AIBU to think DD isn't fully dressed in leggings & a t-shirt?

[shesellsseacats]

When I ask DD (nearly 9) to get dressed she often comes down in just leggings and a t-shirt, tucked in.

She looks undressed to me.

A t-shirt and leggings are fine for sport, or bed, or for toddlers IMO. Or a long tshirt over leggings is fine too.

But she likes to wear her T-shirt tucked in (which looks lumpy!) She just looks like she forgot to finish getting dressed like that, AIBU?

And AIBU to ask her to put another layer over the leggings? e.g. a skirt or pinafore dress or shorts?

I know it's only a small thing in the scheme of things and I'm inclined to let her get her way if we're just going to the park for a play or something. But I'm curious how others see it?

Eh? I don't understand why a t-shirt and leggings isn't fully dressed?

Don't be daft. Leggings & t-shirt is perfectly acceptable

Wtf?

Definitely dressed... 🤣

might not be to your satisfaction but she's definitely dressed..

maybe stop buying her clothes you don't like her wearing... just a thought..

I don't understand what your problem is.

Pick. Your. Battles.

Leggings and T-shirt are normal, practical and sensible clothing for a nine-year-old.

That’s often what my 10 year old it’s wearing. I’m not a fan of the t-shirt being tucked in but I know that she’s comfortable and happy so let her get on with it.

It depends in how revealing the leggings are. If you can see every nook and cranny, then she needs to wear something else too. If her outline is smooth, and doesn't show the finer details, then she is fine.

You are definitely being unreasonable. My 8 year old mostly lives in leggings and a t shirt because it's comfy and practical

@FrankButchersDickieBow

Pick. Your. Battles.

Definitely.

I'm assuming that at 9 years old, she's not buying her own clothes. If you don't like her wearing leggings, why do you buy them?

@Kpo58

It depends in how revealing the leggings are. If you can see every nook and cranny, then she needs to wear something else too. If her outline is smooth, and doesn't show the finer details, then she is fine.

😂🤣🤔

Isn’t that what every nine year old wears?

11yo DD was still wandering round the house in pants at lunchtime so I asked to get dressed. She returned a few minutes later wearing a pair of socks...

Don't be daft! Of course t-shirt and leggings is dressed.

Definitely fully dressed for a child of any age, even a young adult.

I don’t really like the fact my son insists on tucking everything in either, but you have to let them make their choices.

@Kpo58

It depends in how revealing the leggings are. If you can see every nook and cranny, then she needs to wear something else too. If her outline is smooth, and doesn't show the finer details, then she is fine.

'Revealing'??

She's an 8 year old child for goodness sake.

Behave yourself.

As she gets older this will become the norm with occasional jeans or shorts with the top.

Yes. Dressed. If anything it is a bit bloody hot for summer wear.

This is how my 9yo dresses too. I think she looks fantastic.

As someone whose mother constantly scoffed and despaired that I didn't dress exactly as she would have wanted me to (I wore a late-90's emo uniform as opposed to high neck Laura Ashley shite) I implore you OP to get over this and let her dress exactly how she likes. Otherwise you will stifle her. As long as she's warm/cool (depending on weather) it doesn't matter what she wears.

Definitely tell her she's not dressed to your liking, make a point of it on a daily basis.
Then report back on your relationship with her when she's a teen.

Eh

There was a drama on the other day called I am Victoria where the mum insisted her daughters couldn't leave the house in leggings and a t-shirt but had to get properly dressed.

I'm not a lover of tops tucked into leggings but I definitely wouldn't be dying on that hill.

I would say that she's obviously not dressed smartly so that outfit wouldn't be suitable to meet the Queen, go to a funeral, attend a job interview etc. But I would say that she's definitely fully dressed in leggings and a t-shirt.

@WorraLiberty most leggings are completely opaque, but some are basically footless tights. I assume that is what the pp meant.

I clearly remember a girl at school turning up in the footless tights variety, knickers clearly visible through the material. I remember it because everyone was laughing at her. So no, I wouldn’t allow a child of any age or gender out of the house looking like that.