To think that the parent at home with the baby should do night feeds..

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When other parent is working outside home from six am to four pm but then said parent takes over completely until bedtime ?

@gogohm but if that was on the sofa and with a newborn, it's extremely dangerous, and I wouldn't be comfortable being asleep while a 2 year old was awake either if I've understood your post right

[quote gogohm]@loulous1985 I napped with my DD's l, when dd2 was newborn I'd have both of them, then dd1 quit napping about 2&4 months so I would put kids tv on fit an hour. I ca still sleep sitting up in front of tv[/quote]
You definitely don't have the sort of 2 yr old i have if you can nap for an hour whilst they're awaie

So only one parent has to experience interrupted sleep? It’s not like they’re home with no responsibilities or can catch up on that sleep ever. I hate this attitude and luckily dh didn’t think this way or he’d be an ex dh.

We share, I go and make the bottle, husband changes her bum and then one of us gives her the bottle, usually husband as I always need a wee by that point :P

Teamwork makes the dream work and all that jazz!

My DH did most of the night feeds despite working 6.00 am to 7.00 pm. He realised quite early on that he copes way better than me with broken sleep. People have to find whatever works best for them as a couple.

Depends.
Like most things. One of ours was a v difficult baby. I did feeds but hubby did nappy changes. We were both shattered but at least I could get an hour sleep before the next feed.

@Chocolatebuttercream

I know night feeds are really tough, but in your scenario there the parent who is working out of the home would literally never get a break- they'd be doing their job all day and then childcare all evening. It might be better for the SAHP to have a nap for an hour or two, say, and then the working parent can also have an hour or two to themselves. I know it's so hard and there isn't a perfect solution. It does get easier once baby sleeps through!

Parent working outside the home gets a break when they go to bed at night and SAHP does all the night feeds. SAHP then goes to bed for a few hours while parent working outside the home takes over baby duties, sounds fair to me. They both get some sleep this way.

I think you need to do what works for you.

We did similar to the OP, when on mat leave I did the night feeds during the week, at weekends night feeds would be shared and we would both have a lie in at the weekend. During the week DH would take over for a few hours when he got in from work and I would nap if needed.

I always did the baby night feeds when I had babies years ago. it was not necessary to wake my late Husband . I remember he was always happy about this.

@FatCatThinCat

My DH did most of the night feeds despite working 6.00 am to 7.00 pm. He realised quite early on that he copes way better than me with broken sleep. People have to find whatever works best for them as a couple.

Same

If I was at home and my dh was doing 13 hour shifts I wouldn’t let him do night feeds.