Am I being oversensitive about my weight?

[2389Champ]

I’m 5’6” and weight 8.4 stone (53kg) Since I gave up alcohol a couple of years ago - I used to drink 3-4 large glasses of wine a night - I’ve just naturally lost the weight and have maintained it at a constant level. I’m fit, well and have plenty of energy.
DH is 15.5 stone and 5’10” He often comments that I’m too thin, don’t eat enough etc etc. I eat what I fancy, don’t calorie count but I’m also not that motivated by it either. I used to happily gorge but now am quite happy eating enough to satisfy me. If we go out for a meal, I often select a decent starter and pud which makes him sigh loudly and pass judgement.
We happened to bump into a friend today who said “every time I see you, you are thinner and thinner you bitch!” It was a bit of banter and a throwaway comment but it started him off again. He told her I just don’t eat and it’s really made me pretty pissed off. I don’t comment on anyone else’s weight or say they eat too much! If I’ve suggested to him about eating a little less to get fitter, I’m “on his case”
Two things, am I being oversensitive and is my weight really that ‘dangerously’ low? I wasn’t conscious of my eating/weight until DH started regularly mentioning it and now it’s making me a bit paranoid!

I think he feels less fat if he manages to convince himself that you are underweight

Totally agree. Ever since I lost the weight it is only overweight people who have told me I am "too thin". I have long thought that its because if I am normal then they have to accept their being overweight but if I am abnormally skinny (8/10) then they are by default normal and thereofre dont have to confront it. As I said above, its the easiest way for the DH to be happy with himself and his weight/size by convincing himself that he is just fine and she is very underweight rather than actually eating less and moving more.

So, I was happily getting over this. I had decided not to let it get to me and that the whole thing is possibly more about DH being conscious that he is pretty overweight (15st + and 5’10”) and deflecting onto me - when today during a conversation about a famous person’s figure, he suddenly said, “And your boobs are certainly not as big as they used to be”

Bang. With that one comment he’s knocked me back again. I’m fairly sure it was possibly more thoughtlessness but knowing he was always a boob man, I feel quite stung again.

Am I being oversensitive (again) or does he need a stinger across his bows?

Well, certainly no faux "weight related concern" there was there?

To be honest, I'm not sure the psychology of why he's doing it matters any more. That's just an open insult about your physical appearance. Incredibly rude, and hurtful to a sexual partner. He's just being a plain old dickhead right now.

It is possible he genuinely preferred you bigger. But you're healthy and happy so that's too bad for him isn't it? Don't let his comment knock your confidence. You felt good about yourself before and his opinion shouldn't change that because it really is just an opinion, and has no bearing on how good you actually look.