Being upset and angry because my ex's girlfriend pierced my daughter's ears?

[thecatmother]

Basically, I co parent with my ex and it was his time with DD(9). Him and his GF took her away for a weeks break, all lovely. Yesterday she came home and was hiding her ears behind her hair, and also looking very sheepish. I had her on my lap, giving her a cuddle and realised that her ears got pierced.
I kept my cool and complimented the pretty earrings that she had in, but when I spoke to my ex later, he had no clue and he had to ask his GF. Apparently the GF went to the shops with my DD and thought it was a nice thing for them to do together.
My ex is apologetic, I'm just so upset. On top of that the earrings are just costume jewelry and now I need to take her to the proper place to make sure that the piercing is clean and healing.
We have never even talked about having her ears pierced, I feel that I was blindsided. I would have much preferred them to bond over a shopping or a fun activity, not over my child getting her ears pierced.
In front of DD I'm all positive, as obviously she is excited and feeling all glamorous, but I'm so sad inside.
I know it's only pierced ears, but I did cry last night.

The journalism at its best.

I hate it when that happens. At least it's just online, and how many people read that garbage?

But it seems to me that your DD has a great bunch of people around her, OP. The GF and her mum sound lovely, and the end result is a more involved dad (hopefully) and some pressure off GF (who at last obviously wanted to make your DD happy)

And if GF does see this, which is highly unlikely, I think you responded brilliantly, GF! Admission that it was a mistake, consideration and an apology is a rare thing. Good for you.

I'd be raging about this too op. Age 9 is so young to get ears pierced anyway but she didn't even get a parent's permission.
This is so incredibly wrong.

Your ex's girlfriend sounds a bit dense to be honest. Who wouldn't know that she needs real gold for a new piercing - and why would the shop allow this? I'd be livid!!