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AIBU?

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Is this CF’ery or am I just a mean spirited old grump.

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Missymisenthrope · 05/09/2021 12:28

I’ve lost perspective on this so am hoping you’ll all put me straight. I live on a street that leads down to a train station and is close to town so residents require parking permits. We can also pay extra (£12 per year) for a visitors permit. My next door neighbours moved in about seven years ago and since then they have borrowed my visitors permit EVERY single time they have visitors, which is most weekends. I live alone and they are a family with small children, they get a lot more visitors than me. I’ve made the odd comment about getting their own permit but they always laugh it off with things like ‘oh I know, we’re terrible with admin’ etc. I know for a fact it’s not a question of money for them, I think they just can’t be bothered when they can use mine all the time. Incidentally, they very often knock the door for me to ‘lend’ them milk/sugar/store cupboard ingredients. It’s really getting to the point where I feel like refusing to lend it to them anymore because I feel resentful about it. Is that silly?
My question is, AIBU to feel this is cheeky or am I just being a mean spirited cow? If I’m not using it what’s the problem etc.

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mizzmelli123 · 10/09/2021 00:44

Just say NO!!! Sorry but i may need it in the future. Dont lie and say you have relatives or guests. I once let the lad next door leave his broken down car in my driveway. when I went round his Mum said well we dont want it on ours!! Nearly 18 months its when I threatened to get it towed they did something about it!!

CharityDingle · 10/09/2021 00:54

@mizzmelli123

Just say NO!!! Sorry but i may need it in the future. Dont lie and say you have relatives or guests. I once let the lad next door leave his broken down car in my driveway. when I went round his Mum said well we dont want it on ours!! Nearly 18 months its when I threatened to get it towed they did something about it!!
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SingingSands · 10/09/2021 13:15

I've just read the entire thread. Marvellous. Your assertive neighbour sounds like he may have sorted them right out!

My old neighbours were exactly like yours - outright CFs who begged and borrowed off everyone. They moved away in November and the relief of not having them around this year has been immense!

Bard6817 · 11/09/2021 18:46

a. Tell them you thought ul they still had it…. They will deny, you don’t know where it is..

b. Next time, no idea where it is.

c. Not asked for replacement yet.

d. Not asked for replacement, not sure you are going to bother, as you barely use it.

e. Sorry, but after the last one was lost, you don’t want to lend it out and risk losing it again.

Trudij123 · 11/09/2021 19:25

Any updates @Missymisenthrope? Have they been back since you said no ( and totally ruined their lives? Wink )

SodDiamondsPasstheVodka · 12/09/2021 05:43

@Missymisenthrope
First of all what a fabulous and uplifting thread I'm so proud of you. As a bit of a people pleaser myself, I feel your pain - you did awesomely.

And secondly, as several people have said you really brought the various players to life in such a clear way. Please consider a career as a writer and let us all know when your first book is out, I'd definitely buy it.

Well done MM

BlackAmericanoNoSugar · 13/09/2021 11:31

Next time they knock tell them that you've sold your visitor's pass to a commuter. Grin

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