To ask if you are a regular Facebook poster can you explainhy do people post literally what they do every day on FB?

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Why some people post what they are doing every single day? I'd love to know from someone who does. Friends posting what their DC doing every day, daily family stuff etc . I just don't get it?

I agree with the posters saying that men seek validation/attention too.

I know a couple of men - a cyclist, and a runner - who are CONSTANTLY posting pics of themselves doing their 'sport.' Multiple hundreds of pics, and 95% of their pics are of them. (Including some of them and their 'sport-buddies.') None of their kids, or pets, or wife, or family; just them doing their sport. Boring.

And yeah I HAVE unfollowed them.

@Sssloou

I often wonder if like the example of the 70 baby posts a week if that poster follows and likes hundreds of others posting their 70 baby photos each week?

No. Why would I?

No other facebook friend of mine posts so many baby photos. And if they did, I would unfollow them too. Why on earth would I unfollow one person posting 70 (almost identical) photos of their baby, and not unfollow another one doing it?

I used to post daily, several times a day probably. I guess I looked as though I was loving life, but I wasn't.

I think this sums it up perfectly. We reach out socially (generally speaking) when we are less content with life. And I don't think that's something to condemn people for; it makes perfect sense. And it also shows that the theory of "bragging" to make others feel bad might (at least some of the time) be way off the mark.

Some people seem to need a lot of attention. I get it’s exciting to share moments with friends and family but surely that’s what WhatsApp groups are for.

People who have hundreds of ‘friends’ and constantly post IMO really need a reality check. These people in RL are completely self absorbed and sadly live in their own bubble. But that’s just my personal experience.

There's a thread running in AIBU at the moment, where the OP is struggling to make friends and feeling upset about it. A poster has suggested she join Instagram as she was able to build her social circle that way; by commenting on and "following" other posts. Social media has its place and can be a literal lifeline for some.

@sofiegiraffe I think most of us can identify behaviour despite not asking the individual. I'm sure Trump would say he's a good, humble person!

I don't necessarily think that showing off even comes from a place of "I think I'm amazing" sometimes it's insecurity or as a pp lack of social skills. I don't think all posting is automatically bragging but I stand by the fact that people who exhibit certain unattractive behaviours whether it's arrogance or bragging etc often aren't aware.

@LimeRedBanana

If you go to the pub to meet your mates and you've got a nice new haircut or you've had your nails done people will say you look nice and you'll coo and accept their compliments. It's a harmless little boost to the self-esteem and no harm is done. Why, when its done on SM, is it considered to be in such poor taste?

I don’t believe you genuinely can’t tell the difference between those two scenarios - come on!

Obviously I can tell the difference between the scenarios. But I'm asking you why one is morally more suspect than the other?

I suppose the harm is when it's 100% 'aren't my family/ my relationship/ my meals/ my dc/ my parenting amazing' type posts that can leave their normal, flawed non amazing friends feel they are letting their dc down by not living a 7 day week ' best life'.

Theres no harm. If you don't like it no one is making you have it or look. There's not a single person on this planet who has to view social media sites if they don't want to.

The ones who do this on my timeline are generally people who are lonely, and/or who have a lot of their social interaction through social media sites. There is nothing wrong with that and they don't deserve to be sneered at.

Sometimes I roll my eyes at what people post, but then there are a group of people who respond positively to the poster and share their own little stories, and I have sharp word with myself that everything other people post is not directed at me personally and my needs, but is clearly meeting some need in other people, and that is great for them.

@sonjadog

The ones who do this on my timeline are generally people who are lonely, and/or who have a lot of their social interaction through social media sites. There is nothing wrong with that and they don't deserve to be sneered at.

Sometimes I roll my eyes at what people post, but then there are a group of people who respond positively to the poster and share their own little stories, and I have sharp word with myself that everything other people post is not directed at me personally and my needs, but is clearly meeting some need in other people, and that is great for them.

What a refreshing post.

I have a friend who posts constantly, mainly photos of herself. She’s in an unhappy marriage and needs the validation of others telling her she looks great or that she’s a brilliant mum. If that’s what she needs then so be it. Where I take issue is that she complains that I don’t like all of her posts. When there are 5 plus posts daily and I’m working non-stop I don’t always see them. Plus you don’t have to like everything that a person posts up but she watches it like a hawk. I actually deleted my social media because of it. She needed so much validation that it was causing her to lash out if I missed a like on a post so muting wasn’t an option. It’s sad really.

It's a nice way to share with friends and family and hear what they've been up to.

I use it to moan mostly. But then I'm a menopausal, grumpy old cow
Also cat videos

Each day I click on the memory option and it shows my posts from the same date each year. It’s nice to see and say ‘oh remember when we did x, wow that was 6 years ago’. Although I don’t post everything.

