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Fed up with neighbours

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Homeontherangeuk · 27/08/2021 15:14

Bit of a back story, we live in a new development... Here 6 years, we signed a clause to say we wouldn't change door colour, fence height etc... However neighbour has raised the shared boundary fence to 2.5m (terrace house) & its so ugly.. We told them we hate it & they flipped.. We told them its too high, werw told fuck off, now anytime we try to use our garden they play banging house music... Today they put the speakers on full blast & have gone out for the day.. Beautiful day but my kids can't enjoy the sun... I'm at my wits end, hubby is sick of the childish antics.... Last night I was sitting out reading my book quietly with a glass of wine, at 10 ó clock I was drenched by a hose over the fence... They claimed it was their 2 year old when hubby rang in a fit.. No way would a 2 year old have the motor skills to control a hose, drench me, our patio & proceed to drench the clothes line... Bawling here, our dream home is turning into a nightmare... What can we do? They have blocked us from messaging, hung up on DH, blank us... Our home is in such an ideal location, we don't want to or aren't in the position to sell...
No cctv so can't prove who drenched me... DH was working last night, I felt very shaken & worried afterwards but held my ground & stayed out listening to them bitching about us... Before the fence we had a great relationship with them.... I regret saying anything now...

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Homeontherangeuk · 27/08/2021 15:21

Anyone advice please? So so upset here....

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StrongTea · 27/08/2021 15:21

They sound horrible people. Seems a nightmare situation.

MsChatterbox · 27/08/2021 15:23

How awful. No advice hopefully someone comes along with some.

bagelsandoranges · 27/08/2021 15:24

This is actually a police matter - they are harassing you. Trust me, police will deal with it. I have witnessed neighbourly incidents escalate (from one side only - it was malicious) and it's not council related when it gets to this level of intimidation. At the very least, report as anti social behaviour. Best thing to do with these types of awful people is to shine a light right on it. Nothing works better. Be strong.

FleasInMyKnees · 27/08/2021 15:24

You can contact the police if they are harrassing you. You need to install cctv and record the noise and the hose. Dont ring them again.

Hmmph · 27/08/2021 15:25

I really feel for you- what a nightmare situation.

Having had our own awful neighbours, I am afraid my only advice it leave. We sold our house for much less than it was worth to escape, but it was worth it to escape them and the effect they were having on our family and our well-being.

FleasInMyKnees · 27/08/2021 15:26

Whoever you signed the fence clause with needs to deal with the fence issue.

Carboncheque · 27/08/2021 15:26

Do they own the property?

GOODCAT · 27/08/2021 15:27

Speak to your council nouse team and log the anti social behaviour with the police. Keep a record of it with dates. Alternatively if you want to move in the near future don't do that as you will have to declare the dispute when you move and just move.

I would be looking to move.

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Homeontherangeuk · 27/08/2021 15:29

We are both homeowners... Never had any issues before 😢 so upset, hubby & I hate confrontation & it's putting a terrible strain on our relationship...

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Homeontherangeuk · 27/08/2021 15:31

Our house deeds are buried in the attic so I need to dig out to see the boundary... However it is above the 2.5m... They did it as they want "privacy" ...they will flip at the cctv...

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Ispini · 27/08/2021 15:31

Absolutely record everything. Put 10 CCTVs on the front of your house, leave them under no illusions that they are being recorded.than olive big
Time! What bastards, so sorry you are having to live with this. X 💐💐

FleasInMyKnees · 27/08/2021 15:32

By saying their 2 yo used the hose they admit it was their family. You cant reason with idiots so let the police deal with this.

HasselbackForLife · 27/08/2021 15:33

It's so upsetting to live somewhere where you don't get on with the neighbours. It can be so stressful. We had some terrible neighbours next to our old house and I was on edge everything I was in the garden. I know this may not be what you want to hear but the best thing we did was move house. Our new neighbours are lovely and were much happier. Wishing you luck

HasselbackForLife · 27/08/2021 15:34

*every time

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Homeontherangeuk · 27/08/2021 15:35

We got our garden done last year & she text me really nicely to ask if we would take them into consideration with our planting as they were worried about their light, we absolutely agreed no problem & forgot about it... At the time I thought it was a very reasonable request..

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Homeontherangeuk · 27/08/2021 15:40

Also thank you everyone for being so kind... I can't discuss with DH as he is too stressed & upset over it all... Its a terrible situation & after what happened last night with the hose I didnt sleep a wink... Whoever did it seemed to get in a temper about me reading my book...

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FleasInMyKnees · 27/08/2021 15:45

Were they moaning about you reading, maybe they are jealous.

Grinch48 · 27/08/2021 15:48

Don’t forget that if you report to the police and the council you may have to put that on the forms when you sell in the future - which could make it difficult in the future to sell who would want to live next door to aggressive dickheads
I would start with passive aggressive stuff like CCtv - Ring doorbells

FleasInMyKnees · 27/08/2021 15:52

Wont the ndn also have to declare a dispute if they wish to sell which would make life difficult for them too

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Homeontherangeuk · 27/08/2021 15:53

Just the fact I was sitting out.. They don't like us using our garden... Anytime we go out since the fence, the blaring trance comes on..

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Mizydoscape · 27/08/2021 15:56

I think you need planning permission for a fence exceeding 2 metres so you could go down that route if you really hate the fence. Won't do much for your neighbourly relations though 😁

Meecrowavay · 27/08/2021 15:58

What do the other neighbours say? Surely the music is an annoyance for everyone in the vicinity. I would report it to the police.

FleasInMyKnees · 27/08/2021 15:58

They sounds a bit nutty, who does that with a toddler, they are lucky no one has reported them yet. Record it on your phone but just try and ignore it, anything you say or do will just make them behave even more silly.

StoneofDestiny · 27/08/2021 16:01

You can contact the police if they are harrassing you. You need to install cctv and record the noise and the hose. Dont ring them again

This - plus if they are breaking the rules of the neighbourhood re fence, report them.
They are clearly morons - but you can't live with this nonsense. If you are in a terrace, surely they must be bothering the other neighbours too?.

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