 I usually wear loafers for day to day

As a man I could never understand why women wore shoes they struggled to walk in and made their feet sore and heels blister.
I have lost count of the times I have given my wife (then girlfriend) a piggy when we were younger heading home from a night on the town clutching heels in one hand and munchies in the other.
For me they rate along with, fake tan, false lashes, and trowelled on make up as the things women do to themselves that most men just wonder "why?"

I use to love high heels and have loads of old pairs stuffed in the back of my wardrobe aka Narnia but my god I will never ever wear another pair if I can get away with them now. They're from a bygone era as far as I'm concerned but a happy era for me

The only thing I wear with heels these days are boots and even then they are low block heel types.
I’ve also definitely noticed teens on nights out rarely wear them now, good for them.
Comfort before all else !

I can’t stand them because they hurt and they’re ridiculously impractical. I haven’t worn them for 3 years and I don’t miss it.

High heels aren't for me.
If other women want to wear them, that's up to them, but what does look silly is when they can't walk in them.

@saleorbouy they look beautiful. And I don't feel confident enough to wear 'sexy clothes', almost all my clothes have sleeves, and can't apply false lashes, so I guess heels are the only way for me to wear something 'sexy'. My husband is like you, he is always moaning that I can barely walk in them!

I’m 27 and none of my friends wear heels.

@BoredZelda

But many are still following trends. This time filers and botox.

Again with the "many" I take it you have figures to support that? Because of the many, many young people I know, they are not doing this.

Probably as likely to have figures as those people claiming young women don't wear heels id imagine. People are speaking about shoe trends purely from their own observations made in the environment they frequent. With no imperial evidence, and a good dose of confirmation bias thrown in.

People who think that because heels aren't currently in fashion it means they've permanently consigned to the fashion trash heap are deluded.

I love heels, the silhouette is elongated and posture refined. You put on a pair of heels and you feel ready to conquer the world, flats and sneakers just don’t do that. Cheap heels are instruments of torture and ill fitting designer ones the same. Flats are frumpy unless they’re Louboutins or Chanel’s, even then it’s a tricky look to pull off.

I definitely think it’s an age thing, take a walk around any city centre on a Friday or Saturday night and there’s plenty of heels around on the younger crowd, flats and a short dress do not mix.

Used to love them and still have a huge collection but I stopped wearing them often when I first got pregnant 10 years ago and now I hardly ever do - and when I do, yes, they look weird to me!

I had to wear a pair for a job the other day - nothing ridiculous, block heel, reasonably comfortable - and I still got distracted at one point staring at my own feet thinking "wow, they look ludicrous. Like someone stuck blocks of wood on normal shoes. How silly."

And last week I wore a pair of huge platforms to go out for my birthday. Now they really were ridiculous and I paid for it by falling off them, grazing my knee and severely bruising my ego!

So I think me and heels might be done...

@LolaButt

I love seeing women wearing trainers on a night out these days. When I think of all the pain and blisters I used to get just to look a certain way… these ladies are living right!

Same! I’m actually angry that I had so many fun nights out spoiled by sore, aching feet and had to have breaks from dancing to rest my feet.

Wearing trainers wasn’t even allowed in clubs only a few years ago. I’d have had so many more enjoyable, fun nights out dancing away in trainers.

I like wearing heels. Unfortunately I can’t anymore and I miss theM. Even the uncomfortable ones.

@GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing

Shoes don't need to offer support. Our feet are perfectly evolved to walk without support. Shoes are a pretty recent invention you know grin This is what I don’t understand. I hear it often that the best support for our feet and back are slight heels but surely walking barefoot is fine, with it being how we’ve evolved and all.

I think if we are going to wear shoes we need support as we’re carrying the shoe on our feet. Having to grip a shoe in by tensing your feet - like a court shoe or ballet slipper - is a problem.

These are two separate issues - you are right that it is bad for your feet to grip shoes on by your toes (so avoid flip flops and shoes that are too big). But your feet don’t need any support. You have muscles for that. Your feet just need as little as possible interfering with how they naturally move - so no heels, no toes which bend upwards (like some trainers do), no inflexible soles.

It’s so rare to see a woman in heels now, to the point where it’s really noticeable when you do see it. Thank goodness. Hopefully it will last and future generations of women won’t have the awful corns and bunions that afflict many of my generation.