Not using normal name for this, as I've posted a lot about the two deceased and don't want it to be linked in case of future action. MNHQ have access to my past threads.
My very close relative died suddenly last year (not parent). They were fairly young. Their family had them buried in a double plot...all fine.
A couple of months ago another very close relative died (may be parent). They were buried in same grave.
At the time a few of us thought the second coffin went in the wrong way round, but all of us were too uncomfortable to speak up. Plus it was a bit of a disaster as we'd rushed up to yhe graveside, as the the hearse drove straight past us in the carpark, where we were waiting (last year the hearse stopped, family pallbearers carried the coffin and we walked behind).
When we arrived at the grave the coffin was already out!!!
We've been thinking about it and it's not right.
How can we put a headstone up when it will be at one person's feet?
It also means that peopke will be walking continuously over relative's head. We can't mark the grave, as it is in the part that only allows headstones.
It is a total fuck up!
We hsve a complication. When challenged the FD claims that the NOK ordered the body to be placed the wrong way. This can't be true as I was involved. Yes, the FD phoned NOK the day before, but said he would speak to them before the funeral. Then drove straight past us.
We never met this FD before the day, and they didn't introduce themselves. We arranged it with another, but he was off that day.
What would you do?