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To want to suddenly develope a case of tourettes in M&S cafe!!!!!!

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littleboo · 05/12/2007 13:33

Went into M&S for a coffee today..... my day off with no children, 2 in school, 1 in nursery.....!
In the queue ( always a queue) about 5 people in front and about 10 behind. Looked round and saw that most of those behind had an other with them , ie hubby, frien etc, then about 6 of " the others" all went and found tables.
So there we are with at leasy 6 people sitting at tables (waiting for the other halves- who are way back in the queue behind me)
The people at the front couldn't find a seat
it really drives me mad.... why can't people just wait until they have at least ordered their food or drink. i only had a coffee, iif i'd been able to find a seat I'd have been gone before some of these had even ordered.
Sorry long rant, but really p..... me ... off!!
Sorry, sorry...... just wanted to stand up in the middle of the shop and shout at all the numpties!

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bozza · 06/12/2007 14:08

Actually I think it is unfair to blame the middle aged fit for doing this. I have seen it happen from all ages/stages of people.

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littleboo · 06/12/2007 14:18

well yes bozza, iop I didn't actually claim that i knew the ages or health status of any of the others in the queue. The middle aged thing seemed to come later along with the fleeces and then the swimming pools, which was definately not visable from teh cafe in our M&S. .
It is all ages that do this, but as always you're either a table grabber or not!.... sorry didn't mean of course to upset all those tables out there!

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yurt1 · 06/12/2007 14:18

ds1 doesn't have TS (although he has plenty of tics and if that was his main problem presumably would be dxed, his dx covers tics and stereotypical movements anyway). TBH I wasn't personally offended by the title (although thanks for the apology), but I have read enough form people with TS to know that many of those with the condition would be. That's why the title made me cringe a little & I guess why its worth being a little careful on a public forum.

NotCod · 06/12/2007 14:19

MAKRS AND PSENCERS CAFES HAEV A HUGE QEUGIN ISSUE CASED BY ORDERING OF PONCEY COFEEE

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littleboo · 06/12/2007 14:20

Well notcod, maybe thats the whole problem, best keep away from there

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littleboo · 06/12/2007 14:26

yurt - point taken
However didn't notice jingle and peachy getting quite so heated about that poor little "WET BOY" being sold on for sale, now if thats not offensive to the little wet ones out there

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Peachy · 06/12/2007 14:32

I can honestly say I ahven't got the foggiest what you mean!!!!! have blocked for sale anyhow, but if you think THIS was me heated you're avin a larf LOL! Oh I get a lot worse I can assure you!

yurt1 · 06/12/2007 14:36

I suppose anyone at all can be wet so its not going to be offensive. When you have a child/children with a disability (as both peachy and jingle do) you tend to notice when people take the piss out of disabilities. And somehow it seems less amusing when 90% of your social life is spent in the world of disability.

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littleboo · 06/12/2007 14:45

WAS being sarcastic i'm afriad, there isn't I hope a little boy for sale, BUT thats what the title says >>>! As in MY thread was about taking the mickey out of or even discussing people with tourettes, BUT SOMEPEOPLE just don't get it I suppose.
peachy just making a point about the thread titles, sorry you obviously are so not on the same wavelength, being a bit sarcastic !
ONLY a joke.

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littleboo · 06/12/2007 14:47

Sorry that should have read "As in my thread it was NOT ABOUT taking the mickey", best to put that right

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Peachy · 06/12/2007 14:47

yeah love, thats why I put LOL in my last post........

okaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay

yurt1 · 06/12/2007 14:53

I suppose its like writing 'I had an epi when I saw such and such'. Not taking the piss out of epilepsy obviously but still hmmmm, little bit dodgy perhaps; would probably put the brakes on and not write that.

needmorecoffee · 06/12/2007 18:36

thats cos you're thoughtful Yurt. My dd has epilepsy and I do find it offensive when people say that. And I get fed up when norms accuse you of being sense of humour deprived cos you find comments or jokes about disability not funny at all.
Hopefully in 10 years time thoughtless comments wont happen, after all, its rare to hear thoughtless racist remarks anymore because people are more aware and they are careful.
At my sons school the common word to use it 'retarded' which I find absolutely horrible. Someone who had to live with a child with learning disabilites would be very offended because having a child with disability is never a laughing matter. Not ever.

yurt1 · 06/12/2007 19:08

You're absolutely right. I never find retard(ed) funny. Never.

scrummyfairyontopofthetree · 06/12/2007 19:19

Littleboo - I had to laugh this morning at your post (did not have time to reply).

