@BillMasen
Bill, you are either part of the problem or part of the solution. Which one is it ?
You can choose to be part of the solution by calling it out every single time. Each time you see a man make a comment / gesture / look, say something to him. Let him know that it’s pathetic / not cool/ inappropriate / pervy / creepy.
Now, no doubt you are you are going to tell me that you can’t because it always happens when there are 10 scary huge lads in their 20s down a dark alley and you are just one tiny middle aged bloke.
But that’s not true. We KNOW thats not true. We are women and we know it happens ALL THE TIME.
So there are plenty chances for you to speak out. When the server in costa leers at the previous customer and gives you a conspiratorial wink, say something.
When your work colleague says “ Ill speak to Sophie in accounts, have you seen the jugs on that one “ , say something.
When your boss says “ Let’s get Alison to do the minutes/ make the tea - thats a woman’s job”, say something.
When your brother says “ Emma’s in a bad mood with me today, it must be her period har har har“ , say something.
If you don’t speak out , you are condoning it and you are part of the problem.
Looking sheepishly at the floor or smiling weakly is being part of the problem.
Not speaking out because you don’t want to look like a bore/ uncool is being part of the problem.
If all the decent men spoke out EVERY SINGLE TIME we could make women and girls lives better by, I dunno, Christmas. Certainly next year.
But they wont, because they don't care . They prefer to wring their hands and shrug their shoulders.
Be part of the change Bill.