To ask if you are a regular Facebook poster can you explainhy do people post literally what they do every day on FB?

[bigbeautybummum]

Why some people post what they are doing every single day? I'd love to know from someone who does. Friends posting what their DC doing every day, daily family stuff etc . I just don't get it?

it's not so popular anymore & most people don't use it daily hence why fb buys all the other apps

@ooowhataday

I post a lot , when I meet up with friends or when I go somewhere, even if it's a nice walk or something. I do it because I enjoy it when the memories come up. Everyday Facebook tells you what you posted on the same date in the previous years, it's really nice to be reminded of moments.

You get the same with Google Photos, but probably not public enough for some 😉.

@ichundich I'm a dirty Apple user and don't have a google account

It’s all on a spectrum of quantity and quality and finding the right balance for your “audience”…..

Even as an adoring overseas family member I wouldn’t be interested in seeing multiple daily posts of anything whether it be inane activities or stealth boasts - as I to me that’s not deep / authentic connection. Would prefer a live FT call every so often alongside less frequent posts.

Less is more.

It’s also weird when you catch up IRL with someone who posts so much you have no news to share.

I also think it’s interesting that people are different on and off line. I have some friends who’s online persona is jarring (bragging etc) but who are modest IRL - has left me confused as to who they really are.

I post when I do something nice because I have my parents on there and as they live a fair way off they like seeing what we're up to. I also love looking back at the memories from that day over the years. As others have said it's like a scrapbook/diary

It’s like a diary - why is that hard to understand?

I'd love to know from someone who does. Friends posting what their DC doing every day, daily family stuff etc . I just don't get it?

Since you appear to be friends with people that do this, why not ask them instead of asking other people to take a stab at someone else's motivations?

I assume it is because they want to.

@VanGoSunflowers

It appears that it is what Facebook is for. So if it bothers you I’d suggest just deactivating your account?

It’s a bit like being annoyed that the library you’re stood in is full of books.

This! Ffs why do people complain about social media being used for its intended purpose?! Just don't use it then? Or unfollow / unfriend people who irritate you? It's so simple to resolve.

I personally don't post every day, maybe once every week or two, but I enjoy having memories to look back on and I enjoy sharing with my family and friends in the way social media was intended. As do many others.

I admit, I judge people who post every day (even more so, those who post multiple times a day), and tag friends into posts - as opposed to sharing stuff privately, via messenger.

Get on with living your life, instead of trying to make out you’re living a great life.

Always interesting to note those who don’t share every damn detail (or indeed any detail!), and those who do. It does seem very needy.

@bigbeautybummum

I suppose the harm is when it's 100% 'aren't my family/ my relationship/ my meals/ my dc/ my parenting amazing' type posts that can leave their normal, flawed non amazing friends feel they are letting their dc down by not living a 7 day week ' best life'.

This appears to be the crux of the issue for you, OP. Feeling inadequate as a parent due to others posting about their lives. Maybe come off social media if it makes you feel this way? Genuinely.

@m0therofdragons

It’s like a diary - why is that hard to understand?

Diaries are, by their very nature, private.

@LimeRedBanana
Social media based ones aren't.

@SchrodingersImmigrant

I just want to say, it's never really Facebook what's the problem, but the user. SM overall give you actually massive level of control over what and who you see (bar ads of course). If people don't use these, and then moan it's shit, it's like always moaning about not having soft boiled eggs, but hardboiled ones and yet still refuse to use a timer🤷🏻 Self knflicted annoyance

amazing response😂 and spot on!!!

@bigbeautybummum

I suppose the harm is when it's 100% 'aren't my family/ my relationship/ my meals/ my dc/ my parenting amazing' type posts that can leave their normal, flawed non amazing friends feel they are letting their dc down by not living a 7 day week ' best life'.

I get what you mean with this.

Everyday a meal cooked from scratch, crafting, a trip out or an achievement.

I don't think it should make others feel bad. Those who I know who have taken great lengths to show this perfect life are hiding exactly the opposite.

I post may 10-20 times a year.

Usually ds swim meets and results as quick way to share (last thing I want after a weekend poolside is to text 20 people the same information!)

Sometimes funny things that have happened - or usually ds has said as he's quite the comic at times 🤣

Sometimes if we've eaten somewhere new to say how good it is to recommend to friends.

This morning I posted as when I went for a run whilst ds swam trained there was a beautiful sunrise and low fog. It was just a offhand post of the picture about how at least there were some advantages to having to get up at sparrows fart to play mum taxi!

For me, I like to have easy access to my photos - its like a virtual scrapbook. So for eg if I want to make a collage photo thank you card for my dcs dance teacher I can look at the 'dance' album on fb and select some. Of course I could do this on my laptop in albums and I do this too but all my older pics have been lost on broken devices and I'm SO relieved the best ones are still on Facebook. I also love looking at my 'on this day' memories, seeing what we were doing 5 or 10 years ago and how the kids have changed.

