Boyfriend said my best friend is very pretty

[WildflowerWildfire]

I was talking to my boyfriend about one of my best friends being upset because of her weight and not wanting to start dating due to it. I said something along the lines of her doing her best to lose the weight, but that regardless, she has a really great personality and she’s very pretty. My boyfriend then quickly agreed, “when I saw her at … I did notice that she does have a very pretty face”. He’s only met her once. But Jesus. Great to know that he’s thinking about my friends being pretty when I introduce him. Aibu?

Yeah, I have EUPD too. You’re being nuts.

She's clearly pretty and he noticed like the sheer majority would have done. He was having a conversation with you and being honest. I don't see what he has done wrong. If he was sexualising her or leering or randomly bringing it up then that's different. But he was agreeing with you! It would have been weirder if you said she was pretty and he lied about thinking the same.

I’ve also got EUPD and it’s not an excuse to be possessive, jealous and insecure in relationships. YABU. You said yourself she was pretty and he agreed. What did you want him to say, no she’s an ugly cow? You don’t stop finding other people attractive just because you’re in a relationship. Are you having/have you had therapy? Taking your meds?

You sound so juvenile and utterly ridiculous. Just because he thinks someone has a pretty face, way he's going to run off into the sunset with her? He was being nice. I could never take offence to think. You should grow up a bit dear.

If this was me I'd be more annoyed if my partner didn't agree with me that she was pretty and be on the defence wanting to know why. I suppose it depends how much you trust your partner

Are you supposed to never find another male objectively speaking good looking?

@WildflowerWildfire

Wow. What lovely responses.

I’m not “very young” no. But I have EUPD which may skew my views on things. I just wanted opinions.

It helps not to drip feed things like that. For responses and for time saving...

Lots of people are pretty. It doesnt mean everybody wants to bang everybody they think is attractive.

You're going to be very drained very quickly if you let things like this bother you. I couldn't be bothered with it. You mentioned her weight and being pretty, he agreed, complete non-issue

Would you have liked him to say she was ugly? Nah, you’d be greetin aboot that too.

Get a grip!

I am happy with dp but I know which of his friends look good. Surely he's allowed to have an opinion on whether someone is pretty or not. He was also saying it in a kind way, agreeing with you and complimenting her. Unless you are the most beautiful woman on earth, your bf is going to see women that are prettier than you I'm afraid.

You sound very immature and petty.

Did you want your boyfriend to say your friend was a munter to give you a confidence boost? You say yourself your friend is pretty so I don’t understand why you’re so surprised at his response.

I’ve also got EUPD and it’s not an excuse to be possessive, jealous and insecure in relationships.

I completely agree.

He either thinks she’s pretty or he was agreeing with you to make you happy - neither of them are wrong.
If my partner was to call my friends ugly or be disrespectful about them then I would be mad, nor when they give them a compliment.

You come across as jealous and insecure. And like a 12 year old. YABU.

You set him up to fail.

Agrees she's pretty - you post on MN complaining he agrees she's pretty.
Disagrees & says she's unattractive - you're upset he's being unkind to your friend.

Was silence the desired reply?

Ok I won’t attack you, but your partner is allowed to think other women are pretty op just like you’re allowed to think other men are handsome, this doesn’t mean you wish to cheat or shag them, you’re both allowed to acknowledge these things and think them.

YABVU.

People have eyes. He isn't calling her sexy or saying he wants to sleep with her. You said she was pretty and he agreed! This may matter in a relationship where all involved are 16 but I cannot fathom it being an issue for adults.

Op I think this is on the same vein as your other posts, you want him to keep busy as you are concerned he will look at porn and wank.

I think it’s been recommended you get some help and this still stands.

I always notice pretty women as opposed to handsome men.
I'm not interested in either in a sexual way, but I find women more pleasing to the eye.

If she was a celebrity you wouldn't care if he thought she was pretty.
It's the same thing.
Nice to know he's complimentary of your friends OP instead of slagging them off.

Does your friend know you’re talking to your boyfriend about her insecurities and lack of confidence?

YABVU and a bitch to both your poor mate who probably doesn't want you to discuss her weight, looks and datug fears behind her back and your poor boyfriend who isn't allowed to platonically compliment your friends even in agreement with something you've already said.

Shallow isn't even the word...

*dating

You are being 1000% unreasonable. In fact absolutely ridiculous