AIBU to feed DH the same meal twice?

[KidsAreMean]

DH won't eat the same meal twice in one week. I, personally think it's absolutely bonkers, but apparently MIL never did (I must verify this with her!) and he doesn't like it. Fine. I've got used to it. However, usually during the week, I cook for the DC and will e.g. make a double portion of lunch which we eat 2 days later.
This week I made a massive lasagne. Plan: Monday lunch, Wednesday lunch when DH is home office and then we'd finish the rest Thursday lunch. Except DH has now decided he's working from home today (as well as yesterday). I don't have any other food in apart from eggs which he doesn't like. Else I can make an emergency pasta & tomato sauce - which is basically same as the lasagne!
So AIBU to serve him the lasagne? I'd planned to do the weekly shop tomorrow, going today will inconvenience me next week (even though I'm a sahm).

Funny thread. My husband doesn't cook but does all the laundry. If I am working away our dc will cook as he works 14 hours. When i told him not rely on her because she was a female he said he wasn't, it was about being nearly 60, tired and not sitting on his arse all day unlike dc! Fair point. However if he objected to the same lasagne/curry etc I agree he would be wearing it! 😂

If he was in the office would he sort his own lunch? If so he can do it whilst home, eat what you offer or starve. But tbh you aren’t his mother and if you cook he should really just smile and say thank you.

In future, do bulk chilli mince and serve:
Monday with jacket potato
Tuesday with Doritos
Wednesday with mash as cottage pie
Thursday with dumplings
Friday with pasta.
What a spoilt baby!

Frankly, if the alternative is those posters whose families do this doing all the cooking themselves, a flat share-type arrangement sounds perfectly reasonable to me. And presumably if everyone does their own cooking, everyone does their own washing up, so the amount is irrelevant..?
That really isn't the only alternative. I'm a SAHM, I cook most of the meals. He eats what I cook. He cooks a few nights, I eat it. Lunches depends but someone will cook something or two different things and thus cook for the other

Why are you catering to this adult child?

@SleepingStandingUp

Frankly, if the alternative is those posters whose families do this doing all the cooking themselves, a flat share-type arrangement sounds perfectly reasonable to me. And presumably if everyone does their own cooking, everyone does their own washing up, so the amount is irrelevant..? That really isn't the only alternative. I'm a SAHM, I cook most of the meals. He eats what I cook. He cooks a few nights, I eat it. Lunches depends but someone will cook something or two different things and thus cook for the other

But that’s in your house.what I’m saying is that the other people in that poster’s house may not be prepared to cook for everyone, so the options are either every man for himself or the OP does it all, and she may understandably think it’s the lesser of two evils.

Tell him to make his own lunch. He’s a grown man not a child!

Caoilinsmum1 Sun 12-Sep
Tell him to make his own lunch. He’s a grown man not a child!

Does a grown man need to be told to make himself lunch?
Surely he can work that out himself?

I our house (3 adults) everyone gets their own breakfast and lunch. We share cooking evening meals. If he grumbles about having perfectly good home cooled food twice close together, which really is not something to be grumbling about at all in any case, I'd tell him to make his own lunch, especially as it's him that changed the arrangement for the week to make this an issue. Can't he find his way to the fridge and make himself a sandwich or what?
If you aren't doing a job, it's unreasonable to tell someone who is doing it how to do it, unless what they're doing is itself unreasonable, which is not the case here.

@Catawaul

It's rather arbitrary that seven days must pass before lasagne passes his lips again.

🤣

We've had two portions of spag bol this week 😱

@cravingmilkshake

We've had two portions of spag bol this week 😱

I think you broke the eleventh commandment.

(But probably only if you ‘fed’ it to your helpless husband while he was presumably trapped under something heavy that prevented him cooking.)

this sounds like my house where he thinks its the 1950s ,the list of foods he now doesn't wish to have is too long the other day it was part baked rolls its annoying & also hilarious to me now as i think twat

Sounds like he’s a zoo animal - “feeding time!”

Tell him to phone for a takeaway. Fish n chips, Chinese, indian, whatever? You're not running a restaurant ffs!

You aren't his personal chef. Serve what you decide and if he doesn't want it he makes himself something else.

I'll warn you now OP. I've had 11 years of "re-educating" my DH from the idiotic chauvinist ideals he had drilled in to him by his parents.

When we first met he expected 3 square meals a day, every day, prepared by my fair hand. No eating when you're hungry or making food for yourself. The WOMAN of the house was to take care of her man's every whim.

I was expected to do all cooking, washing and cleaning. As well as holding down a full time job and raising the kids.

He first realised this wasn't normal when I very angrily pointed it out and a huge argument ensued whereby I told him I was off unless he sorted himself out.

I still have to bollock him every 6 months just to serve as a reminder