Hello Calyx72
I am so sorry that you had that happen to you. My reply was not meant to be taken by anyone as the same response that I would give to everyone who had had similar happen to them. Your suffering was continued throughout your relationship, and in a much worse league to that of the OP (at the moment, and hopefully for ever), so had you asked for advice on your terrible predicament, my answer to you would have been very different.
I hate the "blame the victim" culture when I see it, and pps saying things to the OP such as "you should have woken him up straight away and made him clean it up then" I see as victim blaming. I do not see my answer as victim blaming, because with the information that OP gave us in her OP, I came to the unconcious conclusion - possibly erroneously - that the OP was not a 'victim', so it did not even cross my mind that I may be victim blaming. If I am wrong and it was victim blaming (which we may never know unless her bf admits to doing it on purpose), then my utmost apologies go firstly to the OP, and secondly to anyone else, including you Calyx, that my words may have upset - in fact if my words upset anyone anyway, including the OP, then they have my apologies, as that was not my intention.
Sorry OP, on reflection because of what Clayx72 replied to me, I see that my answer to you was on occassion indeed worded very ineptly eg when I said
"If you had reacted in a much more understanding manner..."
so I do definitely apologise for that. I should have said something like
"If when you were understandably sleepy, slightly inebriated, and most probably shocked as well, you had realised that he was not peeing in the corner of your room voluntarily, it may have been more appropriate for you to ask him gently to stop, explaining that he was not in the bathroom, and then for you to have guided him gently to the bathroom to make sure he had emptied his bladder completely. I am only suggesting this as having been a sleep walker when I was a child, my DM told me that you shouldn't wake up someone robustly when they are sleep walking".
My Mum may have been wrong, and that it doesn't in fact have any detrimental effects to do so, but when I replied to you OP, that is what I believed. So once again, I am sorry for any offense I caused.
One more thing that I forgot to say originalky OP, is that of course you are not wrong to end a relationship for any reason, if that is what you want to do. In fact I think that it is usually wrong to continue in a relationship if you don't love your partner, but my use of the word "usually" is because sometimes there are extenuating circumstances that make it prudent, or safer etc to do so. Sorry also for the (as is sadly usual) length of my response to - initially - Calyx72, and then extended to you too!
💐💐 one bunch each to both of you.