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AIBU to feed DH the same meal twice?

541 replies

KidsAreMean · 09/09/2021 06:33

DH won't eat the same meal twice in one week. I, personally think it's absolutely bonkers, but apparently MIL never did (I must verify this with her!) and he doesn't like it. Fine. I've got used to it. However, usually during the week, I cook for the DC and will e.g. make a double portion of lunch which we eat 2 days later.
This week I made a massive lasagne. Plan: Monday lunch, Wednesday lunch when DH is home office and then we'd finish the rest Thursday lunch. Except DH has now decided he's working from home today (as well as yesterday). I don't have any other food in apart from eggs which he doesn't like. Else I can make an emergency pasta & tomato sauce - which is basically same as the lasagne!
So AIBU to serve him the lasagne? I'd planned to do the weekly shop tomorrow, going today will inconvenience me next week (even though I'm a sahm).

OP posts:
Sparklfairy · 09/09/2021 07:55

@MrsMaizel

TBH I wouldn't want to eat lasagna from the same batch three times in a week .
If I'd cooked it for you, you would or have beans on toast and told not to be fussy.
DancesWithTortoises · 09/09/2021 07:56

Why are you pandering to him. He doesn't like what you are going to serve?

He makes his own. You aren't a servant.

SeriouslyISuppose · 09/09/2021 07:56

Honestly, OP, get a job and leave him to make his own lunch.

Or did you not mention that he has no use of his arms?

ImprobablePuffin · 09/09/2021 07:57

Why on earth are you making his lunch in the first place? He's not one of your children. How often does he make your lunch?

leavesthataregreen · 09/09/2021 07:59

Is this a joke post from 1950s?

LazySundayPlease · 09/09/2021 08:00

Why doesn't he get his own lunch when he's WFH?

Are you a maid?

diddl · 09/09/2021 08:00

If there's a lunch ready he either eats it or shifts for himself.

None of us are keen on the same thing the next day or the day after (other than takeaway)

So it goes in the freezer.

MadeOfStarStuff · 09/09/2021 08:05

Stop pandering to a grown adult! He can have lasagne with you or he can sort himself out.

And I wouldn’t be pandering to his ridiculous rule, regardless of whether his mother actually did or not. If he wants to then he can do the meal planning, shopping, cooking and extra cleaning up for it.

PegasusReturns · 09/09/2021 08:05

I personally don’t like eating same thing more than once a week, but I’m also perfectly able to make my own meals so the problem doesn’t arise.

Disfordarkchocolate · 09/09/2021 08:08

He makes his own lunch and your problem is solved.

EwwSprouts · 09/09/2021 08:11

Leftover lasagne is a delicious lunch. Not eating the same thing twice is a dumb rule. Might be repetitive if it was the same meal twice a week every week but otherwise roll with it if you're not doing the cooking as with your DH.

I'm sure you can point him to himself make a jam sandwich.

EwwSprouts · 09/09/2021 08:12

make himself!

Livpool · 09/09/2021 08:12

Your husband is a pain in the arse and can do his own food!

My uncle lived with my Nan is whole life and even when she was in her 90s would make his pack lunch and tea. She wouldn't make him the same sandwich twice! So wasted lots of food.

My Nan died a couple of years ago and I have no doubt he doesn't do the same as her

Mrbob · 09/09/2021 08:13

Are you his servant?

HestersSamplerofCarrots · 09/09/2021 08:17

The only reason you’re being unreasonable is to ‘feed’ him and ‘serve’ him in the seeming manner of some sort of bloody handmaiden. Checking with your mother in law?! Good grief.

He eats what you make, makes his own, or starves.

And if he moans…… well……..

ArrrMeHearties · 09/09/2021 08:17

Hes big enough to make something for his own lunch/dinner if he doesn't like what's being served

2mumlife · 09/09/2021 08:22

What utter nonsence. He can make his own damn meals.

Derbee · 09/09/2021 08:22

If he doesn’t want to eat the lasagne, there’s always somewhere he could stick it.

I can’t believe anyone panders to anyone else like this. Tell him to suck it up, or make his own bloody lunch. Preferably make his own lunch, because why the hell are you making his bloody lunch?! Crazy

Iputthetrampintrampoline · 09/09/2021 08:23

I admit I do not do the same meal twice but then again I don;t do left overs either. I tried once to do this and chucked the left overs in the freezer and then forgot they were there so they ended up in the bin anyway! But I agree with everyone else I would not be getting dhs lunch either. If I was home and making lunch I might stick my head round the door and say do you want a sandwich ?etc if he said yes please i would love one fine but if he decided he wanted something else then off you go pal get on with it. My mothers and grandmothers generation were look after the hunter gatherers and stop everything for the man of the house..I dont think that way I think we are equal and i would expect the same from him if it was reversed.

FibroidFanny · 09/09/2021 08:24

@Burnt0utMum

Don't serve him anything. If he doesn't like what you've provided he can make himself something else.
This with bells on
toomuchlaundry · 09/09/2021 08:25

@Iputthetrampintrampoline do you end up throwing leftovers away or always cook just enough for one meal?

Kazplus2 · 09/09/2021 08:26

Send him down to Gregg's / Tesco for a meal deal 😁! Cheeky sod shld sort his own lunch!

TatianaBis · 09/09/2021 08:28

@Iputthetrampintrampoline

I don;t do left overs either.

What do you mean by this?

thelionqwueen · 09/09/2021 08:30

Do you seriously even need to ask this..

Just10moreminutesplease · 09/09/2021 08:30

Surely he either eats what you offer or sorts himself out?

Presumably he knows where the kitchen/local shop is?