DD refusing to wear sanitary products

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DD is 12, she’s on her third period and refuses to wear sanitary pads. She says they are uncomfortable. I help her put one on and ensure she has spares etc but then she goes to the bathroom and removes it. She’s possibly got sensory issues too. She has stained my car seat and the carpet due to this. Anyone else had this problem? How did you overcome it?

Period pants, you can even get them from primark now.

Her flow must be very light that it doesn't go through her clothes?

Would she wear period pants? They get a list of good press on here.

I would say make her clean up after herself and buy period pants. It’s an unusual and confrontational attitude is she comfortable with becoming an adult? Does she clean herself in other ways (eg wash her body? Hair? Clean her teeth?)

Deffo modibodi period pants. Ideal for girls with sensory issues I'd imagine.

@wizzywig it obviously is if she is staining things.

Another vote for period pants.

I went straight to tampons at 12 as could not tolerate pads. I preferred applicator ones. Now use period pants and tampons

Sanitary pads aren’t working for her, there’s other products available. Might be worth looking into period pants. You can try some from the supermarket or get some from M&S quickly enough.

Period pants are a good idea

Period pants are a good shout.

I also went straight to tampons as pads rubbed my inner thighs raw, irritation can also be caused by fragrance and I think it was combination of this and the plastic wings rubbing

Another saying period pants. My daughter says they're more comfortable than normal pants.

Well JINX the lot of you

The only time I've ever worn pads were for my period and postpartum - I hate them! Like a previous poster, I went straight to tampons. Period pants are also a really good suggestion especially for a teen who may not want to try a tampon just yet.

By my 3rd period age just 13 I had switched to applicator tampons as I hated pads.try a few options - tampons, a moon cup, period pants.

I just bought my first pair of period pants so I'm familiar with them as DD may start soon and they are brill.
Obviously still the hygiene aspect of changing them, storing them before they make it into the washing machine and showering but I bet they will help loads. Yes it's an outlay initially but I'm sure they will payback...
Maybe just try one of a style before going all in on a brand as there seems to be a lot of variation in cut and absorbency.

Have you asked her what products she wants to try? Tampons? Moon cup? Period pants?

I expect a further 79 people will suggest period pants

Reusable pads might also be an alternative - they don’t have the plasticky feel of disposables so she may find them more comfortable to wear.

The lighter period pants really are as comfy as comfy pants imo. The more absorbent ones maybe less so. I use only period pants now. Modibodi are my favourites.

Would she prefer a tampon or moon cup or period pants? What else has she tried?

I'd give her tampax however I'd have died if my mum had attempted to "help me put one on" I really don't think it needs more than an explanation of how they work.

Another shout out for period pants. So much more comfortable, I'm never going back.

Tampons, reusable cloth pads, or period pants.

What's she doing about school? Usually your worst nightmare, especially at that age, is bleeding through your clothes and people knowing you're "on". Are her sensory concerns overriding this?

If she doesn't like the idea of period pants reusable washable pads could be an option. If I needed pads still this is what I would buy/make.

Ditto. My mum never helped me put on a sanitary towel

@wizzywig

Her flow must be very light that it doesn't go through her clothes?

But OP has said it has? What an odd comment