To ask if you are a regular Facebook poster can you explainhy do people post literally what they do every day on FB?

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Why some people post what they are doing every single day? I'd love to know from someone who does. Friends posting what their DC doing every day, daily family stuff etc . I just don't get it?

The same sorts of standards almost never apply to men. See:

- posting selfies (particularly, shock horror, over the age of 40)
- using filters
- posting pictures of your children
- posting when drinking or in an establishment serving alcohol
- posting pictures of your food

etc etc.

With perhaps the exception of posting when drinking (perhaps), men don’t do any of these silly things. That’s why they’re not judged for doing them.

Upload one screenshot of a man doing a duck-face selfie, and I’ll eat my hat.

Which is it though? Daily family stuff or bragging! Surely it can’t be both?

People often get into the habit of documenting things. Like a dairy, as others have said. Or they use it as a daily record. Don’t see any harm in it so long as no one in my feed is expecting me to comment on every single picture and post about little Tommy!!’

Upload one screenshot of a man doing a duck-face selfie, and I’ll eat my hat.

Or filtering themselves into oblivion!

Lonely, reaching out.
Bored.
Like to share with friends and family.
Maybe they don't get out much so it's their socialising.
Use as a diary.
Showing off.
Habitual.
For likes or attention.
Sharing information for businesses etc.

Who knows - a mixture of all/some of the above and other reasons too.

Never used it, sounds like an energy sucking crazy cesspit to me with loads of nutters and frequent data breaches

These fabled friends and family that people think they need to keep in touch with via facebook have all stayed in touch with me (with photos included!) very easily without me ever touching Facebook

Love it!!!!!😂😂😂😂😂😂

I do grimace at the selfies though. The comments of 'you look gorgeous' etc etc and in real life you wouldn't recognise them - the lack of lines, even complexion etc unreal and clone like - so many do it. Yet to see an old school male friend play that game though.

@LimeRedBanana

The same sorts of standards almost never apply to men. See:

- posting selfies (particularly, shock horror, over the age of 40)
- using filters
- posting pictures of your children
- posting when drinking or in an establishment serving alcohol
- posting pictures of your food

etc etc.

With perhaps the exception of posting when drinking (perhaps), men don’t do any of these silly things. That’s why they’re not judged for doing them.

Upload one screenshot of a man doing a duck-face selfie, and I’ll eat my hat.

Spot on.

Some women do the rest of us no favours. No wonder they are judged and men don't do that sort of weird 'look at me' behaviour so don't get judged.

We all know some use it for bragging or validation or because they are lonely but no one ever admits that's why they use it.

@LimeRedBanana

Hand on heart, you've never seen men posting daft stuff on Facebook?

Never seen a man post a gym-selfie? Or a silly meme? Picture of a bloke brandishing a pint of lager? Holding a fish? Go-karting? Never seen "sitting down to watch the match" pictures?

Either you have an especially refined social circle or this is internalised misogyny at its best.

@TheTallOakTrees

Some women do the rest of us no favours. No wonder they are judged and men don't do that sort of weird 'look at me' behaviour so don't get judged.

How should women conduct themselves on FB? OK let me guess:

• charity fundraising pictures acceptable
• occasional holiday snap acceptable (no alcohol and no children)

Anything else (ie sex, politics, selfies, kids), conduct unbecoming. Women, know your place and stick to being as inoffensive as you possibly can.

No gym selfies on my FB feed.

What really seems to irk the perennial posters is that they feel so strongly that they can use their own social media however they want…

… but absolutely no-one is allowed to have an opinion on what they post, or judge them for doing it. So naive.

@thepeopleversuswork I've genuinely never seen a man do a duck faced selfie or filter themselves & their kid to oblivion. And if they did I bet they would attract a lot more ribbing then a women.

One distant friend did and I liked all her posts. Noticed she rarely liked my much rarer posts, so turned off all notifications and news feed from her.

Not answering the question, but annoyed at the rudeness

@thepeopleversuswork

Agree entirely with your posts

I don't have family at home to tell stuff to that's amused me / upset me / intrigued me so tend to post on FB.
The more lonely I feel the more I post - reaching out for support or validation which I get from FB friends (all of whom I know in real life).
So don't assume it's people 'showing off', sometimes it's the only social contact people have.

Sadly op it's usually because they have low self esteem, need validation... Etc

good point @LimeRedBanana if you want to use social media for bragging fair enough but likewise people can dislike it.

And just like how on facebook if you don't like don't look why don't people who get annoyed by those who don't like fb why don't you ignore these threads?

You can level all the ‘internalised misogyny’ posts at me that you want, it’s water off a duck’s back.

Th list of (silly) things you itemised are simply not things men (as a cohort) do on SM, and for that reason, they’re not judged for them.

The taking photos of yourself in underwear is bragging. You wouldn't do it if you were fat or looked like shit.

But I know what you mean OP. A friend of mine puts up daily summaries about her spotless house, kids' mundane school activities/achievements and regular shopping trips where she spends ££££ on designer clothes and sports gear (all itemized and photographed)

I know for a fact that she has a lot of problems in her life so I assume she is either putting on a brave face or trying to make herself feel better.

I just press 'like'.

[quote rottd]@thepeopleversuswork I've genuinely never seen a man do a duck faced selfie or filter themselves & their kid to oblivion. And if they did I bet they would attract a lot more ribbing then a women. [/quote]

For the same reason men don't obsess over their appearance more generally in the way women do, I imagine? Because women are held to higher beauty standards by societal pressure. That just transfers onto FB. It's not hard to understand. These duck selfies might not look great, granted - but they are an online continuation of societal standards for women and the pressure to "look good". My 15 yo teen dd and her friends post selfies with their make up on and hair done etc all the time. As someone who wouldn't dream of posting a "duck selfie", even I can work that where the motivation comes from.

@sofiegiraffe so you agree then that men don't do it 👍🏼

@FairyAtTheBottomOfTheGarden

I don't have family at home to tell stuff to that's amused me / upset me / intrigued me so tend to post on FB. The more lonely I feel the more I post - reaching out for support or validation which I get from FB friends (all of whom I know in real life). So don't assume it's people 'showing off', sometimes it's the only social contact people have.

This. ( for you)

[quote rottd]@sofiegiraffe so you agree then that men don't do it 👍🏼[/quote]

Yes. But what's your point? Men don't do it for the same reasons men (generally) don't spend hours traipsing around make up / clothes shops, or 3 plus hours in the hairdressers, or getting Botox or lip filler etc etc... they aren't held societally to the same beauty standards. Hence why we see more of this type of behaviour from women online. It's no great surprise.

@FairyAtTheBottomOfTheGarden I'm sorry you're sometimes lonely but it's refreshing to hear someone admit that's what drives some of your posting.

This is why I went over to tiktok. None of the annoying constant statuses.
It can be really mundane I have someone who posts daily of her very clean house saying she's cleaned it and has to document it on Facebook. Every. Single. Day. Like why? 🙈
And another who posts every day about waking up, going to work, putting the kids to bed etc even their toilet habits!
I rarely use it nowadays, only to store photos on but even then it's set to my eyes only so I'm not spamming people. I just find it really bleak and boring, like everyone's in competition with themselves.

I don't mind admitting loneliness drives some of my posts, either. In the same way I'd text or call a friend if I felt lonely. It's another form of reaching out for social contact which is a human need, isn't it. It's not odd or difficult to understand, really.