They've announced their pregnancy

[isthisok22]

Not sure if my emotions are getting the better of me.

We lost a pregnancy earlier this year a friends and family know. We are now staying in Scotland with DHs parents and siblings and 3 of his friends. It's the first time we've seen PIL since it happened.

One friend and wife have chosen now to announce that they are pregnant to us / the group / social media.

Every conversation they start is around their baby and how's she feeling and what she can and can't eat and how exciting it is and I feel quite upset. We've seen them lots this summer and I don't know why now seemed like the best time. Their own parents don't even know.

All the talk about oh I felt like this at week 5 and this at week 10 is infuriating because I was pregnant for 14 weeks and felt all those things but because the pregnancy ended it's like it didn't count and everyone has forgotten I experienced it all too.

Guessing you've never suffered the heartbreak of losing a Baby then? Of course we don't expect the world to revolve around us and no we don't expect others to hide their happiness, but what we do want is understanding and sensitivity in these situations and being able to grieve in our own time
@HopingForOurRainbowBaby I have had 4 losses.One at 14 weeks so I do know what the op is going through.
But she has to realise they are happy.
When she was pregnant she went on the same way.
They’re utterly selfish idiots. And I’d cut them off completely. It takes nothing from your ‘joy’ to be considerate of friends who have suffered a recent loss. What cut people off for being excited,that's just plain batshit.

@BorderlineHappy what is batshit is people anouncing their pregnancy to someone elses fmaily, knowing full well those people are recnetly beireaved and then banging on about it.

In honesty nobody in OP's family probably cares remotely about this couples pregnancy. Expectant couples can be spectacularly stupid in thinking strangers/acquaintances/work colleagues/family of friends are as interested in their pregnancy as they are and in this case just they are being plain nasty.

Or maybe I'm the only person in the entire planet who didn't feel the need to make a big announcement, or bang on about my pregnancy to all and sundry about each week of my pregnancies.

Bizarre that this couple haven't shared their 'joy' with their own family.

They are allowed to be excited and happy - but I would certainly hope that I would of sensitively let you know, either before the meet up, to give you time to adjust, or to have waited until after. It was very insensitive to draw attention to your loss, as part of the announcement. They don't sound like great friends anyway- is she the partner of your partner's friend, rather than a true friend of yours? I don't think I would go out of my way to spend time with them or her in the future. If she is mean enough to be internally gloating, and not just highly insensitive, I'd be trying very hard to appear thoroughly delighted for them.