Boyfriend said my best friend is very pretty

[WildflowerWildfire]

I was talking to my boyfriend about one of my best friends being upset because of her weight and not wanting to start dating due to it. I said something along the lines of her doing her best to lose the weight, but that regardless, she has a really great personality and she’s very pretty. My boyfriend then quickly agreed, “when I saw her at … I did notice that she does have a very pretty face”. He’s only met her once. But Jesus. Great to know that he’s thinking about my friends being pretty when I introduce him. Aibu?

On second thought I think he considers her " safe" and that because she's apparently overweight, you're not at risk of thinking he fancies her. I think if he was attracted to her, he wouldn't have said anything. That's not to say overweight women aren't pretty I'm a bit overweight myself and have men fancying me, but it's not classed as conventional attractiveness and none of us know what she looks like.

Would your friend be ok with you chatting about her looks weight personal life feelings etc with your bloke?

Given it didn't sound like you've been together for ages. And he's only met her once.

I'd be really pissed off if I found out my personal insecurity, looks size etc had been a topic of conversation between a close friend and her (fairly new?) bloke that I'd only met once.

Why would you even be talking about this with someone who doesn't know her anyway? It wouldn't be very interesting for him surely.

He literally just agreed with a comment you had already made about your friend. You do realise that you can appreciate someone’s beauty or ‘prettiness’ without wanting to shag them, don’t you? You sound very insecure.

He just responded to the conversation you'd initiated.

If a woman posted on here that her boyfriend was angry because she agreed with him that his friend was handsome, I'd tell her to run for the hills.

You’re being absolutely ridiculous

Usually I'd just leave the thread with an eye roll. But I'm curious to see if it's a pisstake

FFS you were talking about your friend not having the confidence to date, so he said she pretty and should have confidence in herself. You’re being a shit friend and a cow for zero reason

Honestly, you sound deranged! If you hadn't guessed yabu.

You sound like a really bad friend.

I think you must be very young. I would have been like that when I was an adolescent.

Get. A. Grip.

My best friend is very pretty. I’d think my OH was blind or lying if he denied it. What’s the issue?

I see some red flags for him tbh. U seem very immature

@RedHelenB

People have eyes. There are a lot of men and women who are good looking that I notice. No slight on any partner.

I agree.

YABU and can bring this up at your next therapy session.

Well, there are a lot of pretty people around! I think you need to let this one go, he was being nice about your friend. It would have been awful if he'd have said that she was unattractive, she is your friend after all!

Firstly, you're not being a good friend at all. She doesn't need you pitying her and discussing her upset with your boyfriend. How cruel.
Secondly, he's done nothing but agree with you. Calm down. Maybe don't bitch about your friends looks behind their backs, then this wouldn't have happened 🤷🏻‍♀️

Also, you were not being a good friend telling your boyfriend that she was doing her best to lose weight.....talk about breaking the sister code of conduct. He probably thought you sounded bitchy and was putting you straight!

I’m sure your friend will be touched that you think she’s pretty for a fat girl

OP, I've read this thread and a couple of your others. I'm wondering if it's a good idea for you to be in a relationship right now? Maybe it would be a good idea for you to be alone for a while and get some counseling.

YABU and controlling.

It's not like he commented on her tits or said something pervy like that.