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Fed up with neighbours

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Homeontherangeuk · 27/08/2021 15:14

Bit of a back story, we live in a new development... Here 6 years, we signed a clause to say we wouldn't change door colour, fence height etc... However neighbour has raised the shared boundary fence to 2.5m (terrace house) & its so ugly.. We told them we hate it & they flipped.. We told them its too high, werw told fuck off, now anytime we try to use our garden they play banging house music... Today they put the speakers on full blast & have gone out for the day.. Beautiful day but my kids can't enjoy the sun... I'm at my wits end, hubby is sick of the childish antics.... Last night I was sitting out reading my book quietly with a glass of wine, at 10 ó clock I was drenched by a hose over the fence... They claimed it was their 2 year old when hubby rang in a fit.. No way would a 2 year old have the motor skills to control a hose, drench me, our patio & proceed to drench the clothes line... Bawling here, our dream home is turning into a nightmare... What can we do? They have blocked us from messaging, hung up on DH, blank us... Our home is in such an ideal location, we don't want to or aren't in the position to sell...
No cctv so can't prove who drenched me... DH was working last night, I felt very shaken & worried afterwards but held my ground & stayed out listening to them bitching about us... Before the fence we had a great relationship with them.... I regret saying anything now...

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Sallycinnamum · 28/08/2021 19:45

This is absolutely appalling OP.

I started reading this thread yesterday and can't fathom why your neighbours are doing this. Its very intimating and they clearly think you're just going to put up with it.

On the face of it I'd say this is some form of harassment although I'm no expert. I really feel for you.

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Homeontherangeuk · 28/08/2021 21:15

Mood has changed v suddenly, DH & I started discussing where we'd place the cctv & which type would be best for domestic use... Mood has changed, music is lowered & they are literally whispering...
Dc came out for a bedtime snack & I pointedly reminded to to always be mindful of others who are trying to enjoy their garden on a lovely night... They all replied "but we always do, why are you telling us that"!

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bagelsandoranges · 28/08/2021 21:22

So they're changing the act for the cameras... Just be wary of some other stunt. But good thing they know you mean business.

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Homeontherangeuk · 28/08/2021 21:43

It was a quick change, he was pretend coughing & spluttering saying he thought he had covid an hour before the cctv placement was loudly discussed 🙄 it's going up next week!

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Whatinthelord · 28/08/2021 21:48

I really hope you getting CCTV nips some of their behaviour in the butt (or is it bud).

Must be shit living with that.

BecauseMyRingBurnsSheila · 28/08/2021 22:08

@Homeontherangeuk

Mood has changed v suddenly, DH & I started discussing where we'd place the cctv & which type would be best for domestic use... Mood has changed, music is lowered & they are literally whispering... Dc came out for a bedtime snack & I pointedly reminded to to always be mindful of others who are trying to enjoy their garden on a lovely night... They all replied "but we always do, why are you telling us that"!
Love this! You've got them rattled!
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Homeontherangeuk · 28/08/2021 22:15

Actually having a rather pleasent evening with DH, their music is mellow & v low, they are speaking in hushed tones, no passive aggressive comments & his covid symptoms have miraculously disappeared...

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TheChip · 28/08/2021 22:16

Thats really good. Your quiet stance in all of this with mentions of cctv will have made them think "shit"
Youre not all up in their faces like they'd hoped and so now they don't know what to expect. Ha well done!

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Homeontherangeuk · 28/08/2021 22:27

Such a quick turnaround😁 but we're not bluffing, it's going up!

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Mooloolabababy · 28/08/2021 22:41

I'd be tempted to drop in to conversation with your dh (loud enough for neighbours to hear of course!) about your retired police uncles and asking them about laws related to harassment from neighbours and what steps you need to take towards prosecution.

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Homeontherangeuk · 28/08/2021 23:16

We came inside about half an hour ago while the going was good to watch Netflix ☺️ actually felt we had the upperhand & in charge of the situation by quietly coming inside discussing what to watch & turning off the garden lights... 😁

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MilesOfSand · 28/08/2021 23:22

Ring cameras are easy to set up and use. I’d also have quiet conversations about ‘not doing that because they can’t find out who we are’ and ‘I’m not risking our current placement by doing that’ and ‘yes we could, but staying undercover matters more.’ At least have a bit of fun with it 🤣

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Homeontherangeuk · 28/08/2021 23:43

😁😁😁 I don't think there's ever been a more helpful aibu thread. You've all been brilliant🥰After feeling completely powerless yesterday I feel we have now taken control of the situation & will be taken seriously. Every single comment has been insightful, very helpful & sympathic. I'll update the thread with any further developments x

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TheChip · 28/08/2021 23:45

I'm so pleased you're feeling empowered now rather than deflated! Fingers crossed that you're all back to enjoying your lovely home again before you know it! 😊

ThreeLittleDots · 28/08/2021 23:48

Don't forget the notification stickers for CCTV which I think may be required by law

TopBlogger · 28/08/2021 23:54

So glad to hear you feel calmer. Taking a bit of control really helps doesnt it. Long may their hushed tomes last!

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Homeontherangeuk · 29/08/2021 00:04

@TopBlogger

So glad to hear you feel calmer. Taking a bit of control really helps doesnt it. Long may their hushed tomes last!
Long may it last ☺️
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DeeplyCheesedOffWithLife · 29/08/2021 00:53

OP not trying to worry you, but do you have a dog or cat? Also is your car parked anywhere it could be vulnerable to 'accidents' such as nails placed next to the tyres?

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Homeontherangeuk · 29/08/2021 00:58

Three little dogs no cats (yet!) & I worry about my dogs, tbh they are house dogs & always in the garden with one of us, I work from home...

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teaandpastries · 29/08/2021 01:00

You sound really gentle and kind hearted. What about moving out for 6 months and trying to get someone to rent for 6 months on the proviso that they annoy the tits off your neighbour's

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Homeontherangeuk · 29/08/2021 01:14

☺️😆I honestly think that if they had other neighbours they may appreciate us! My dogs are a worry for me, they can't complain about them as they don't bark too much, are well exercised & our garden is always cleaned so the dogs haven't been mentioned yet

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Hertsgirl10 · 29/08/2021 02:38

Get a blink camera.

JacquelineCarlyle · 29/08/2021 06:36

What's a blink camera?

ivykaty44 · 29/08/2021 06:47

Cameras and doorbells etc

Evidence is what you need

Then police with evidence

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