You sound judgemental. It’s to share their lives with their friends and connect, surely? I like knowing what my friends are up to day to day.

I've never understood why people go on holiday (or even just a day out) and the first thing they do is start posting photos online, they literally get to the hotel and post photos. I find it very sad and assume they can't be having that much of a great time because when I'm away, I'm too busy having fun to think about facebook or social media in general. I have one person who starts tagging people who she pretends are looking after her house to say thank you. If they were really looking after the house you'd message them privately.

The using facebook as storage excuse is never a good idea, facebook compresses the photo so quality is really compromised, sometimes not noticeable until you decide you want to print the photo.

@earthyfire

I've never understood why people go on holiday (or even just a day out) and the first thing they do is start posting photos online, they literally get to the hotel and post photos. I find it very sad and assume they can't be having that much of a great time because when I'm away, I'm too busy having fun to think about facebook or social media in general. I have one person who starts tagging people who she pretends are looking after her house to say thank you. If they were really looking after the house you'd message them privately.

The using facebook as storage excuse is never a good idea, facebook compresses the photo so quality is really compromised, sometimes not noticeable until you decide you want to print the photo.

It only takes a few moments to upload a photo to Facebook. I really don't think it means people are miserable. They are on holiday. They are happy. They want to share this with friends and family. It's perfectly normal!

I've never understood why people go on holiday (or even just a day out) and the first thing they do is start posting photos online, they literally get to the hotel and post photos.

Because it saves time from texting various family member that you arrived ok😁

That said, I don't post until after return, but it's not beyond my understanding to see why people might do that.

I'm not a regular FB poster, but I'm a daily Instagram poster - particularly to stories. I'm an expat and have friends all over the world, so it's the easiest way to stay in touch with all of them. I'm fine for people to mute if u friend me if they think it's boring.

I actually really like seeing updates from other people's lives. Maybe that makes me a bit weird though 🤷🏼‍♀️.

I actually really like seeing updates from other people's lives.

That's usually caused by having only people you actually like on your SM 😁

@SchrodingersImmigrant

I actually really like seeing updates from other people's lives.

That's usually caused by having only people you actually like on your SM 😁

😂

@BashfulClam

Each day I click on the memory option and it shows my posts from the same date each year. It’s nice to see and say ‘oh remember when we did x, wow that was 6 years ago’. Although I don’t post everything.

Me too, this is my favourite function on FB actually.

Insertfunnyname
“I find it a lot weirder people who have fb, seem to log on daily for a nosey but NEVER post anything themselves.

It’s like a weird peeping Tom thing.”

Yes, I find this sort of thing strange as well. I’ve deleted some previously close friends accounts as they seemed to be inactive for years, but they would add me back right away. I’ve felt guilty as they probably thought I didn’t like them but I didn’t want useless accounts on my friends list. They never update or post, just get tagged in stuff of their kids from the MIL or something. Any attempt at communication gets ignored. It annoys me as they can log on anytime and get a reasonable snapshot of where I am in life, but I can’t do the same. So I unadd. But then they re-request and I feel mean declining but weird about accepting. I get being private and I’m happy to share details within reason on social media, but think it’s weird they don’t reciprocate anything. Even private messages get read and ignored.
Next time I won’t add back. What’s the point 🤔

It only takes a few moments to upload a photo to Facebook. I really don't think it means people are miserable. They are on holiday. They are happy. They want to share this with friends and family. It's perfectly normal!

This. It's become truism now that you only post on FB if you have a sad and lonely life, want to gloss over how miserable you are etc. I just don't think that's the whole story.

I mean sure a lot of people only show an airbrushed version of their life -- and fair enough. But that's been taken to extremes so its now assumed that everything posted to FB is a complete fabrication and that anyone who posts there is by definition desperately lonely, their marriage is bad etc. It's just a massive over-simplification.

In reality all human life is there. Yes there's a lot of dross and self-indulgence. But its what you make it. It's certainly not a barometer of your personal insecurity.

Frangi, assume you're a 'best life' poster then. I use social media for lots of interesting entertaining and useful things but bragging and documenting everything I do every day isn't one of them.

OP, I suspect you don't want to 'understand' why people post in a different way to you, you want to judge.

I post stuff on FB and if there are those who don't want to see it they can mute or unfollow me. I limit my FB to people I know and like, so I am generally interested in what they post. It shouldn't come as a surprise that a social media platform is used for media of a social type. I love taking photos so yes, I'll post on holiday or out and about or whatever. Doesn't mean I'm not engaging with what I'm going or enjoying myself.