@Bollindger
"Strange how you can be sacked for lateness, almost like people who pay for your time think being late is a problem."
Yes, amazing isn't it. Probably means you spend all your life surrounded by people who have no trouble at all being very punctual, because those that aren't have left jobs like that, the same way they've already been pushed out of your social group, as well as that of @Elphame @GreyhoundG1rl @DottyHarmer @Kanaloa @Backwaterjunction and all the other posters who don't have the brain chemistry themselves to accept that other people might be different from themselves!
Yes, there are absolutely jobs where turning up at an exact time is critical. Lots of them. You probably have one, since it's your superskill. You probably think it's a doddle.
Those of us who really struggle with time, have worked quite hard to find alternative strategies, jobs where the focus is on the task, not the minute of the day it is done. Many work flexitime. Many are self-employed. Many are still a nightmare to get to key events and meetings on time, but put support networks and strategies around themselves to ensure they get there (thanks @snog, you've listened to the explanations with empathy, understood the different science of different brains, and changed your POV - you would be a massive asset if I ever had the pleasure of working with you!)
Those of us who struggle to do 9 on the dot are often the ones who will work long AFTER contracted hours. Partly because hyperfocus, partly because new challenges are what keep us motivated, partly because we value jobs where we are appreciated for what we bring - and need to hang onto them like golddust, because god only knows, we'd never want to work for a boss like any of you!
You've all been completely right that we are incompatible - I'd have no interest in wooing any of you as a friend, or trying to climb up the ladder into your team at work (except you, snog). That doesn't mean I don't TRY to be on time. It doesn't mean I don't VALUE being on time. That doesn't mean I don't recognise the UK societal IMPORTANCE of being on time. It just means that screaming "WELL JUST TRY HARDER" at me won't make any difference.
As @dmifflin says, I am fortunate to be bright enough to make a path where I can find jobs with flexitime. Women with ADD who aren't do often quickly lose their jobs. You will often find them populating red light districts, dealers' corners and prisons. They are risk takers but can't put the skills together to hold down a high functioning risk taking job (they might make excellent stockbrokers, if they had the academics though!).
I don't mind agreeing to disagree and parting ways because you can't tolerate my timekeeping, but please don't just keep banging away that everyone should be JUST. LIKE. YOU. Around 10% of the population aren't and we just have to work around it. Please accept that. It is medically factual, visible on brain scans, and hard to strategise out of - even with a lot of medical help.
So 'dump us' as friends, by all means. Sack us so we can find a job where our talents outweigh which minute we arrive.
But don't tell us we're not trying hard enough, just need to do what you do to 'fix' our brains, or do this on purpose because we're rude. We are all already trying harder than you can possibly imagine just to get by alongside 'normal' people.