I dont expect anyone to actually be interested other than my close family and friends, but thats most of my friends list, and I enjoy looking at what they're up to too. My dad lives hours away and a lot of family live abroad so its a way to connect with them as well. I dont see it as showing off - I'll post our burnt burgers, rained off picnics or a list of reason my toddler has had a meltdown just as often as I share smiling family beach snaps etc.

I use fb every day but dont document my life.
I use it in a different way. I'm not saying but I'm selective what I put up. Sometimes it's a funny meme or I may post if I e gone somewhere a bit different to usual.
I hate posts that say " fuming!😡' with no context or reason and everyone e is like 'you ok hun?' That's a definite scroll on from me!

Like all sm there are a lot of positives as well as negative to fb. To me it's a good tool to keep in touch with a lot of the wider family at the same time, a source of information and a bit of fun.

[quote sofiegiraffe]@LimeRedBanana
Social media based ones aren't. [/quote]
Well, no.

Diaries are.

Attention/validation/boredom/to make memories

I do know what you mean though - when people post the most mundane shit ever like "Making lasagne for tea might have a cheeky gin haha" it's like WHY? I do use facebook a lot but I only post/share things if they're funny or noteworthy in some way.

@ShinyGreenElephant

For me, I like to have easy access to my photos - its like a virtual scrapbook. So for eg if I want to make a collage photo thank you card for my dcs dance teacher I can look at the 'dance' album on fb and select some. Of course I could do this on my laptop in albums and I do this too but all my older pics have been lost on broken devices and I'm SO relieved the best ones are still on Facebook. I also love looking at my 'on this day' memories, seeing what we were doing 5 or 10 years ago and how the kids have changed.

I dont expect anyone to actually be interested other than my close family and friends, but thats most of my friends list, and I enjoy looking at what they're up to too. My dad lives hours away and a lot of family live abroad so its a way to connect with them as well. I dont see it as showing off - I'll post our burnt burgers, rained off picnics or a list of reason my toddler has had a meltdown just as often as I share smiling family beach snaps etc.

Yes, same. I love it when memories pop up of "on this day" however many years ago. It is like a virtual scrapbook for me, too. Like you I also post good and bad bits. One of my posts in recent months was an unfiltered, raw appraisal of new motherhood where I was sleep deprived and emotional, and it's fair to say not looking remotely my best 🙈 It was one of my most "liked" posts. That says something, I think.

I don't do it it daily on my public page but I have a private group on Facebook to share daily pictures and videos of my son. I live abroad so it's a way for my family and friends to keep updated on the little one and see him grow. especially with covid. He hasn't even met the majority of them yet.

There could be a range of reasons people do it daily. I like seeing the memories pop up so it could be like a diary, connect with friends and family, want of attention. It doesn't bother me, people can post what they like on their Facebook.

@FrangipaniDeLaSqueegeeMop

Have to say one thing that's more annoying than people putting everything on Facebook, is other people who have social media accounts and moan that others use social media for it's intended purpose.

Quite. Also this faux "I don't get it?" innocence.

We all know why people do it and there's an unpleasant snobbery/judgement directed to "people who use social media" which really irritates me.

Social media exists to help people connect with one another online, obviously. A vast number of people use it and they use it in different ways. Some people barely use it. Some people use it to keep in touch with old friends who they would no longer call. Some people use it as a virtual scrapbook. Some people post every cough and spit of what happens in their life on it. Horses for courses.

There is a dark side to social media and some people get drawn into slightly narcissistic and self-validating behaviour. Sometimes its attention seeking and annoying. But no worse than the sort of thing you see in the average pub on a Friday night.

This has become yet another way to look down on women for not behaving "correctly": there's a long and growing list of things women (particularly of a certain age) are not supposed to do on SM because its somehow considered unbecoming. The same sorts of standards almost never apply to men. See:

• posting selfies (particularly, shock horror, over the age of 40)
• using filters
• posting pictures of your children
• posting when drinking or in an establishment serving alcohol
• posting pictures of your food

etc etc.

I have one old school friend who maps her daily run and posts about it, then what she eats afterwards, with pics. I just altered my settings.

@middleager

I have one old school friend who maps her daily run and posts about it, then what she eats afterwards, with pics. I just altered my settings.

Ha ha yes I don't mind the odd one of those but daily would do my head in. Isn't that what strava is for!

Never used it, sounds like an energy sucking crazy cesspit to me with loads of nutters and frequent data breaches.

These fabled friends and family that people think they need to keep in touch with via facebook have all stayed in touch with me (with photos included!) very easily without me ever touching Facebook.