what’s it like to be married to an upper class (posh) man and how do you get with one?

[PlainPiano]

What’s it like being married to an old money, posh upper class man and how did you get with one?

By posh upper class man I mean:
Multiple generations of his family went to Eton, Harrow, Westminster etc.
Went to Oxford to read PPE, or Cambridge
Has family money going back generations
Works a big City job in finance or in politics etc.

What type of woman do they want, thin, blonde..?

Aren't they basically all cousins?

@AngelicaElizaAndPeggy they still do the breeding programme thing. An air-conditioned coach full of lovely eligible sixth formers travels 60 miles cross-country from elite girls school A to elite boys school B, and vice versa, several times each term 😀

What an odd post. They are not an homogenous group.

2 out of 10 for originality and effort op

DH has a big job in the City. He is an immigrant from a very poor working class Indian family, who went to school and university in India. I am the same, from a slightly less poor family. Neither of us are thin or blonde. He is by no means the only one with this background. I think you will find the City has changed.

Oh darling don’t you know? If daddy didn’t send you to the Swiss finishing school to learn how one marries well, you’ll never catch that kind of man. No matter how hard you try.

I think you need to come from the same stock. You have to have been to the same school as their cousin or something to even be in with a chance.
Read the books past imperfect and snobs by Julien fellows to get a better understanding.

Anyone but their own wife according to Matt Hancock, he seems to be the type you are after? 🤔

Most likely depends very much on your friend’s breeding.. rather like horses

I’m from a really rough town and went to a comp. I’ve had a few boyfriends who went to boarding school. I think they liked the idea of having a girlfriend who was like the girls for the village they used to want to go out with

I disagree about thin and blonde. I know a lot of posh types. Think booming voices, yah yah and salmon coloured cords. The wide cord variety.
Actually a lot of the wives are plump and horsey.
But yes, they do shag blonde and thin on the side.

Is it too late for you to go back to Benenden, OP?

Are you quite well?

Surprisingly dull. They talk about themselves, very loudly. A lot. Their friendship circle might as well just be a giant mirror. The wives all already know each other, and they can't be arsed with incomers. Eton sorts are also often disappointingly stupid and/or poorly educated.

BUT you might get an inside peek at things you probably would otherwise never see (Henley, polo etc. I know these things are not really exclusive any more, but I never would have done them off my own bat)

The worst is someone with all the negative sides of a super posh upbringing, but whose family no longer have any money. All the cons, none of the pros.

Actually a non-British friend of mine got one, to our surprise.

She ended up specialising in a cultural area that seems in the UK to attract a lot of posh people. So her work mates were all posh.

She went to the pub with them and their equally posh mates turned up and she drunkenly snogged one.

Now they're married years. Her in-laws have Wikipedia pages, lol.

God this is depressing. Gold digging is alive and well

@PlainPiano

What’s it like being married to an old money, posh upper class man and how did you get with one?

By posh upper class man I mean:
Multiple generations of his family went to Eton, Harrow, Westminster etc.
Went to Oxford to read PPE, or Cambridge
Has family money going back generations
Works a big City job in finance or in politics etc.

What type of woman do they want, thin, blonde..?

Well, if you like shopping sprees don't do it, they are as tight as anything, my partner literally hates spending any money (he will but he totally despises it), and he's forever checking his savings and investment accounts to see how much they have gone up by

And yes I met all the old Etonian mates at the wedding and their wives were not glam AT ALL. Quite the opposite.

I WAS married to one. Say no more

Imagine yourself as fergie and wanting to meet prince andrew, meeting him, getting to know him....and choosing to stay with him....

Still asking @PlainPiano?!?

@ThinWomansBrain

I think they're available in exchange for tesco clubcard points

If only

Try and dress shabbily, have bad teeth and shower once a month.

They stick in the same circles. Often very polite, have no idea about the real world, think they're nice but have very right wing old school views about lots of things. I went to uni with a load of them and got sick of the whole thing.

@Ohshittt

Anyone but their own wife according to Matt Hancock, he seems to be the type you are after? 🤔

He’s not actually that posh. His family are self made business people, his wife though is very posh and comes from an aristocratic background.

Foxhunting. And hunting in general is definitely a thing, as is being racist (a lot of them even just ignorantly so).

Also in my case I'm the total opposite to him, for me money (disposable income) is for spending not saving.
He is upper class, I'm working class.
He is tall, dressed in designer gear all the time, international holidays, flash cars etc.
I'm short and dumpy (5'1 size 16), stay cationer)

Yet, as a team we both work well and gel well