Husband spied on me through Blink camera

[itsgrogubitch]

I'm not really sure what to do. I've name changed because I know some people on here. Husband is working from home and I'm a SAHM to our 5 and 2 year olds. Things have been a bit tense recently, maybe because it's summer holidays and we're all under the same roof a lot, I'm not sure.

Anyway, today I asked him to sit with the kids for 20 minutes while I grabbed a shower and got dressed. I suggested he maybe caught up with some work emails so he doesn't feel like he's wasting time, as he moans usually and then tacks the time onto the end of his work day. Off I go to shower, go upstairs to dry off etc and get dressed. We have a pet tortoise who lives in a tortoise table. I bought a Blink camera so I could see if she was ok while we were out (I'm a bit of a nervous first time pet owner). While I was moisturising, naked obvs (I wasn't taking ages over it, and I have really dry skin, I can't skip it!) I noticed the blue light on camera was which I know means the live view has been activated by the app because of when I set it up. I just froze for a moment and then took 2 massive steps out of shot. I'm absolutely mortified. I calmly got dressed and asked him to delete the Blink app. He acted all innocent and then when I asked why he spied on me, he said he was just checking what I was up to.

The camera used to just show the tortoise table and a tiny bit of the bed, I was getting ready on the other of the bed so it must have been adjusted to cover that area, it's a manual adjust one. I just don't know what to think. Who spies on their own wife? AIBU to be feeling really angry and violated?

@FuckinGoddess

GO UPSTAIRS AND TAKE HIS PHONE NOW.

Christ alive

I’d be more worried that he was recording sex if the camera now points to the bed.

That amount of disrespect would be a game changer for me. Seriously, I’d be asking him to pack a bag and leave as I need some space to think.

So the camera had been moved from pointing at the tortoise table to pointing at you?
Do you always get changed/moisturise in the same place that the camera was pointing at?

I’d be fuming and disgusted.
It’s odd because if he wanted to watch you he could have just come upstairs but to secretly record you is extremely weird behaviour!!

Just call the cops. He's up there deleting evidence he's been recording you. Possibly uploaded videos of you to the internet to porn sites.
I'd want to know for sure if there were videos of me naked on the internet. They can forensically examine his computer and recover deleted items.

Eh ... He's been recording you in bed. He didn't just move the camera today, he's done it previously and if it now covers your bed, that is the only reason why. I'd be going through his phone and making plans to LTB because there is no coming back from that. At all.

Please be careful OP. If the camera was pointing towards the bed, he may have recorded you two being intimate/having sex. There is a risk that the recordings may have been shared with others. There is a market for such footage I'm afraid.

I’d also be worried that he films you having sex.

It's one thing being in the same room as your OH while they're naked. I quite like that. But if I found out husband was viewing me through a camera I'd go properly batshit. Tell him he needs to leave for a bit today while you wrap your head around it and decide what to do next. He needs an extreme reaction to hit home. Creepy bastard.

If you have a heat lamp for the tortoise, don’t leave it on while you are out. If tortie turns over under the lamp, they can die.

But tortoises prefer to live outside!

@SoosanCarter

If you have a heat lamp for the tortoise, don’t leave it on while you are out. If tortie turns over under the lamp, they can die.

But tortoises prefer to live outside!

That's your takeaway from this?

On Blink cams, the blue light comes on when movement activates it, unless you specifically switch that off.

Are you sure it's not just your movement that activated it?

And I'm 99% certain you can't record from live view. It doesn't do on ours anyway.

Please don’t confront him he might lash out. I’d call the police and report it. Tell them you feel unsafe in your own home and scared for yourself and children.

Honestly this would be it for me. I assure you this is not something I say lightly.
Marriage is built on love, trust and mutual respect.

Your husband violated you and committed a crime. That’s just the part you know about.

I thought the blue light meant that the motion sensor had been activated?

@SofiaMichelle

On Blink cams, the blue light comes on when movement activates it, unless you specifically switch that off.

Are you sure it's not just your movement that activated it?

And I'm 99% certain you can't record from live view. It doesn't do on ours anyway.

Away with your rational thinking. Don't you know the OPs husband is obviously a filthy deviant / paedophile? That's the only explanation.

Oh fuck I've just checked Amazon and you can save video clips via the app

I'd be grabbing his phone bow.

I could not remain married to a man that did this. I'm so sorry OP but I would be calling the police and reporting this, it's an awful violation of trust.

Hes def deleting stuff. I know someone who once found out her husband had been recoding her and uploading it and she only sfound out anout the uploading after reporting. Sorry OP but i think i would report to police if only to ascertain that there is nothing else he has filmed or other creepy stuff buried in his internet. Thos feels like the tip of an iceberg, especially if he was doing it with your kids around.

Ok so researching a blink cam it is motion activated so when you walked into the room the alert would have gone to the phone to view the live feed if you are paying a monthly fee it can record up to 60 seconds so he probably got the alert and looked could the camera have been knocked to a different location

Besides all the above, why are you having to justify how long you take in the bathroom?

@SuperstoreFan

Oh fuck I've just checked Amazon and you can save video clips via the app

I'd be grabbing his phone bow.

No, not from Live View you can't.

And you don't need to save motion-activated video clips via the app. They save automatically - that's the whole point of the system.

Are you sure it's not just your movement that activated it?

The husband admitted watching the OP.

He acted all innocent and then when I asked why he spied on me, he said he was just checking what I was up to.

Yeah, this is horrible. If it was like, he knew you were naked and you'd just be generally in shot and he shouted up "you look fit" or something, that'd be kind of sweet - my DH will sometimes send me a screenshot of the Ring doorbell cos he's got a notification of movement and be like "you look cute!". But he's doing it without your knowledge and lying about it - the REDDEST of red flags.

@MrsKDB

Please don’t confront him he might lash out. I’d call the police and report it. Tell them you feel unsafe in your own home and scared for yourself and children.

Oh come off it!

Husband may or may not have used a camera to spy on his own wife. Massive breach of trust - yes, dangerous pervert - no.

If OP calls the police it should be after a discussion with her H about whether he’s done this before and whether he’s shared any images of her publicly. She can threaten police if he is in any way cagey about it. What she categorically does not need to do is phone them saying she’s scared for her children. That’s just a massive overreaction.

OP I hope this isn’t what it looks like because that will open up a whole world of difficulty for you, but if it is then you have MN behind you all the way.