To ask if you are a regular Facebook poster can you explainhy do people post literally what they do every day on FB?

[bigbeautybummum]

Why some people post what they are doing every single day? I'd love to know from someone who does. Friends posting what their DC doing every day, daily family stuff etc . I just don't get it?

@BrightYellowDaffodil

Frangi, assume you're a 'best life' poster then. I use social media for lots of interesting entertaining and useful things but bragging and documenting everything I do every day isn't one of them.

OP, I suspect you don't want to 'understand' why people post in a different way to you, you want to judge.

I post stuff on FB and if there are those who don't want to see it they can mute or unfollow me. I limit my FB to people I know and like, so I am generally interested in what they post. It shouldn't come as a surprise that a social media platform is used for media of a social type. I love taking photos so yes, I'll post on holiday or out and about or whatever. Doesn't mean I'm not engaging with what I'm going or enjoying myself.

Exactly. The idea that people who take photos and share them online can't be engaged with and enjoying the moment simultaneously is a little silly. I can - and do - do both.

@SchrodingersImmigrant

I actually really like seeing updates from other people's lives.

That's usually caused by having only people you actually like on your SM 😁

Hahaha probably true! I don't tend to follow people who annoy me - they tend to get muted or quietly unfollowed.

I'm prepared to get flamed for this, but I'm pretty happy with my life, so I don't tend to feel jealous or FOMO when I see someone else having a lovely time or posting their fabulous life on SM. I either think "Good for you!" or just have a wry smile and move on if I know it's a fake.

I use FB as a sort of diary, posting any fun or exciting stuff that happens.

I'm a happy person with a nice life so I post quite a lot.

I post for 2 main reasons, one, to record my memories of happy times, and two, to seek connection and stay in touch with friends.

What I find interesting is there are quite a few people who claim never to look at Facebook but who still say 'oh I saw you were doing X the other week'

Lurkers, I call them

What I find really weird and a bit sad is the people who sit there looking at their friends having a nice time and simmering with resentment. I'm delighted to see my friends happy and having a nice time.

I do think in order to use social media well you need a certain level of emotional intelligence...

I love getting ideas for days out from over friends posting photos of their days out.

My family are all over the world so we share photos fairly regularly then each year I love the memories coming up. I’d assume if my posts annoyed people they can just stop getting notifications.

[quote AngryWhompingWillow]@Sssloou

I often wonder if like the example of the 70 baby posts a week if that poster follows and likes hundreds of others posting their 70 baby photos each week?

No. Why would I?

No other facebook friend of mine posts so many baby photos. And if they did, I would unfollow them too. Why on earth would I unfollow one person posting 70 (almost identical) photos of their baby, and not unfollow another one doing it? [/quote]
Sorry my post wasn’t clear. What I was trying to say was I wonder if the 70 photos a week poster (who you have unfollowed) follows other posters who post 70 baby pictures a week and actively likes their photos? I suspect not.

@sonjadog

The ones who do this on my timeline are generally people who are lonely, and/or who have a lot of their social interaction through social media sites. There is nothing wrong with that and they don't deserve to be sneered at.

Sometimes I roll my eyes at what people post, but then there are a group of people who respond positively to the poster and share their own little stories, and I have sharp word with myself that everything other people post is not directed at me personally and my needs, but is clearly meeting some need in other people, and that is great for them.

I wonder if it is meeting their needs though - or if it is counterproductive?

If someone is lonely or distressed seeking professional support or inching out into mutual and reciprocal RL social connections is a much more certain way of improving emotional well-being than be reliant on it will be restored by some random person clicking a button. It’s high risk and not emotionally intelligent to leave your social validation needs to be fulfilled in this way.

We have seen the extreme version of SM dysfunction where celebs leave their MH exposed and it’s catastrophic. Of course for the extreme posters we are talking about here, who may be lonely and distressed it may not be as severe but I am sure SM is not helping them either.

It’s all v sad at that level.

I do this and enjoy seeing what my friends all over the country and overseas are up to. I find the comments about inching out into reciprocal RL connections totally patronising tbh

I am quite nosey though I'll admit that

Different people use it in different ways. I have many people on mine who rarely post, though I'm sure some of them lurk as will refer to stuff I'd posted ("your holiday looked fun"). I have a small number of people who post every waking moment - I suspect some of these use internet/SM as their main source of social interaction. People who post crap such as endless memes and cut & paste stuff, someone who posts endless lost pet posts in Northampton (I don't live in Northampton ), another who uses it as a platform for her feminist views and nothing else, political ranters, woe is me posters etc etc.

Personally, like a previous poster, I use it as a diary for happy memories and like it when they pop up in the future. For that reason, I don't post bad stuff as I don't wish to be reminded! It's also nice to share with family/friends I don't see often. I like seeing theirs too, I like getting ideas for places to go and things to do and hope they are inspired by mine as well. I certainly don't do it to show off - I'm far from rich or flash or particularly popular so not much to show off about anyway! I probably post an average of once a week, more if on holiday for example.

At the end of the day, it's their page to use as they see fit. If someones feed irritates me, I unfollow or scroll on by....

If you go to the pub to meet your mates and you've got a nice new haircut or you've had your nails done people will say you look nice and you'll coo and accept their compliments. It's a harmless little boost to the self-esteem and no harm is done. Why, when its done on SM, is it considered to be in such poor taste?