I went into our town centre on Monday and thought mmmmmm skinny late calling me (I was already in M & S). Made my way upstairs and there was a huge queue. Nevertheless I decided to wait in line to get my much needed coffee.

Looking around whilst waiting and 70% of the tables were occupied by people waiting for people in the queue and more people were turning up behind me and sending their partners, mothers, sils whatever off to find a table. We do have a sign up saying please purchase your food/drinks before getting a table - but obviously they were blind on Monday morning and could not read.

Luckily enough, I managed to share a table with someone but I was mumbling to myself throughout waiting in line.

I find it very irritating to say the least.

evenhope · 06/12/2007 19:22

Getting back to the OP, don't you find that people in general are just incredibly selfish and self centred?

I had a problem with this table grabbing on my own with DD in Starbucks recently.

My other pet hate, having a large family, is when people get to choose tables somewhere like Wetherspoons and there is usually one large 6-8 person table, several 4 persons and the rest 2 persons. There will invariably be 2-3 people sat at the one big table, and 2 people on each of the 4 person tables.

Or there is when you have to wait ages for the lift and when it finally comes an able bodied young person jumps in behind you. It must be infuriating for people with permanent mobility problems- at least at a push you can carry the buggy down the stairs (well I can't, but DH can).

needmorecoffee · 06/12/2007 19:26

the one person at a large table is annoying but I just join them. DD can get very loud
same with lifts. Once had a non-disabled woman and her teen push in front of me (with 2 walking sticks) and dh - pushing dd in her wheelchair. She jabbed the button and was off before I could do more than gape.
Then there was the women who parked on the pavement in front of me when I was in my wheelchair leaving no room for me to get past. I said 'excuse me, its illegal to pak on the pavement' and she put her face 2 inches from mine and said ' you effing cripple, I hope you die, why should we move for you, people like you shouldn't effing be allowed out.'
I still boggle thinking about it.

evenhope · 06/12/2007 19:47

needmorecoffee

Did you scrape down the side of her car?

yurt1 · 06/12/2007 20:23

how utterly charming needmorecoffee. What a delightful specimen. I think I know who shouldn't be allowed out.

chibi · 06/12/2007 20:29

I was on a train back from london the other day with my dh, dad, sister and my baby. There was a block of 4 seats, but just as I reached it the couple adjacent to it flung some of their stuff on it 'sorry, someone is sitting there'. This block of 4 was then taken up by their ONE friend. The couple were sat in a block of 4 themselves!

There was also a pair of women sat in a block of 6 seats (2 pairs of facing 3 seat rows) with all of their paraphenalia stewn extravagantly across all 6 seats!

Posdsibly not a completely relevent post, but it was seat-hoggery nonetheless.

MotherofOne · 06/12/2007 22:20

Nortynamechanger - 'family' cubcicles at our pool are huge affairs with room for 3-4 people. The regular cubicles are perfectly fine for an adult + child. Seems selfish to deprive a parent with 2 or 3 children from using them?

But the thing that really P*sses me off at swimming pools is pushchairs - despite the signs - trailing dog muck and god knows what else around the wet floor...

nappyaddict · 07/12/2007 08:58

am shocked that your swimming pool doesn't allow pushchairs in the changing room. i don't know how i would have managed taking ds swimming as a new born if i couldn't take the pushchair in with me. at our swimming pool you are actually supposed to push them onto the side of the pool and leave them there.

i only have one child but i always use the family cubicle cos i can't get the pushchair in anywhere else.

needmorecoffee · 07/12/2007 09:58

pushcahirs should be left outside cos they are yucky. Child is either small enough to carry or can walk. Certainly shouldn't be taking up a family cubicle while those with 2 + children shiver outside.
Our local pool has stairs down to the changing room so we don't go as dd is in a wheelchair, as am I.

needmorecoffee · 07/12/2007 10:01

I was troo shaken to be honest but if I ever see it I will. But you get disablism everywhere. Went on a train the other day and the conductor asked a woman to move her lugguge from the wheelchair space. Cue foul abusive language as to why she should move her lugguge for a 'spastic'
I did point out to her that technically I'm not 'spastic' as I have MS.
She spent the rest of the journey on her mobile telling a friend loudly that she had had to move for 'some mong'. The other passengers kept apologising to me even though none was with her but they were horrified.
I amused myself by putting dirty boot prints all over her luggage

nappyaddict · 07/12/2007 10:37

well i need the pushchair else ds crawls or rolls under the changing room door and is gone!!

and my pushchair isn't yucky. if it has mud on the wheels i wipe them before entering the poolside. i can't help what the rules of the pool are!