To ask if you are a regular Facebook poster can you explainhy do people post literally what they do every day on FB?

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Why some people post what they are doing every single day? I'd love to know from someone who does. Friends posting what their DC doing every day, daily family stuff etc . I just don't get it?

I think the same about tweets. Your opinion your life your story.

What I really dislike is people who are all superior and judgy about people who enjoy social media. If it's not your thing then fair enough- no one is making you engage with it, just don't have it as part of your life!

And yet people continue to have it as part of their lives then come on MN to moan about other people using it for its intended purpose. 🤦🏼‍♀️

I always assume it’s because they want to prove to others what amazing fun they’ve been having. I just yawn and think that they people having the most fun don’t have time to tell everyone that they’ve just been to Asda and gone two for one on grapes 😂 🥱

@BananaMilkshakeWithCream

I always assume it’s because they want to prove to others what amazing fun they’ve been having. I just yawn and think that they people having the most fun don’t have time to tell everyone that they’ve just been to Asda and gone two for one on grapes 😂 🥱

Fuck me you're friends on FB with some boring people 😂

I don’t know anyone that posts constant updates.

* I like the memories. Love seeing what I was doing 10 years ago and the photos too.*

^I like this too

I don’t post much. TBH more often than not if FB sticks a memory post in front of me I cringe and wonder why on Earth I thought it worth posting in the first place.

We remember our wedding anniversary thanks to the memories popping up😂😂

I used to coin the term ‘Facebook diarrhoea’ to describe exactly the phenomenon you describe in your OP!

@MoonlightWanderer

I used to post more “real” things when my kids were younger but then a friend took me aside and said some quite harsh things about how bad things were with me and how obviously I wasn’t coping. I hadn’t really thought that people were reading it like that, so now I do treat it like a PR reel and just post happy, positive pictures and comments.

Is your friend into MLM? They are supposed to post positive stuff every day.

Wow this makes so much sense. The only two friends I have on Facebook who post those cringy "photo a day" are both into mlm's!

I find the sneering posts about people's 'sad and desperate need for validation' on social media both unpleasant and illogical tbh. It's perfectly normal for human beings to seek validation and approval from each other. It's pretty much what we do all the time through our behaviour. It's part if what makes us social animals and keeps our behaviour in check - we like to share, to fit in with a group, and to feel happy with our status. In real life, not just on social media.

I left FB nearly three years ago thinking I might return eventually, but I felt so relieved and liberated of it I decided to delete my account completely after six months or so. I'd been on it for about 11 years, had checked in and scrolled several times a day, every day, and had posted a fair bit too, so I was surprised at how little I missed it! I find the whole phenomenon of FB bizarre now, now that I have some distance from it... I much prefer living a private life and I've also found that those who want to stay in touch with you do so.

Leaving FB has definitely made my world a little smaller but it's also cut out a lot of extra 'noise' which looking back was just not needed. In all fairness, I'm not particularly interested in where the girl who sat next to me in Y10 History went for lunch yesterday. Anymore than I would expect anyone to be particularly interested in my day to day activities!

I am a little concerned about the effect of SM on our society - I think creating a stage and an audience for everyone is not particularly great for peoples' egos and it can either create a degree of narcissism and self-aggrandisement or cause terrible mental health issues for people who get worked up about how many likes, comments and followers they have.

Leaving FB has also been a humbling lesson. Three years later I still get people (often good friends!) asking me if I'd seen XYZ on FB, and I have to remind them I'm not on it anymore! It just shows I think, how little people really care about others' presence on FB and how self-absorbed we as humans are

@lazylinguist

I find the sneering posts about people's 'sad and desperate need for validation' on social media both unpleasant and illogical tbh. It's perfectly normal for human beings to seek validation and approval from each other. It's pretty much what we do all the time through our behaviour. It's part if what makes us social animals and keeps our behaviour in check - we like to share, to fit in with a group, and to feel happy with our status. In real life, not just on social media.

