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Housemate who secretly recorded us has been made a lecturer at UK university

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Smurfsarethefuture · 12/08/2021 12:15

I cannot be unreasonable here. I wrote on here about two yrs ago about my housemate who hid a camera in our kitchen. He is now a lecturer at a London uni.

The police were not interested neither was landlady- I didn’t contact university and am now wondering should I?

OP posts:
Bluntness100 · 13/08/2021 17:22

I’ve reported this, some isp addresses need checking, something is not right here,

PurpleDaisies · 13/08/2021 17:22

these was a conviction in my friends case.

Scotland has great laws protecting victims of abuse..
So she has proof of what happened.

The op has absolutely no proof her housemate did anything wrong.

QueenBee52 · 13/08/2021 17:23

@Bluntness100

I’ve reported this, some isp addresses need checking, something is not right here,

good idea 🌸

PurpleDaisies · 13/08/2021 17:24

Im sorry you're experienced such abuse

I’m not interested thank you. It happened once. I left. The details aren’t relevant except that it was a historic incident that had no proof. The op’s situation is the same yet you seem to think the uni can intervene and sack him.

QueenBee52 · 13/08/2021 17:25

@PurpleDaisies

Im sorry you're experienced such abuse

I’m not interested thank you. It happened once. I left. The details aren’t relevant except that it was a historic incident that had no proof. The op’s situation is the same yet you seem to think the uni can intervene and sack him.

I think that is someone is displaying seedy behaviour.. it should be spoken about.. not brushed under the rug 🌸

PurpleDaisies · 13/08/2021 17:27

I think that is someone is displaying seedy behaviour.. it should be spoken about.. not brushed under the rug

To his employer? You think he should be sacked?

Morgoth · 13/08/2021 17:27

@Polkadots2021

From the limited info given here, it sounds as if years ago, a PhD student involved in motion studies set up a camera in a kitchen to study motion. When asked to move said camera he did, to point the camera externally. A kitchen sounds like the least 'obtrusive' place to put a motion study camera, kind of like the coffee room in an office. As I understand it, he also set up an automated plant feeder. Sounds very related to his PhD. Presumably the lack of info is related to the fact that this was all that happened as that's really a non story.

It sounds to me OP like you have an obsession with this man. The police wouldn't be interested as there was no crime whatsoever, it reads to me like a non event that happens years ago, yet you track his career, years later, and now want to ruin it.

Exactly this. A complete non-event. The only thing he has done wrong is that he should have asked you and your housemates permission before setting the experimental camera up for ethical reasons. But it sounds like you brought it up with him so he then moved the camera outside. The police aren’t bothered, your landlady isn’t bothered and your housemates definitely aren’t bothered. The footage would be completely uninteresting to him and I doubt he watched it as he only needed the camera to detect a live motion flicker to set up an automation. Such a non-event. Can’t wait for the Hollywood Movie.
Hekatestorch · 13/08/2021 17:29

Im sorry you're struggling to follow the thread..

No one is struggling to follow the thread. It appears you are either OP. Or just have no clue about employment law or much else and love being a GF.

You just said a poster wanted her own situation leaving out it. And then tagged her in it? What is wrong with you?

Your claim about getting people sacked is laughable. You then try to pretend to be protecting a poster, so people can't challenge your ridiculous statements
Then pull that same poster into it again.

QueenBee52 · 13/08/2021 17:31

@Hekatestorch

Im sorry you're struggling to follow the thread..

No one is struggling to follow the thread. It appears you are either OP. Or just have no clue about employment law or much else and love being a GF.

You just said a poster wanted her own situation leaving out it. And then tagged her in it? What is wrong with you?

Your claim about getting people sacked is laughable. You then try to pretend to be protecting a poster, so people can't challenge your ridiculous statements
Then pull that same poster into it again.

I believe you are 🌸

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Bluntness100 · 13/08/2021 17:33

She isn’t struggling to follow the thread and you can’t get someone sacked by making partial accusations with no evidence.

Confused
PurpleDaisies · 13/08/2021 17:33

I really thought sharing an equivalent sort of situation would help illustrate the craziness in expecting a workplace to conduct a police style investigation into one of their employees on the way so of someone with no proof.

Obviously not.

FWIW I’m fine. I don’t think about it. It was a one off. I’m happily married to someone else. I don’t think about the guy or what happened and I certainly don’t follow his career.

myrtleWilson · 13/08/2021 17:41

what is with the rather passive aggressive deployment of all the pink flowers?

granny24 · 13/08/2021 17:44

I think you should
be very careful about exposing yourself to charges of slander or harassment.

lazylinguist · 13/08/2021 17:46

This is one of the oddest threads I've ever read! I generally take threads at face value, in spite of what many MNers say about not trusting what you read. But there is definitely something mighty strange going on here...

GintyMcGinty · 13/08/2021 17:46

What is going on the signature flowers?

PurpleDaisies · 13/08/2021 17:47

Bizarre.💐

wheresmymojo · 13/08/2021 17:48

@tintodeverano2

GDPR may come into play here providing it was after 2018

GDPR doesn't apply to private individuals, only companies.

twinningatlife · 13/08/2021 18:13

It was the kitchen not the bathroom so unless you regularly had naked Wednesdays or something and the camera was set up to film that I think you are over reacting and any attempt to jeopardise his employment comes across as malicious

AlfonsoTheMango · 13/08/2021 18:21

This is a bizarre thread.

SuperstoreFan · 13/08/2021 18:28

There's something not quite right about this thread.

sleepyhoglet · 13/08/2021 18:29

Why is the camera on the kitchen such a concern? I mean it's a bit weird but it's not like it's the shower.

FlyingRabbitsAtNoon · 13/08/2021 19:13

Well if the camera is recording sound too, I can definitely see why it would be unsettling. It’s not a stretch to think (as nobody else is in) you could set at the communal table in the kitchen with a friend and reveal all your intimate secrets without being overheard.

That said, it’s not illegal to do, and consent it only required if it’s going to be shared. If it is for personal use only it’s allowed. It is wholly creepy regardless of whether it was for sinister purposes or course purposes to think that you’ve been watched and recorded.

That said, as it’s not illegal and as such I would be inclined to let it go and move on.

Lumpwoody · 13/08/2021 19:28

GDPR only applies on the context of purely household activities. It may apply if the recording device was something to do with his phd.

Flowers500 · 13/08/2021 20:07

This thread is BIZARRE. I hope for OP's sake that she doesn't end up getting herself prosecuted for harassment...