Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. A phone that grows with your child.

Meet the Other Phone.
A phone that grows with your child.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Original poster

AIBU to feed DH the same meal twice?

541 replies

KidsAreMean · 09/09/2021 06:33

DH won't eat the same meal twice in one week. I, personally think it's absolutely bonkers, but apparently MIL never did (I must verify this with her!) and he doesn't like it. Fine. I've got used to it. However, usually during the week, I cook for the DC and will e.g. make a double portion of lunch which we eat 2 days later.
This week I made a massive lasagne. Plan: Monday lunch, Wednesday lunch when DH is home office and then we'd finish the rest Thursday lunch. Except DH has now decided he's working from home today (as well as yesterday). I don't have any other food in apart from eggs which he doesn't like. Else I can make an emergency pasta & tomato sauce - which is basically same as the lasagne!
So AIBU to serve him the lasagne? I'd planned to do the weekly shop tomorrow, going today will inconvenience me next week (even though I'm a sahm).

OP posts:
Burnt0utMum · 09/09/2021 06:35

Don't serve him anything. If he doesn't like what you've provided he can make himself something else.

CloseYourEyesAndSee · 09/09/2021 06:35

Does he take no responsibility at all for feeding himself ever?? Can he not have a sandwich for lunch?
He sounds like a dictator

RobinPenguins · 09/09/2021 06:36

Is there a reason he can’t make his own lunch?

Dozer · 09/09/2021 06:37

YABU for pandering to an adult’s food whims! No need to consult MiL!

KatieKat88 · 09/09/2021 06:37

You're not his personal chef, how ridiculous!

Randommother · 09/09/2021 06:38

YABU to "serve" him anything. There's lasagne for lunch, he can heat some up if he wants it, or make himself something else!

CeeceeBloomingdale · 09/09/2021 06:38

I would serve what you planned and if he doesn't like it he can starve or go out and buy something. I would expect him to consider himself lucky he'd been offered lasagne. If he complained he would be wearing lasagne.

TrashKitten10 · 09/09/2021 06:38

How lucky he is to be WFH and have a lovely home cooked meal offered to him!

You're not going shopping, today's meal is lasagne. If DH can't possibly eat the same meal twice in a week Hmm he should go out in his lunch break and buy himself something. Please don't pander to this shite.

Catawaul · 09/09/2021 06:39

It's rather arbitrary that seven days must pass before lasagne passes his lips again.

HappyTimeTunnelDinosaur · 09/09/2021 06:39

Wow, did you use a time machine to meet him op? Sounds like he belongs in days gone by. He should just eat it and say thank you or he can go without!

BarbaraofSeville · 09/09/2021 06:40

Well he has a choice. Eat the lasagne, he makes something else or have nothing. His finicky behaviour is not your problem to solve.

FuckingFlumps · 09/09/2021 06:41

Why the fuck are you pandering to him over this and serving him lunch. He's a grown adult. If he doesn't want lasagna then he can sort his own lunch out.

Also tough shit if he doesn't want the same meal twice in a week. If he's that demanding and 'fussy' about the fact someone has take the time to cook for him then he would be making his own bloody dinner.

Bagelsandbrie · 09/09/2021 06:41

I’m the same as your dh and don’t like to eat the same thing more than once in a week BUT I wouldn’t dream of making someone else’s life difficult just because of my own fussiness. If he doesn’t like it he can make himself something else.

DontGiveAFlyingFig · 09/09/2021 06:41

YANBU, if he doesn't like it he can sort himself out.

HurryUpAndWait23 · 09/09/2021 06:42

Does he ever "serve" himself?!

Themostwonderfultimeoftheyear · 09/09/2021 06:42

Just tell him there is lasagne. If he doesn't fancy that then he will have to make himself something. Utterly ridiculous that he won't eat the same meal twice in one week.

readingismycardio · 09/09/2021 06:42

Or he can cook for himself and his family like any other grown up. you're not his personal chef!

Booknooks · 09/09/2021 06:42

He can get his own food ready if he doesn't like what you're doing, don't facilitate him being lazy.

FloconDeNeige · 09/09/2021 06:43

WTAF? Why the hell are you even concerning yourself with this? He’s an adult, if he doesn’t like what you’ve kindly already prepared, he can make his own food. Seriously! Unless you’re a SAHM and feel obligated to do this… in which case, get yourself back to work pronto!

girlmom21 · 09/09/2021 06:44

He can make his own lunch...

cravingmilkshake · 09/09/2021 06:44

He would hate our house..... spagbol for dinner tonight, leftovers for lunch today... always the case.

Food is good- you need to just tell him to make his own if he doesn't like it.

onelittlefrog · 09/09/2021 06:45

Gosh, did we just go back to the 1950's? Confused

Waspsarearseholes · 09/09/2021 06:46

Bloody hell, what is your life like that you're stressing out about 'serving' your husband lasagne for the second time in a week? Are you frightened of him, OP? I'm sorry that women still live like this.

TempleofZoom · 09/09/2021 06:47

@Dozer

YABU for pandering to an adult’s food whims! No need to consult MiL!
I voted yabu for the same reason. Also the word "feed" makes me shudder. Hes a grown man not a bird.
TeaAndStrumpets · 09/09/2021 06:47

Good grief. I often make extra food to save cooking the next day. Eg steamed salmon fillets and new potatoes hot with green veg one day, cold with salad the next. It's called planning ahead.

The expression "making a rod for your own back" springs to mind. Also, just because his mother did it, no need for you to do the same. You are not his mum!