Update-How many drinks for you to sleep with her

[Kidsdontknowwhatswrongwithmum]

I made a thread a couple of weeks back about me visiting the butcher in a supermarket near me and the young guy serving me saying that to his colleague in his local language (I live abroad)
He assumed I was on holiday and didn’t understand the language, I did. I was with my toddler daughter and was so humiliated and upset, I cried in the car on the way home.
Later, I sent a complaint to the head of the shop. They’ve now got back to me properly. Apparently they were able to discover who it was by speaking to other staff and he admitted it and was reprimanded, which resulted in him being fired and is now finishing his contract, so is still there legally.
I feel angry still that he was able to make me feel that humiliated, I was worried I’d possibly misheard part of it or got it wrong. Now he’s admitted it, I’m glad he’s lost his job and someone who deserves it can fill his place.
Do you think the supermarket did enough? It’s unlikely I’ll go back, which is a shame as it’s the main supermarket for special bits where we are.

@ShuddaBeenMe I agree, I don’t think he will be.
Yeah, he perhaps might not remember me, wouldn’t want to be served by him tho 😬

[quote mineofuselessinformation]@EarringsandLipstick, I thought you were out???? [/quote]
Glad you're policing my posting activity 🤨

earrings is entitled to come back in whenever they like.

Like others, I too am starting to wonder about this thread. Frothmeister.

[quote Kidsdontknowwhatswrongwithmum]@ShuddaBeenMe I agree, I don’t think he will be.
Yeah, he perhaps might not remember me, wouldn’t want to be served by him tho 😬[/quote]
I totally understand but don't miss out on things you like because of his behaviour

Sorry earrings

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@SheldonesqueTheBstard Thanks

Op the issue here is you’re going too far and people are turning because of it. You have had huge support. The company is dealing aith it, they have investigated , he is going through disciplinary, the staff have been interviewed, but it’s not enough for you, you want even more support, more revenge, just more more more and you’re coming across as enjoying it the attention.

Everyone gets it’s distressing, no one wants to stand at a deli counter and here some young lad joke about how pissed someone would have to be to shag rhem, but there comes a point where you need to say it’s being dealt with now. You’re past that point.

@ShuddaBeenMe I know, I can’t really as it sells a few British food treats we can’t get in many other places 😅

@Winemewhynot, actually, it was
me reported your post - not that I need to tell you. It wasn't the OP, so get off your high horse.

@Bluntness100 Fair point, I was just responding to the questions and frustratingly trying to get my point across that I want to be sure he has been disciplined, it’s hard to explain, but having worked in this country etc, it’s all very slapdash. I’ve known of several situations where things haven’t been dealt with at all in the workplace (heard through friends/colleagues etc)
I can assure you I’m not doing anything for attention, but I do need to relax a bit with it, I realise that.
I agree I’ve had huge support, particularity in my initial post, I remember you being so kind, but I don’t remember some of the posters today. I personally do feel a couple are deliberately just trying to be unkind or get a rise, I’m feeling a bit wound up/sensitive today anyway so shouldn’t be bothered by it.

*but shouldn’t let myself be bothered by it

@SheldonesqueTheBstard Thanks

Don’t thank me.

I’m with hoppinggreen and bluntness

@SheldonesqueTheBstard I was saying it for saying I’m winding people up.

Honestly just let it go now. It’s shit, you’ve complained, it’s being dealt with. Maybe not as you’d like but with in the constraints of the law.

He’s just some little dick.

@Bluntness100 Yes, definitely am

Thanks @SheldonesqueTheBstard 💐

@Kidsdontknowwhatswrongwithmum

Just from pure persistence at thus stage, why aren't you open to talking to the manager, if you still have questions & concerns?

@EarringsandLipstick Honestly, I feel too embarrassed, which I’m sure people will take the piss out of me for too. I’d love to do it via email so I can remain anonymous. The thought of sitting down in the office at the shop is humiliating, to talk about what he said. I don’t know, I feel ashamed almost, for looking like I do now and not doing something about it, I didn’t tell my do, because I felt ashamed, anything else I would’ve told him straightaway. Haven’t told anyone in real life, who wants to admit to that.
I realise I’m being a massive mard

*Dp

He sounds like an idiot and says far more about him than it could ever say about you.

Justice has been served.

@mineofuselessinformation what you talking about? The OP has had a post deleted for violating MNHQ terms not me…

[quote Kidsdontknowwhatswrongwithmum]@EarringsandLipstick Honestly, I feel too embarrassed, which I’m sure people will take the piss out of me for too. I’d love to do it via email so I can remain anonymous. The thought of sitting down in the office at the shop is humiliating, to talk about what he said. I don’t know, I feel ashamed almost, for looking like I do now and not doing something about it, I didn’t tell my do, because I felt ashamed, anything else I would’ve told him straightaway. Haven’t told anyone in real life, who wants to admit to that.
I realise I’m being a massive mard[/quote]
Genuinely I'm very sorry to hear that

You should not feel embarrassed at this man's behaviour, his actions are all on him.

I remember on your last thread a few posters wrote very well about not in anyway taking this as some valid judgement of your body, or you, because it's not.

I hesitate to say this in case it's patronising when I type it & I know other posters said it & it didn't go down well with you but I think you might benefit from teasing out your own self-esteem / body image issues. Not that it's your fault in any way but as a way to lessen the impact of this man's utterly shameful behaviour.

And if meeting the manager isn't helpful to you then of course you are right.

@Kidsdontknowwhatswrongwithmum

Your post at 1925 has been removed by MNHQ.

@Kidsdontknowwhatswrongwithmum, it sounds like you're coming to terms with it now.
If I were you, I'd leave this thread now, as there are clearly some posters (my phone suggested posteriors! that may be true) who clearly have their own agendas which don't align with yours.
All the best.

@mineofuselessinformation I know, thank you so much 🙏 shit day!