AIBU to be upset parents are moving?

[LaurenS26]

My parents have just dropped the news our family home will be going on the market early next week. This has came as a shock as they have less than £10k left of their mortgage and there's been no talk about moving, only ever talks of extending, upgrading the kitchen or adding a conservatory.

My Dad is a teacher and spent the summer working on the garden, building a pergola and buying a hot tub.

It's not a huge house, 3 bed end of terrace, but the layout of the house makes it great for entertaining and family gatherings. My Mum has lovely taste and the house is decorated really beautifully, however the only downside of their house is the area, which has never been great but has got worse recently (littering, loud neighbours, no parking)

The house they have 'fell in love with' is slightly more expensive but smaller. The rooms seem boxy and it will need a lot of work - which my parents don't mind, they are very handy and renovated their current home to change the layout up and downstairs.

They are looking to move further away which is probably why I'm upset. I thought if they ever decided to move it would be closer to us. (They will still live within 25mins of us, I just like having my family within 10mins as it's all I've ever known)

I'm trying to be supportive but their decision feels very rushed and I'm worried they are making this decision on a whim which they'll regret when it's too late.

I probably need a good shake, I know it's not about me, but AIBU to be upset and sad about this?

You are upset they are moving 15 mins further away, to get away from bad neighbours etc?

Seriously 25 mins is not far away at all.

Tough, it's not as if they moving to the other end of the country.

YABU, it’s really none of your business is it? Would you consult them if you chose to move?

Yes, they are grown adults!!

How old are you? 10?

I want to be kind but I think you need to step back and 1) count your blessings and 2) think about how selfish you sound.

Would you want to stay in a shifty area if you had the chance to move?

This can’t be serious, surely? Time to cut the apron strings, OP!

25 minutes is nothing! You need to suck it up.

Wow. YABU.

My parents live 200 miles away. You’ll cope!

Change can be hard, I get that, but it sounds like they are doing something to improve their lives and you have to be supportive of that and not selfish. 25 mins is nothing.

i know it maybe have taken you by surprise but 25 minutes away is no distance you can still go for a coffee lunch etc moving away from a not good location to a smaller house in better location is generally considered a good move, also people often downsize once family leave home and have their own homes established
I would not consult my parents about moving and won't expect them to consult me I would tell them of my plans which is what your parents have done but you should not try and dissuade them
although you only found out yesterday it doesn't mean they haven't been thinking about it for months so you really can't say it's on a whim unless they specifically said something like "we decided on tuesday to move and we never thought about it before"

it really is ok for them to move to any house anywhere unless you suspect they have early dementia or something and are genuinely being irrational rather than not just doing what you think they should do keep out of it and don't pour a bucket of cold water over their plans

You don't get a say.

25 minutes is nothing.

Buy them a bottle of fizz and get excited for them.

Yabu

I get it OP, YANBU to be upset by the thought of the family home being sold.

25 mins is nothing.
Takes me 20 to get to my mums

I can understand your feelings about your family home. But they also need to live wherever they think they'll be happy.

25 minutes is nothing.

How old are they?

Yabu. Sorry op, I opened this thinking your parents were moving 6 hours or another country away from you

I saw 25 minutes and rolled my eyes. You'll get used to it and it's clearly what your parents want. Support them

Oooo I know this can be sad and clearly you are voicing this on here so to be kind I can see why it would upset you.

This being said, I can see your parents point of view, a nice area a new project. That is exciting for them

I was sad when my parents sold the family home I’d grown up in, but they moved to somewhere better for them. Less convenient for me, if I’m thinking about it selfishly, but it’s their home, for them.

How old are your parents OP? If mine (late 70s) chose to do this I would ask questions. If they were 50s, not so much.

I would be hurt to be told abruptly that this was happening. We had a similar situation, it was discussed and agreed with one sibling and the other just informed.

It is their house, their life. But you are family and these sort of choices will affect you. Especially if they are elderly.

YABU. Your parents are moving to a nicer road still pretty close to you. Most parents sell their family home when kids have left home. And there reasons sound sound. Slightly smaller house on a nicer street.

Feelings aren’t unreasonable! It’s ok to feel sad, most humans (yes, even adults!) don’t particularly like change - especially when it’s a change to something loved and familiar like a family home.

In time, when you’ve made new memories in the new house and it’s decorated to your parents’ taste etc you’ll feel just as fondly of it, I think.

Their reasons not there…