AIBU to not want child to travel in boot

[Mugglebuggle]

Arranging to go for lunch/ dinner tomorrow, DH wants youngest DC to travel in the boot so we only need one car. Other option would be he, or another guest, drives a second car but would mean they cannot drink. We are going to country pub on B roads, approximately 15 - 20 minute drive. AIBU to be annoyed?

For further info, we both worked all through pandemic, booked 2 weeks annual leave and I caught covid at start, it's been pretty miserable & this would be first 'nice' social outing since and before we return to work next week bit I still don't think it's worth compromising safety.

Has he beamed in straight from the 1970s?

This can't be serious!? If my husband EVER suggested this he'd be out on his ear for good!

2 trips there and then taxi back for the drinker.

We had a van with no seats in the back & very occasionally it would have been useful to carry an extra, unrestrained person. However, we're not stupid, so we knew what the penalty is for this is & it's loads of points & a big fine.

We now have a van with more seats...

It's illegal because it's fucking dangerous.

Just get a taxi ffs if everyone is so desperate to drink

@WhatsAppening

Erm it’s not 1986 anymore so no.

I used to go in the boot, or a footwell behind the front seats. It was 80s/90s, and there were LOADS of us!

My 'D'H wouldn't be my H anymore if he thought it was acceptable to have a child travel in the boot of a car.

You do know it isn't legal to have a child not correctly seated?

No, having a tough year and wanting to get pissed is not a good reason for trying to illegally prune the family tree.

I miss travelling in the boot I used to love it, and that was in the early nineties!

But no, YANBU.

@Mugglebuggle Op, if you had no intention of doing it, you wouldn't have added the context of the tough year etc etc

@icedcoffees

I miss travelling in the boot I used to love it, and that was in the early nineties!

But no, YANBU.

My Dad used to deliver bundles of newspapers as a second job in the middle of the night. He occasionally let me sit in the back of the van! I loved it! I used to make an 'armchair' out of the bundles! Mum still hasn't forgiven him and he's been dead over a decade!

@TheVolturi

My parents used to make me travel in the back of a van, but that was the 80s, no idea if it was normal then, but we used to go on holiday and me and my sister would be in the back of the van on cushions. I would not allow my child to travel like this!

It was acceptable in the 80s🤪

Dh should go in the boot!

I don’t think it was illegal in the 1980s, but DID have a boy in my form at school who was killed whilst travelling in the boot of a car which crashed on the motorway ☹️. I would never put my own child in that situation.

Fuck me!

I'm in my 50s, grew up with no belts in the back while my dad chain smoked in the front. Ok we didn't come to any harm but I wouldn't recommend it. And i wouldn't recommend putting your kids in the boot.

Confused by the non sequitur regarding working through the pandemic and getting Covid during your annual leave. For further info, I like chips and my favourite colour is orange...

@FTEngineerM

Love how you’re selling the idea because you’ve had a rough year 😂

I'm not selling it, DH's excuse is that he's had shit fortnight off because I've had covid...which funnily enough, has been pretty shit for me.

I don't drink therefore am always designated driver. Just to clarify, I wouldn't put my children in danger by drinking or by putting them in the boot. I am currently fuming in another room considering how bloody reckless & selfish he is but just wondered if anyone would think IABU.
I think I can sleep safely knowing I have not overreacted & not feel bad when he will be going out without me or DC tomorrow.

We did this all the time in the 80s. We had some sort of estate car so we would sit upright. We wouldnt be enclosed or anything and cling onto the back of the seat

Totally illegal now. Normal back then

Its only 15 mins away, hire a bloody minibus

Imagine if a car hit the back of your car! You know they're designed to crumple? With your child inside??

WTF?!

@TriciaMcMillan

Confused by the non sequitur regarding working through the pandemic and getting Covid during your annual leave. For further info, I like chips and my favourite colour is orange...

I realise it has little to do with overall AIBU but giving some of his rationale.

Thanks for adding a personal touch to your response though, I get to see a glimmer of the person beyond the condescending post.

In the early 90s, my dad bundled 4 of us across the backseat, youngest on someones lap and windows up while the adults in the front smoked up a storm. Any attempt by us to open the windows to give us some air was met with being shouted at. Sometimes, as a treat, we travelled in the back of his pick up truck, unrestrained. Once my brother fell out of it because we were dicking around and moving about the back. (luckily on a residential road so travelling very slowly). My dad gave him a bollocking for messing around....
I'm glad people have a less relaxed attitude to H+S and passive smoking these days.