Am I being oversensitive about my weight?

[2389Champ]

I’m 5’6” and weight 8.4 stone (53kg) Since I gave up alcohol a couple of years ago - I used to drink 3-4 large glasses of wine a night - I’ve just naturally lost the weight and have maintained it at a constant level. I’m fit, well and have plenty of energy.
DH is 15.5 stone and 5’10” He often comments that I’m too thin, don’t eat enough etc etc. I eat what I fancy, don’t calorie count but I’m also not that motivated by it either. I used to happily gorge but now am quite happy eating enough to satisfy me. If we go out for a meal, I often select a decent starter and pud which makes him sigh loudly and pass judgement.
We happened to bump into a friend today who said “every time I see you, you are thinner and thinner you bitch!” It was a bit of banter and a throwaway comment but it started him off again. He told her I just don’t eat and it’s really made me pretty pissed off. I don’t comment on anyone else’s weight or say they eat too much! If I’ve suggested to him about eating a little less to get fitter, I’m “on his case”
Two things, am I being oversensitive and is my weight really that ‘dangerously’ low? I wasn’t conscious of my eating/weight until DH started regularly mentioning it and now it’s making me a bit paranoid!

Maybe he is deflecting. You are a normal bmi, at the lower end of healthy bit I'd you maintain that without much effort and are eating till you are full I see no issue. He is overweight and maybe needs to start looking at his own diet.

@Classica

'people have lost sight' is such a staple on a MN weight thread.

Exactly. Objectively, the op must be very slim. Random people shouldn’t be commenting. That’s definitely as rude as telling someone they’re too big. I can understand why the husband might be concerned although he hasn’t raised it in a sensitive way.

*but if you

I think people have lost sight of what a healthy/slim weight looks like.

Why do people keep saying this? Yes there is more acceptance of different body shapes but the images presented by the media in general eg acting, pop stars, models are definitely what I would call thin.

Personally I think an awful lot of people have disordered eating & exercise but dress it up as "healthy".

Not saying that's the OP though.

I'm slim but no way do I look underweight or too thin.

What's the difference between slim & thin? I think they both are pretty similar.

@bananamushy

I'm slim but no way do I look underweight or too thin.

What's the difference between slim & thin? I think they both are pretty similar.

Thin normally means too slim.

As in "Oh, he's got very thin since he was ill".

I've always been little and had these types of comments. I'm 7 stone 10 and 5 ft 1...I actually quite like the "no way have you had 3 kids look at you!" Comments but it's when people say things like "skinny bitch", on nights out I used to get "come and share my chips because you have to eat more!", people grabbing my waist and saying "look, there's nothing of you!" Felt a bit too much for my liking but then I'm a very reserved quiet person so I'm not used to that sort of banter...

Have you always been around this weight or were you much heavier.

Because so many of us are the high end of our BMI or a bit over, (well just a teeny bit)!! Anyone in the range or low end of range is rare. We comment because we notice.

Unfortunately some of us are jealous and show it.
As long as you are comfortable with your weight and shape, enjoy it.

Are you doing exercises to build up any muscle groups or to build general fitness stamina? Just wondering.

I'm another in your string bean club 👋🏼👋🏼 you're comments sound very similar to how I feel, don't really drink alcohol anymore, eat until I'm comfortably full but don't stuff myself, eat whatever I fancy tbh whether it's starter, main or three puddings. My BMI is slightly lower than yours.

Iv always been skinny,
I did once ask my GP if it was a concern and he said not to worry if I'm not struggling with low energy/hair loss/periods etc. Never been vitamin or iron deficient, carried a healthy pregnancy. That I'm obviously eating enough to sustain myself just fine 🤷🏻‍♀️

I am the same height as you and weigh 47 to 48kg, never go over or under. I don't look underweight because I'm of a slight build, I used to be a middle distance runner, that sort of frame
BMI is not the best indicator of a healthy weight I'm sure, we are all built so differently. Like you I'm not massively motivated by food (except when hungry!)
Your husband should leave you alone, if you are healthy and have energy there is no problem. It would be a different story if you were lacking in energy but this is clearly not the case.

You’re two pounds away from being classed as officially underweight and needing to do something about it.

That’s basically a big poo.

My sister gets this all the time. She's naturally slim and fit and also toned because she runs.
People are pretty rude about it. I'm naturally blobby and untoned and nobody would dare comment on my build like they do hers.
Pretty hurtful. You sound fine as you are!

Thin normally means too slim

Does it? I just see them as similar tbh. Whenever I've been at a lower weight people have said i'm too thin or too slim never just thin or slim. I was a very lanky child teen & always in the underweight category.

Oh. You’re nearly underweight in the bmi

That’s quite low.

Though I really understand. I’m 5’3 and rarely weighed above 7 stone till I was 30. I was always asked if I was anorexic. Or do you not eat. People shame those who shame those who are overweight. But we’re meant to take it as W compliment when you’re underweight.

I hated comments about my weight. I was skin and bones. But even now. I’m a slight size 8. I don’t get comments on it though.

However as long as you are healthy. Don’t worry about it. I just have an amazing metabolism. Always have. It even effects how much medication I have to take. Antibiotics rarely work first time. Pain killers don’t touch me. Any sedatives. You’re having A laugh. It’s a miserable life!

I would say eight stone four is a very average weight for your height.

They're probably just jealous X

@Nsmum14

I am the same height as you and weigh 47 to 48kg, never go over or under. I don't look underweight because I'm of a slight build, I used to be a middle distance runner, that sort of frame BMI is not the best indicator of a healthy weight I'm sure, we are all built so differently. Like you I'm not massively motivated by food (except when hungry!) Your husband should leave you alone, if you are healthy and have energy there is no problem. It would be a different story if you were lacking in energy but this is clearly not the case.

That makes your BMI about 16.6. 5ft 6 and 7 stone 4 lbs is underweight for your height.

It sounds like you are in good shape, so don't listen to your Husband. You will know yourself,if you feel good and look good in your clothes , and feel healthy and fit.. Lots of people make annoying comments, that have to be ignored.

@bananamushy

Thin normally means too slim

Does it? I just see them as similar tbh. Whenever I've been at a lower weight people have said i'm too thin or too slim never just thin or slim. I was a very lanky child teen & always in the underweight category.

Yeah I think people just use them interchangeably now.

There was a time when 'skinny' used to be an insult but now people tend to use it as a compliment.

@TwooThirty just spat out my tea 😂🤣 💩

Nearly 2/3 of UK adults are overweight or obese. By and large we absolutely have lost sight of what a healthy weight looks like.

Presumably OP, if you have access to the internet and know your height and weight, you can just Google your BMI and see if it sits within the healthy range.

By and large we absolutely have lost sight of what a healthy weight looks like.

We absolutely haven’t. Otherwise we wouldn’t be shaming women for being too fat when they aren’t.