To think I’m weird about my son?

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He’s 9 months and my first. I hate being apart from him. I don’t want anyone else to look after him for any length of time. An hour or so yes, okay. My DH a little longer, but I don’t want to be separated from him for that long. Is that weird? I didn’t want children to be honest and the love I feel for him has rather knocked me off my perch. I didn’t realise it would be like this.

Is this normal? Everyone keeps telling me I need a proper break and to hand him over to a family member for a whole day (I’m EBF still so he’d need a bottle too) but I just don’t want to, the idea fills me with panic. And to be honest, I feel like if I did I’d just be wondering if he’s okay, missing me and upset (he’s very clingy at the moment) and I’d have sore boobs so what would be the point? If this has happened to you, when does it get easier? I don’t want to be one of those people who has nothing when their children grow up. I used to have a really good career and lots of hobbies, but my whole world is suddenly this tiny being and I’m totally lost in it all. I’m just so shocked at the strength of my feelings for this small human.

This was very rambled, sorry.

Do what's right for you and your family. If you don't want to leave him, don't. Dont feel forced into anything, you are not the only mama like this

Sorry if I offended you in some way. I was simply trying to support op. Not sure how my comment was inappropriate, its similar to many other comments on here. Night!

It's only a problem if YOU think it's a problem, anyone else can sod off! You love your child and enjoy your child with you, better than those that dump their baby at every opportunity!

Op does think it’s a problem @TinselTinsel. she is seeing her GP and her husband is worried about her

Out of curiosity what exactly is those that dump their baby at every opportunity!
Passing the baby to random people? Amazon ring the bell get handed the baby? Deliveroo driver?
Do you mean families offering childcare?
Do you mean daycare? Child minders? Grand parents?

I don't think your BU - I BF all three of mine and they were all very clingy to me for the first year. However; since gently weening them off and onto solid food; they are now all daddy's boys! 😭
I was very much the same as you with my first. I swear it caused me physical pain to see him in the arms of anyone else - barring his dad.
When he was around 4 months my DM suggested we needed a night out. We did.
So we fed little one, bathed him, I gave him his last BF and put him to bed. Then my DM looked after him while we went for dinner. We were only gone an hour - and talked about DS the whole time but it was lovely to be out.
Then a couple of months later; we did the same again only went to the cinema too.
Do it slowly. You don't have to leave him for a whole day. You won't regret it.

Not weird and not usual! My LO is 18 months old and me and DH have just had our first night away from him as we weren't ready! Everyone said we need to give ourselves a break and we did when we were ready! There is nothing wrong with what you have said alonf with EBF at 9 months! As long as you and baby are safe, happy & healthy, nothing else matters ♥

It’s great that you’re so in love with your little one and that you enjoy spending time with them however I think for both of you it would be healthy to have a break from each other every now and then. As your baby grows they’re will inevitably be times you HAVE to be away from each other so I’d start to prepare for that now. You don’t want your child to be the one crying at the school gate as they have separation issues/anxiety. Start with a few hours and build up to longer periods slowly, you may even surprise yourself and enjoy it!

@Ohdearpreggohere

Not weird and not usual! My LO is 18 months old and me and DH have just had our first night away from him as we weren't ready! Everyone said we need to give ourselves a break and we did when we were ready! There is nothing wrong with what you have said alonf with EBF at 9 months! As long as you and baby are safe, happy & healthy, nothing else matters ♥

I suggest that you actually read the thread. Because it's clear that OP's mental health matters. Enough for her husband to be worried, and for her to see her GP. And of course it matters to the baby's development to have a mother who isn't anxious and obsessive.

@saraclara - calm down poppet - I read it and I relate to it.
If her mental health is at risk then obviously that's a different kettle of fish, hence my last part "as long as..."

Everyone is hellbent on mums having breaks and it must be MH related if they don't want to be separated and that's not always the case.

We only get a small insight to the real things as you can't put everything into words or writing, so everyone offering their 2 pence is better than nothing.

Have a good day 😊

@Ohdearpreggohere

@Ohdearpreggohere
Poppet Clearly you have not read the thread judging by your irrelevant response and your 2pence is an unrelated anecdote about your Baby your experience. The op is not happy so your little quip As long as you and baby are safe, happy & healthy, nothing else matters is misplaced and inappropriate

It's not weird, do what you feel is right and enjoy every minute of your precious bundle. You can never love a child too much.

@nicola123456789

It's not weird, do what you feel is right and enjoy every minute of your precious bundle. You can never love a child too much.

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FFS read the thread and OP's updates.

I think a lot of how you feel is normal but just watch it doesn’t escalate and turn in to post natal OCD/ anxiety.