To be considering rehoming my dog..

[peptacqueen]

I made a huge mistake. Last year DH agreed to buy me a cockapoo puppy. I'd lost my sister suddenly and I think I just wasn't thinking straight.
A few months later I fell pregnant - and I suffered with hyperemesis. I didn't so much as feel queasy with my first pregnancy so it came as a shock. I've been hospitalised twice.
Dealing with hyperemesis, my 4 year old son and the puppy (he's a year now) has been horrendous.
We just haven't got the time and I don't have the energy to give the dog the stimulation and exercise he needs.
He chews everything. Poor DS's toys are all ruined, and my underwear drawer is more or less empty now as he's chewed it all to shreds.
He escapes at any opportunity. I opened the door to someone the other day and DS opened the middle door meaning the dog shot out and ran all the way onto the main road near us. Pouring rain, with a 4 year old in tow at 32 weeks pregnant I was running along a main road trying to catch a dog who was darting in front of traffic. That night my hyperemesis was awful and I'm sure it was from the stress.
I just worry that my already fragile mental health might be pushed over the edge if the dog gets hold of the babies things and ruins them.
DH won't speak to me when I mention rehoming, he sulks and won't speak. But he'll only take him on maybe 4 walks a week and I'm still picking up all the dog poo in the garden etc.
I've made the biggest mistake of my life and now I don't know what to do.

OP it's time to get ice cold angry at your DH and re-home the dog. Don't wait for DH to agree because he won't, the lazy selfish arse.

@NoOtherShadeOfBlue

But bragging that you did better than the OP (in less trying circumstances) is just so unpleasant and devoid of human feeling. People make mistakes. Even sometimes when they have done research and thought themselves prepared. Things go wrong, people are fallible. I’d rather be someone who makes a mistake and seeks to make it better (which might involve rehoming a dog) than someone who posts something unfeeling and judgemental in response to an ill, pregnant woman simply to serve their own self-righteous sense of superiority.

Yes absolutely agree with this.

@peptacqueen I am so sorry you’re having so much to deal with at the moment.
I think unless your DH is able and willing to take the strain regarding dog-care, then rehoming would be best all round.

Spaniel Aid and Spaniel Assist are both very good charities who have lots of home-checked people on their books just waiting to give a loving home to a dog that needs it. If you decide to do that - get in touch with them.

It’s not the end of the world, rehoming a dog. They will get a better environment for them, and it will free you up to deal with all the other stuff on your plate, plus when the new baby arrives.
It’s a big decision though, so take some time to discuss it and explore all the avenues.

Anyone you know who has time to take the dog on and train it for a while?

So there was one outlier, big deal. Dogs do not understand the concept of abandonment or unrequited love. They just have very basic and simplistic emotional needs of feeling safe and being fed.

When someone else takes the dog, as long as they'll treat it well, the dog will be just as happy. Happier, in fact, as its needs will be met.

Isn't it ironic that posters here will be quick to tell someone to drop their spouse simply for falling out of love. No matter that an actual human being will be rejected and hurt. But do it to an animal that doesn't understand the concept, and you get lambasted.

Exactly right @UpstreamSwimmer - even on this thread we’ve seen “ditch the husband, not the dog”… because that’s the way forward for a heavily pregnant, mother of one suffering with hyperemesis. Fucking dickheads.

There's been no updates from OP recently so hopefully she doesn't feel discouraged...
One year old dogs are teenagers and have lots of energy and push boundaries.

If you can't agree on rehoming with your DH, then you need to agree on a regime how to get through the next year or so until the dog calms down and you find your feet with baby no 2.

Options:

• get a dog walker who is possibly also a trainer, or lay for doggy day care where the doggo can burn off some energy
• get puzzle toys, chew toys and similar to keep him busy (ask your DH to set them up for the dog) - someone needs to supervise the dog while chewing though
• put baby gates somewhere and shut the dog in every time someone is at the door - use treats or toys as a bribe (and hope he doesn't learn the trick too quickly!)
• establish a rigid routine and follow it consistently so the dog knows what to expect, and keep the energy in the house as calm as possible to prevent overexcitement
• might be worth getting a soft harness that the dog wears during the day temporarily as you can grab him much easier than just a collar, then take it off at night

If things can't work despite the effort, then the best thing to do is to rehome the dog, but I wonder how your 4 year old will react to that.

Good luck!