Letchy fucking men

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I don’t think IABU but I’m due on so might be over reacting.

I wore shorts today because it’s warm here, not proper short, shorts, probably two or three inches above the knee, I walked somewhere - about 3 mile round trip. I’m just fed up of letchy men, I can ignore staring, and someone smiling and saying hello is friendly and nice but people slowing down to comment or make the sort of noise you make to call an animal. What the fuck is wrong with them. I felt genuinely intimidated at one point and I’m a nigh on 50year old grandmother, I changed my intended route on the way back because I felt too scared to walk along a footpath. I hate to think how teenage girls feel and what their experience is.

Perhaps naively I thought the world had moved on.

There are other things that men can do.

Say something if friends workmates colleagues say something. They never do.

I have been in multiple situations where after the event a man who was there comes to tell me how out of order he thought it was.

In a club or bar report to staff.

If a girl getting hassled at bus stop. Look pointedly at him. Let him know he's been clocked. That will stop a lot of them. Women looking pointedly won't.

Saying are you ok to a woman or girl or just as you walk past saying that was awful. Let's them know that it's not just everyone looking the other way. No need to stop and chat. Just acknowledge that you think it's wrong. Means a lot.

Loads of stuff. It's not all about fronting up to scary men which is how it's usually taken. Although the fact that scary men get aggressive with women and girls if they are not treated with kids gloves while sexually harassing seems to be not nearly such an issue.

If girl is young and shaken say look I can call your mum. If you like.

A man once verbally abused me and threatened me on street when I was v Pg and I was totally freaked out (had peri natal anxiety). I called DH and said come get me. Irrationally I couldn't bring myself to walk the way I needed to as he'd gone into a house there.

Both men and women stopped to ask if I was ok. I appreciated that as much as I could at the time.

I didn't think the men were dangerous. they were kind.

All of this no no what can I do and why should I stuff. So it's down to women and girls to try and sort it well guess what we've been trying for years. So I suppose we just keep at it and men carry on ignoring us and saying oh well. It can't be that common. It can't be that bad. Blah blah.

Just. Well it kind of just makes it worse in a way. That so many think huh that's not fair. I feel unfairly accused!

If not call mum then. Look why not go into the shop and call someone. Do you want me to walk on other side of road. I mean. Anything. If a girl is distressed after an incident.

Or if you see a woman have a man shout from a car that he wants to xyz. Sorry I saw that it was terrible hope you ok. On way past. Is better than nothing.

It's ignored. All the time. We have to deal with it isolated. As best we can.

@LittlePudding1

This happened when I was out with my 14 year old daughter, a man took it upon himself to comment to my daughter something along the lines of, I can see where you get your looks from! Obviously expecting us to laugh and be grateful for his "compliment" My daughter replied with, I'm 14 you pedo! It was a proud moment for me when he turned bright red and scuttled off. Hopefully it will deter him in future but sadly probably not

Well done your daughter! I was a similar age when an older man tried to grab me and drag me off to god knows where. I kicked him in the shins and he scuttled off. To this day I consider this my finest moment.