Eralos, Op has now realised she wasn’t exactly told he’d been sacked. She was told they had taken action and dealt with it. Firstly she assumed it meant he’d been sacked, but in reflection she realises it might not mean that.
She is having a hard time not knowing exactly how he has been dealt with.
But numerous people have pointed out his right to privacy and that the employer should not be telling the OP the specifics of how they have dealt with him.
It is perfectly possible to understand and accept that the shop has dealt with him. They have taken their responsibility seriously and whatever their policy says about such behaviour has been applied. Op clearly has her own ideas of what an appropriate response to him should be and is concerned the shop haven’t taken that response and/or that she doesn’t know what the response is.
But Op has to trust the shop in this case. She has no alternative because she is never going to know what their response is, and rightly so. Not knowing how he has been dealt with in no way minimisies the wrong she experienced….she seems to think it is minimising it, but it isn’t and no-one is suggesting that. She is saying people are turning in her, when it was him who did wrong, but people are NOT turning on her about reporting the incident or justifying him, BUT pointing out that the employer cannot tell her their exact response to the employee and that this need to know the details isn’t healthy.
So the real Q now is whether OP will choose to move on regarding the supermarket itself? Will she accept their information that they have dealt with it (even though that detail is unknown) or isn’t she going to accept it? Unless she has specific information to suggest the employer has taken entirely inappropriate action (bearing in mind that lots of responses could have been appropriate, even if not what Op would have chosen) then the matter needs to be closed. She needs to trust that they have dealt with it as THEY see fit and that is the only possible response.
Choosing to go in the shop again or not is entirely up to her and she needs to recognise it’s her choice rather than one imposed on her.
If she has genuine concerns that the supermarket response has been inappropriate as an employer in repo she to her complaint, she should look into the supermarket process for complaining about their actions. Otherwise, she needs to move on. I suspect Op has bigger, more longstanding issues than just this one horrible incident which are causing her trouble in moving forward and although she poo-poos the idea, recognising. If this is the case might be useful and if it is, seeking some kind of help to move forward would be useful.
Best of luck in moving forward Op.