AIBU to think DD isn't fully dressed in leggings & a t-shirt?

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When I ask DD (nearly 9) to get dressed she often comes down in just leggings and a t-shirt, tucked in.

She looks undressed to me.

A t-shirt and leggings are fine for sport, or bed, or for toddlers IMO. Or a long tshirt over leggings is fine too.

But she likes to wear her T-shirt tucked in (which looks lumpy!) She just looks like she forgot to finish getting dressed like that, AIBU?

And AIBU to ask her to put another layer over the leggings? e.g. a skirt or pinafore dress or shorts?

I know it's only a small thing in the scheme of things and I'm inclined to let her get her way if we're just going to the park for a play or something. But I'm curious how others see it?

Can't your dd be comfortable also then? Leggings etc seems much more standard since lockdown.

I am in same day in day out. If I manage to get dressed.

I wasn't being facetious apologies if it came across that way.

My usual day to day is now currently leggings,
Trainers and a t shirt. Zoom calls, working from home all day, trying to walk the dog, dd classses etc. I'm not in work or usual wear because it just makes sense to put my last required outfit on. Is leggings and a t shirt.

Lol leave her be.
My son wears his t-shirt tucked into his jeans and it looks ridiculous, now I feel he does it to wind me up because I said it THAT ONE TIME, my other son flicks his colar up on his t-shirt- again ridiculous. I've learned to let them make their own mind up, have the photos at the ready when they're older lol

Our son used to wear his school shirt, tie and jumper tucked into his trousers at that age, as did at least half of his classmates.

I’m with OP. I think it’s not a great look but we seem to have adjusted to it being the normal way for girls to dress. More practical than dresses at the playground of course.
The local high school girls wear leggings with a school blouse / shirt, tie and blazer. And carry a handbag. Looks really odd to me.

I couldn’t have cared less about whether my “look” was “great” when I was 8. Why on earth would I have?

(Tbf, I don’t care 50 years later(.

OP I agree with you but we are in the minority (as is evidenced by the badly dressed children I see regularly these days).

I'm just sitting here in my cycling shorts, feeling very judged 🤣

Leggings and tops are fine, especially on children. Freedom to move around and be comfy.

My nearly 6yo lives in leggings and T-shirt’s. in fact if it wasn’t for school dresses, she wouldn’t wear skirts at all. It’s a struggle to get her in shorts. So we try and get some nicer ones that will look good no matter what the occasion.

Mum of boys but no I wouldn’t consider that dressed. Just tell her that if she wears leggings she needs a skirt or dress or long T-shirt to go with it.

I absolutely think it’s fine for anyone to wear leggings and a t shirt, tucked in or not. Get her some decent thickness leggings and get rid of the ones you think look too thin

This is one of the weirdest threads I have ever seen on here! I’m genuinely shocked at some of the reactions to an 8 year old child wearing leggings and a t-shirt and policing it to such an extent. As for equating it to pyjamas - WTAF?! Who in their right mind tucks in their PJ top?! I have never looked at someone wearing leggings and a t-shirt and thought, “yep, pyjamas”. And to be so judgey, prudish, and sexualising of an 8 year old child? Just wow…

What century have I woke up in? This is an 8 year old child ffs

Lord that’s all both my girls have worn since about 6 months of age!!

I think this is normal for an 11 year old, comfortable and casual. I would say though that some adults may need to rethink wearing tight leggings out and about, fine at home, but sometimes not very flattering. For children, this is perfect everyday casual wear.

I ask my 10 year old to get dressed and he puts a onesie on

Leggings and tee shirt is perfectly normal on me, a 53yr old woman, so I can't see anything wrong with it for a 9yr old.

@animalprintfree badly dressed children ?

@Tam20779

My nearly 6yo lives in leggings and T-shirt’s. in fact if it wasn’t for school dresses, she wouldn’t wear skirts at all. It’s a struggle to get her in shorts. So we try and get some nicer ones that will look good no matter what the occasion.

Mine won't even wear school dresses, shorts are an issue too, though I can occasionally get her in a pair of cycling shorts. She wore a dress to a funeral in March, but under protest and it was off as soon as we got back in.

Saying that she has got a little better, but at 5/6 I had no chance of getting her into anything else.

I do kind of understand what you mean, I'm not a fan of the fufu area not being covered by a t-shirt (on me) but I only wearing leggings for the gym but each to their own as long as there's no camel toe.

Leggings are sort of a base layer unless you’re a toddler, child or a sporty woman with a great figure!

Yuck, policing women’s bodies, how ‘internalised misogyny’ of you

This is one of the weirdest threads I have ever seen on here!

Me too, and I've read some weird shit on here 😂

@brokenbiscuitsx

Leggings are sort of a base layer unless you’re a toddler, child or a sporty woman with a great figure!

Yuck, policing women’s bodies, how ‘internalised misogyny’ of you

Oh good. I consider myself a "sporty woman with a great figure" so guess I'm safe

oulous1985

This is one of the weirdest threads I have ever seen on here!

Me too, and I've read some weird shit on here “

This thread sprang to mind as I watched the news from Kabul and Les Cayes last night. If ever “first world problems” applied to a thread, it’s this one.

The sportswear look has been in for ages now, for both adults and kids. My DD is nearly 12 and still wears leggings and a T-shirt, although she tends to wear a shorter T-shirt rather than a tucked in on or oversized one. Her friends all wear the style too, some with tucked in ones, some with cropped etc. I think it looks fine and is definitely not the same as wearing pjs out of the house.

It's been an interesting thread.

I think it's clear that for some of us, leggings fall into a similar category to tights, to others they're more like trousers.

It's not to do with the transparancy, for me at least, it's to do with how my mind interprets them based on the cultural significance that I've (somehow) associated with them.

Someone with just leggings and a t-shirt looks like they've forgotten to get dressed to me in the same way as if these women in just tights walked into work like this I'd assume they lost a layer somewhere!

The first two pictures are kinda what I see when I see someone with leggings and a t-shirt.

(Ignoring the ridiculous poses they get women to do, that's a whole other thread!)

But, what I'm getting from this thread is that most other people see them as more similar to skinny trousers, like the 3rd picture.

It's interesting how people (myself included) can see such similar outfits in such different ways, due to social conditioning (I guess?).