AIBU to feed DH the same meal twice?

[KidsAreMean]

DH won't eat the same meal twice in one week. I, personally think it's absolutely bonkers, but apparently MIL never did (I must verify this with her!) and he doesn't like it. Fine. I've got used to it. However, usually during the week, I cook for the DC and will e.g. make a double portion of lunch which we eat 2 days later.
This week I made a massive lasagne. Plan: Monday lunch, Wednesday lunch when DH is home office and then we'd finish the rest Thursday lunch. Except DH has now decided he's working from home today (as well as yesterday). I don't have any other food in apart from eggs which he doesn't like. Else I can make an emergency pasta & tomato sauce - which is basically same as the lasagne!
So AIBU to serve him the lasagne? I'd planned to do the weekly shop tomorrow, going today will inconvenience me next week (even though I'm a sahm).

I've never cooked for my Dh ! His an adult more than capable

Do you both cook your own meals or does he do all the cooking?

@RampantIvy

I've never cooked for my Dh ! His an adult more than capable

Do you both cook your own meals or does he do all the cooking?

Everybody cooks for themselves

It depends on the salary he pays you to be his personal chef.

I don't mind eating the same meal twice as in left overs the next day. DH does. I eat mine and freeze his or more often I don't make/plan enough for leftovers for what they eat (I am a veggie and dh and the kids are not plus my job means I eat at different times in the week fairly often).

I am happy to cater for this preference as it reduces food waste and it's an easy way to make him happy which I like to do. If it wasn't convenient - so in your example where the kids wanted something which wouldn't freeze, he'd sort himself out.

I am finding myself increasingly baffled by some responses on mn though. My dh can be an arsehole and sometimes I tell him and sometimes I rise above it or put up with stuff. Because sometimes I am an arsehole and he does the same.

You are acting like his mother. Stop with the pandering. He is a grown adult not a toddler. Sheesh.

If he doesn't like it, tough. He can make it himself. You're a SAHM for your children, you're not a mother to him.

For real, sounds like a right control freak. Tell to sort his own food out. My DW would paste me all over if I said that to her!!

Does your DH know what year this is? You may be a SAHM but you are his wife not his nanny! Tell him he can make himself a sandwich if he isn’t happy!

If you're all at home at a meal time, don't you all eat together?

Not if one of the family members is a man child.

Everybody cooks for themselves so do you cook dinner simultaneously to eat together or eat apart? If you have different schedules or massively different dietary needs fair enough but there's something quite flatmate about cooking different but interchangeable meals next to each other. Do you have your own food labeled in the fridge?

My BIL once said something to me when I told him about exH constant criticism of what I did. He said just tell him to do it himself if he doesn't like what you do. It was my lightbulb moment but really stating the bleeding obvious. So easy to get sucked into someone else's unreasonable demands and not kick back.

@SleepingStandingUp

Everybody cooks for themselves so do you cook dinner simultaneously to eat together or eat apart? If you have different schedules or massively different dietary needs fair enough but there's something quite flatmate about cooking different but interchangeable meals next to each other. Do you have your own food labeled in the fridge?

Sounds like a student flatshare. All that washing up.

What his mum did is irrelevant? Why do grown women think they need to replicate the behaviour of a grown mans parent. She could have cooked 5* menu every night but it’s not relevant. just for a moment think about how mad it is to say “my mummy used to”, your husband sounds like an absolute prick

Very rarely do we not eat at least one meal twice in a week. Pad the quantities out, get two meals. Win.

The kids are used to this and are actually thrilled when they get to have something they've just demolished again.

If he wants a bespoke menu, he can hire a chef.

My hubby makes all tje meals, including my lunch box. I'm grateful, I wouldn't dream of complaining! 😁 😂 I sometimes have a choice of two or three things, but if something came up twice in a week, doesn't things warmed up sometimes taste better! 😁 I just think you should act like an equal, not his mother! Just serve it up and say NOTHING!!! 😁

Dear God woman!

I must admit I'm a bit confused at all the let him get his own lunches when he's working from home.

Why are you confused by these responses, if he can’t stomach eating the same meal twice I a week then he can sort his own bloody lunch and eat it at the same time as you. Funny how you hint that MIL might have been responsible for this nonsense, yet you have been following suit.

@SleepingStandingUp

Everybody cooks for themselves so do you cook dinner simultaneously to eat together or eat apart? If you have different schedules or massively different dietary needs fair enough but there's something quite flatmate about cooking different but interchangeable meals next to each other. Do you have your own food labeled in the fridge?

Frankly, if the alternative is those posters whose families do this doing all the cooking themselves, a flat share-type arrangement sounds perfectly reasonable to me. And presumably if everyone does their own cooking, everyone does their own washing up, so the amount is irrelevant..?

What the actual fuck?

YA VVV NBU!

Your husband is a relic of times gone by. If he is of average intelligence then he would not be asking this from you.
So now you have an option: either stick to your guns and let him cook something for himself or you go to the trouble of cooking yet another meal for one person.
Personally, I find his behaviour bizarre.

Also: set an example for your children on how to act as grown-ups, for both boys and girls.

Send this manchild home to his mum, where he belongs!

I’ve never heard of anyone making double and then eating it twice in the week for every meal. Eating the same thing mon/Wed and then ties/thurs is very repetitive and U would hate that. There are too many nice things in the world to eat without eating the same meal all the time and to then have it a third time in a week, I’d be very out off. If DH works and you are SAHM then part of your role is cooking and as such you should take into consideration your DH requirements.

I’m all for making extra and will often freeze some for another day or as .I have 4 hungry teenagers I nearly always make extra fir our evening meal and it will just disappear for lunches, snacks, suppers over the next few days, but to serve up an identical meal every week is very grim.

If you are trying to save cooking, can’t you make two different meals at once and then reheat one the following day so that you are being more efficient. More example I might make a lasagne and a shepherds pie and then reheat one. I’m afraid you are being lazy.

@Summerbreeze4

I’ve never heard of anyone making double and then eating it twice in the week for every meal. Eating the same thing mon/Wed and then ties/thurs is very repetitive and U would hate that. There are too many nice things in the world to eat without eating the same meal all the time and to then have it a third time in a week, I’d be very out off. If DH works and you are SAHM then part of your role is cooking and as such you should take into consideration your DH requirements.

I’m all for making extra and will often freeze some for another day or as .I have 4 hungry teenagers I nearly always make extra fir our evening meal and it will just disappear for lunches, snacks, suppers over the next few days, but to serve up an identical meal every week is very grim.

If you are trying to save cooking, can’t you make two different meals at once and then reheat one the following day so that you are being more efficient. More example I might make a lasagne and a shepherds pie and then reheat one. I’m afraid you are being lazy.

The 1950s are calling.

I like variety but sometimes we have leftovers. I cant imagine what's "grim" about having the same food more than once in a week.
I was actually a bit disappointed our guests ate some leftovers last weekend because I was hoping there would be another meal out of that and I wouldnt have to think of or cook a meal the next day - if that makes me lazy I can live with it.

SummerBreeze4 Sorry, but good grief this made me laugh. Are you serious or having a little joke?

If you're being serious, honestly, you sound very 'surrendered' with talk of your DH's "requirements" and what constitutes "grim" and "lazy". As long as you're genuinely happy with your set up, crack on I suppose, but it's a pretty unusual standard to hold everyone else to!