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[Kidsdontknowwhatswrongwithmum]

I made a thread a couple of weeks back about me visiting the butcher in a supermarket near me and the young guy serving me saying that to his colleague in his local language (I live abroad)
He assumed I was on holiday and didn’t understand the language, I did. I was with my toddler daughter and was so humiliated and upset, I cried in the car on the way home.
Later, I sent a complaint to the head of the shop. They’ve now got back to me properly. Apparently they were able to discover who it was by speaking to other staff and he admitted it and was reprimanded, which resulted in him being fired and is now finishing his contract, so is still there legally.
I feel angry still that he was able to make me feel that humiliated, I was worried I’d possibly misheard part of it or got it wrong. Now he’s admitted it, I’m glad he’s lost his job and someone who deserves it can fill his place.
Do you think the supermarket did enough? It’s unlikely I’ll go back, which is a shame as it’s the main supermarket for special bits where we are.

Indeed lochroy

@Lochroy

Please can we be clear that many of us who are saying the OP needs to move on are NOT excusing the behaviour which was NOT acceptable and indeed the OP has done the right thing by reporting it. The issue now is the witch hunt, which is separate and which I, and others, don't agree is the right thing.

Absolutely. The behaviour of the store employee was categorically wrong. OP did the right thing in reporting it

I'm baffled that she continues to complain she doesn't know the outcome but won't take up the manager's invitation to meet, and repeatedly ignores this point in her replies.

I’m glad you complained. Would have been better to make an on the spot withering comment, but it’s easy to say that after the event and when it’s someone else than think of the best response at the time. Either way, the idiot shouldn’t get away with talking about customers like that.

Agree with all the above!

Thank you to all the helpful posters, this feels like it’s turned into a personal attack on me by some posters which I’m really not getting into. Sad and disappointing that a situation from a man can be turned upon me, I’d be supportive of other females in this situation.
Perhaps I am being too sensitive about it all, it’s true, but it really was upsetting and is perhaps difficult to convey just how upsetting it was, then to face some nastiness on here.
I’m very open to constructive advice and criticism and thank you to the posters for that, also to the ones explaining it from a professional point of view, thank you.
I’m not on a witch hunt or suffering from any other issues, I’m honestly not, I just want to be sure he doesn’t do it to someone else and make them feel the way I did.

@Kidsdontknowwhatswrongwithmum why don’t you start another thread as this one is clearly not going the way you want. Again.

Yep everybody on mumsnet is earning three trillion an hour in their amazing management job but also think saying this to a customer's face should just need a warning. Or is it just arsehole day here? Out of touch doesnt cover it Theres not one single reason to atack OP.

Personal attack is a bit rich when you did the same to wombat

That was the bit of nastiness on this thread that I noticed.

[quote Kidsdontknowwhatswrongwithmum]@WombatChocolate Patronising much? 😅[/quote]
Why weren't you this lairy with the butcher?
Get over yourself, it's turning ridiculous now.

Oh I'm out OP! You have been supported by almost everyone. What has been criticised is your attitude now.

Why won't you explain why you refuse to meet the manager to explain your concerns?

@Regularsizedrudy

I can’t believe the amount of sympathy and bonkers made up back story people are giving this misogynistic prick. If he didn’t want to lose his job he should have acted appropriately. I’m glad he got fired and I don’t give a shit if he can’t find another job. Actions have consequences, op did totally the right thing.

This. The victim blaming on here is baffling! OP absolutely did the right thing.

Doubting this thread.

Repetitive comments from Op, with no attempt to address sensible Qs raised multiple times about things like taking up opportunity to speak to manager. Whenever someone says something which challenges Ops insistence on the need to know the employers actions towards employee, responds with cries of people turning on her and not supporting her in the horrible shop situation, or taking his side. And whenever a genuinely useful analysis is given of the situation, an out of character (compared rest of Ops posts) attempt to just ignore/close down with ‘ Patronising,much’….just a bit too sophisticated.

I’m off because this isn’t a thread from someone who actually wants to hear constructive comments or move forward with a genuine issue, but someone wanting a spurious row with lots of strangers…and laughing at receiving it and keeping it going into a 2nd thread.

[quote Kidsdontknowwhatswrongwithmum]@WIS76 The whole point is I don’t know if it has been dealt with satisfactorily

Never mind, I’ll let it go, why I should have to I don’t know. People just get away with being nasty bastards and it’s ok[/quote]
Ok here's where I struggle with you op.

As far as you can every know it's been dealt with satisfactorily.

But you're acting as though rather than fire him, they've told you to get over it. Acting as though you're being forced to shrug your shoulders and move on when that's clearly not what has happened gives you a weird air of wanting to perpetuate your own misery and view yourself as the victim for a second time (the first being when you were actually insulted)

The company can't force him to apologize, you can't force him to give a monologue on his own short comings and recognise his failings. From what is open to them in this situation (customer complaining about employee) they've done the most serious thing they can.

[quote Kidsdontknowwhatswrongwithmum]@Lochroy That’s fine, but I can’t go back in there[/quote]
Nobody expects you to.
It’s your choice (unless there is no other option)

The victim blaming on here is baffling! OP absolutely did the right thing.

I'm not sure anyone - almost nobody anyway - has said she didn't.

It's her current approach that people are questioning. Not reporting the employee.

Sometimes a bad thing happens to someone and they quite rightly get a lot of sympathy because of it.
Then they realise that they really enjoyed the sympathy and attention and try to string it out as long as possible. Being a victim can be quite addictive

This thread is very annoying..unfollowing

I think they did too much - a written warning would have been more appropriate. I'd be mortified with this outcome, if I were in your situation.

@EarringsandLipstick, I thought you were out????

@WombatChocolate I agree!

OP has refused to answer simple questions and had posts refused for insulting contributors..I smell bullshit with this post!

Posts removed even

@Winemewhynot Which posts have I had removed?
Which questions have I refused to answer?

@Winemewhynot Are you implying I’m making this up and am a troll?

I wouldn't read that as him getting sacked.

Also. I doubt he could pick you out of a crowd of 2, certainly wouldn't put me off shopping there if they have things I want to buy.