I've never come across another poster who understands the natural human need for social validation! And that we all seek it daily in different ways in our offline behaviour whether we realise it our not. And that it doesn't mean "attention seeking" or "bragging". To have other human beings validate our existence and our values and our needs, is to be human. It is not a fault. And often, we seek it online as well as offline. I'm pleased someone else is able to understands this. I feel less alone and validated now

@ooowhataday

To add I have strict privacy settings, I know and speak IRL to all of the people I'm friends with on Facebook, and half of those, people I'm not close to , I have listed as acquaintances and they can't see most of the things I post. Like I said, I post for my memories not to show off what I'm up to all the time. If people think that about me they can either unfriend me or hide my posts from their feeds, no skin off my nose either way 🤷‍♀️

Same. I do love a good cull, too!

What irritates me is people who use Facebook as a substitute for making an effort to keep in touch. Lurkers, ugh.

I am happy to have validated your opinion, sofiegiraffe

It's weird how people somehow conveniently forget that the fundamental needs driving human behaviour are common to all of us, not just the people they like to deride on FB. If a psychologist observed anyone's behaviour and social interactions (irl and online) for a day or a week etc, they'd no doubt be able to point out many examples of seeking attention, validation, status etc. Some people just hide those needs slightly better than others.

@lazylinguist

I find the sneering posts about people's 'sad and desperate need for validation' on social media both unpleasant and illogical tbh. It's perfectly normal for human beings to seek validation and approval from each other. It's pretty much what we do all the time through our behaviour. It's part if what makes us social animals and keeps our behaviour in check - we like to share, to fit in with a group, and to feel happy with our status. In real life, not just on social media.

However the OP and the other extreme examples on this thread are about what many people have identified as OTT - ie people who can’t read the room, who don’t try to fit in with the social norms of their social circle by posting prolifically etc.

At this level it’s the same as the pub bore hogging the conversation in a loud, toe curling, monologue - and it’s really sad that in both of these situations that their behaviour is actually counterproductive to fulfilling their underlying need for social validation as it actually makes others uncomfortable and they tend not to engage and slink away. That person then potentially becomes even more lonely as they are not actually connecting socially.

The vast majority of people on this thread have said that they love seeing and hearing of others days out, fun stuff, achievements and news and sharing theirs and that it’s a mutually satisfying social experience.

However many people have said how often they post, what they post etc and it’s not 70 photos a week.

But just like the pub bore no one is forced to engage at this level you can just swerve with the mute button. SM is just another area where social etiquette is being established and is always evolving and is different for each social circle. It might well be appreciated and appropriate to post so prolifically in certain situations (hobbies etc). It’s also important to take responsibility to have a “clean thread” for your own emotional well-being - where you have posts coming from those you value authentically - anything irritating needs to be culled. Same as IRL - if there was a neighbour, colleague or relative you find tedious you wouldn’t encourage any further exposure / engagement beyond being polite.

Presumably because they want to share with their family and friends what they've been up to, and it's easier to do this as a group thing rather than texting people individually?

I don't use Facebook apart from when absolutely necessary so for updates on clubs/hobbies, but I don't really understand the sneering from those who have so called friends on Facebook, then slag them off for using it.

People need to stop comparing FB to a rl pub.
In pub I can't just mute the bore. On FB I can mute people so no one is in any way "hogging" conversation.
Again. It's the end user problem.

However the OP and the other extreme examples on this thread are about what many people have identified as OTT - ie people who can’t read the room, who don’t try to fit in with the social norms of their social circle by posting prolifically etc.

I guess. But not all of the 'room' necessarily feels the same way about the prolific posters, as becomes apparent on these threads. Maybe the OP's prolific poster friend(s) have lots of friends and family on FB who love seeing their daily posts, and/or who are fellow prolific posters. Either way, as you say, people can mute them if they want.

I have a quick scroll through FB every day and don't post often. I don't object at all to seeing lots of family pics of ordinary daily outings etc and don't tend to see them as bragging at all tbh.

@lazylinguist

I am happy to have validated your opinion, sofiegiraffe

It's weird how people somehow conveniently forget that the fundamental needs driving human behaviour are common to all of us, not just the people they like to deride on FB. If a psychologist observed anyone's behaviour and social interactions (irl and online) for a day or a week etc, they'd no doubt be able to point out many examples of seeking attention, validation, status etc. Some people just hide those needs slightly better than others.

Precisely.