To not let my daughter change her name?

[katherine1983]

My daughter wants to change her name to Rose, however I believe she should keep her birth name until the age of 18. I’m aware she can change it without my permission as she’s 16 however I’m hoping she wouldn’t as she knows I’m unhappy with it. It was the name I chose for her and I do believe her reasoning for wanting to change her name (too masculine) is wrong. Shes been using Rose as her name with some of her school friends and her online friends for over a year.

Cody is a boys name and very American . Never seen it with a K. Not surprised she doesn’t like it.

Yep! Eejit that she was

Josephine was her grandmothers middle, that’s why she picked it. Her og middle wouldn’t go with Rose. Someone gave me the suggestion of Kody. I now wish I had given her a more feminine name considering all the trouble changing it will be.

Or she could go with Katherine as a mn. Same initial as Kody. But hard to suggest that. (I'm assuming your name is Katherine irl.)

@katherine1983

Josephine was her grandmothers middle, that’s why she picked it. Her og middle wouldn’t go with Rose. Someone gave me the suggestion of Kody. I now wish I had given her a more feminine name considering all the trouble changing it will be.

Changing it will only be a hassle for a very short space of time.

Literally now the only time my name features is when I fill in a form that has a “other names known by” box.

My name is unisex but nearly always used for a boy. I've never come across another girl with my name. I hate it, always have and always will. It's annoying when people assume I'm male. When I was pregnant, I would be asked if it was a mistake. Sometimes people would be mean and ask if my parents wanted a boy and only picked boys names.
I wanted to change it and my parents were soooo upset so I didn't and I'm still hating it. My favourite choices as a teenager were Rose and Elizabeth.

I wanted to change it and my parents were soooo upset so I didn't and I'm still hating it.

Life is way too short to spend the whole thing miserable with a name you despise just to keep your parents happy.

Honestly make it your new goal in life to change it and spend the rest of your time on this world grateful every morning when you wake up that you left the old name behind.

*I used to know a family whose sons were called Kameron, Kai, and Kody.
I felt really sorry for them. Unsurprisingly, none have gone on to study at university.

@OnionsAreToxic *

Oh give us a break. "unsurprisingly " what? You sound an ignorant snob.

My friend's son Kai is off to Uni with his A* s at any moment.

Let’s hope all the parents to be wanting to choose ‘yoonique’ names read this thread.

Came on to say well done OP. You're a great example to your daughter.
Compassion and resilience in light of her request.

@CharlieBear20

Honestly I can see a lot of kids in the future doing the same. Like the poor baby I recently stumbled upon called...wait for it...'Carrot'. No lie. And he's ginger

Yeah sure.....

YABU OP. My mother refused to let me change my name, so I didn’t, legally, but I never stopped using the name I still use (which I started using when I was 15. I’m 34). This was a massive headache for me during sixth form and then at university. If I’d been allowed to have A Levels in the name I wanted to be known as when I went to Uni, life would have been much easier.

I didn’t even change my name because it was masculine, just because there were so SO many bloody Emma’s in my class, it felt like being called Student #65.

Sorry OP but if my name was Kody then I would change it too. My name is Linsey and is a male and female name too. But it’s more female now (I’m female btw). Rose is such a beautiful name just let her do it.

I would’ve thought it would’ve been difficult to get things updated, glad to know it’s not

I’m glad she wants to change it before a levels then if it’s hard to apply for university. She wants to study law.

[quote AngryWhompingWillow]@CharlieBear20

Honestly I can see a lot of kids in the future doing the same. Like the poor baby I recently stumbled upon called...wait for it...'Carrot'. No lie. And he's ginger

Yeah sure..... [/quote]
Might have been spelt with a K but still

@OnionsAreToxic

I used to know a family whose sons were called Kameron, Kai, and Kody. I felt really sorry for them. Unsurprisingly, none have gone on to study at university.

Is that you Katie Hopkins?

What a stupid, nasty, judgemental comment.

My DD graduated from Uni several years ago, and there were girls who graduated at the same time, called Kylie, Kayleigh, Taylor, Tyler, and Britney.

Also boys called Riley, Jackson, Edison, Bexley, and Harrison, who ALSO graduated at the same time!

I know! SHOCKER!

Seriously, 'less traditional' names are so common now, that very few people judge people with these kind of more 'modern' names now. Only the most arrogant and repugnant types judge them.

It's crazy to judge, as SO many people have less traditional names now. Judging them, and passing them over as not good enough, is like looking down your nose at people with tattoos, and assuming they're all 'common' and thick. You're not going to have many people to 'mix with,' if you continue to discount everyone with tattoos, and a non-traditional first name!

Ginger kid named carrot has to be a nickname, awful though.

People often use nicknames from school years.

16 is old enough to vote, and get married. Not much you can do.

And the thing is she can change it back again! It’s not like she’s amputating a limb. It’s just a name! Women change name every day. For it be called getting married!

A huge amount of people have tattoos. I hate them but i would never assume somebody is less qualified for a job because of them. However others might! If you are in the entertainment industry you can pick an unusual name. However remember David Bowie? his son changed his name at 18!

Maybe you Couid agree to call her Rose, but as that she doesn’t officially change it until she’s 18 as it’s possible she’ll decide against it by then.

I don’t think you’re being unreasonable. You just worry she’ll make a mistake. Sixteen is young. But she could at least always change it back.

Sounds like she HAS changed her name. It wasn't until I got married that I discovered the name I (and everyone) knew my spouse by wasn't the one on their birth certificate.

She’s had her mind made up for over a year now, both her and her dad agree it’s extremely unlikely for her to change her mind. She’s done her research and I do agree it’s a bit young but if it’s what she wants. I legally can’t stop her and if anything, it may do her better having an identity she feels comfortable with. I do feel bad for opposing it originally.