I don’t believe you genuinely can’t tell the difference between those two scenarios - come on!

Obviously I can tell the difference between the scenarios. But I'm asking you why one is morally more suspect than the other?

Again, I strongly suspect you of disingenuity and you don’t really need this explained - but it would be akin to going into the pub with your new haircut, telling everyone you’d had it cut, and awaiting the compliments.

@LimeRedBanana

If you go to the pub to meet your mates and you've got a nice new haircut or you've had your nails done people will say you look nice and you'll coo and accept their compliments. It's a harmless little boost to the self-esteem and no harm is done. Why, when its done on SM, is it considered to be in such poor taste?

I don’t believe you genuinely can’t tell the difference between those two scenarios - come on!

Obviously I can tell the difference between the scenarios. But I'm asking you why one is morally more suspect than the other?

Again, I strongly suspect you of disingenuity and you don’t really need this explained - but it would be akin to going into the pub with your new haircut, telling everyone you’d had it cut, and awaiting the compliments.

I disagree. That eould be more if you messaged privately to everyone with the pic and said "look I git new x" putting it on the wall is more akin to just showing up as pp said imo

We’ll agree to disagree then.

I don't know. I think they are very insecure people who think anyone else gives a hoot about their latest 'look at me' posts.

I'm quite cynical and think nothing comes for free in this life so why would Facebook give you a free account, they must be loving it. People providing tons of personal information on an hourly basis that they can mine and sell. That's the legit side. I hate the chain posts (post this to 20 people now or your leg will fall off) and even with total acquaintances it only ever takes about 5 mins to find out everything about their life. No wonder peoples banks get hacked so easily.

I absolutely do know men who post selfies (not filtered admittedly), photos with their kids and photos of nice food/drink.

I am interested to see what friends and family have been doing or events happening locally. It's nice. At the moment I'm getting ideas for future holiday locations after seeing where everyone has been. There is the odd person who who over shares but this is easily scrolled past. I do post things like holiday photos, days out etc but I've massively cut down due to the realisation that some people regard it as bragging. It's a shame people aren't allowed to share their happy moments without others judging.

The ones I laugh about are those broadcasting when they leave to go on holiday publicly 🤦🏻

@BlueLobelia I love cat memes not so keen on real cats though 😂

@chocolateorangeinhaler

I don't know. I think they are very insecure people who think anyone else gives a hoot about their latest 'look at me' posts.

I'm quite cynical and think nothing comes for free in this life so why would Facebook give you a free account, they must be loving it. People providing tons of personal information on an hourly basis that they can mine and sell. That's the legit side. I hate the chain posts (post this to 20 people now or your leg will fall off) and even with total acquaintances it only ever takes about 5 mins to find out everything about their life. No wonder peoples banks get hacked so easily.

That's not cynicism. I assume by now everyone knows that nothing is free snd we sre indeed exchanging use of it fir data. That's just do well known fact, it couldn't have passed anyone by.

Rw the bank hacking. I am still gobsmacked at how naive some people are. Even in here it sometime reads like scam or security questions with "how much is your mortgage" and prople giving answers to a single penny👀

@bigbeautybummum

Frangi, assume you're a 'best life' poster then. I use social media for lots of interesting entertaining and useful things but bragging and documenting everything I do every day isn't one of them.

That's your choice. How others chose to use FB is their choice. I don't use FB often, prob once a month at most but I hate the way that some folk think they are superior to those who use it a lot. The purpose of this whole thread was to do that. Unnecessary op just delete those on your friends list who annoy you.

I make a point of posting very mundane stuff. Like "Look, a butterfly landed on my arm" or "Look at my new kettle, it matches my toaster!" Just the little life moments.

@lljkk

I make a point of posting very mundane stuff. Like "Look, a butterfly landed on my arm" or "Look at my new kettle, it matches my toaster!" Just the little life moments.

Errrm. That butterfly is certainly not a mundane stuff😁

it would be akin to going into the pub with your new haircut, telling everyone you’d had it cut, and awaiting the compliments.

You wouldn't need to tell them though - surely they'd just notice when you turned up with your new hair? And they'd say "oh you look different! Very nice hair", and you'd reply "ah thank you, just had it done today" (or similar). And that would be the FB equivalent of sharing a pic, and people commenting "that looks nice". What's the difference? You're showing up online with your picture; versus showing up in person with your physical self.

If however you posted online "here is my new hair - everyone tell me I look beautiful please", or rocked up to the pub to meet friends saying similar; then yeah, I'll accept that's weird. But no one does that. (At least that I know of 😂)

I have various family and friends WhatsApp groups, if we have parties etc that's where we prefer to post any photos now.

I use a pseudonym on FB so I can use it for keeping in touch with news/school related matters. I prefer to remain anonymous. No friends on it at all. Deliberately going against the grain🤣 I use other methods to stay in touch with family and friends.

I am on facebook and enjoy it. No I don't post what I do every single day.
I've lived in 6 different cities since I left university and worked in 5 different hospitals and have made friends and colleagues all over the country that I wanted to stay in touch with and it's a nice way to keep up with people where as otherwise we may have lost contact over the years.
What I really dislike is people who are all superior and judgy about people who enjoy social media. If it's not your thing then fair enough- no one is making you engage with it, just don't have it as part of your life!

I like the memories. Love seeing what I was doing 10 years ago and the photos too.