@LilBristow
Never in my life have I signed up for a website (let alone from a different country) specifically to reach out based on something I’ve read. I’m not one to post on social media - I usually keep my opinions to myself. So I hope this doesn’t overstep - or come off as weird!
I saw a “click bate” article pop up on my Facebook this morning. I’m from Canada, so I’m not sure why it was suggested for me. I was so worked up by what I read that I wanted to yell into my phone as if you would be able to hear me.
I SINCERELY hope you are doing well. I see the post was recent, so if you haven’t had your baby - I hope your pregnancy is going well - if you have I hope every went okay, that baby is well and healthy; and more importantly that you are well and healthy.
I’m not sure if you have multiple posts. I’m referring to the one about your baby party - (sorry if my thoughts are all scattered)
I’m not sure what is “customary” where you live - what’s the social norm - but a party like you suggested is not common here either. Regardless of that - you are NOT being unreasonable. Within seconds - without even knowing you- I could come up with at least a dozen reasons why I, a complete stranger, would come to a party like that. The biggest one being YOU ARE WORTH IT.
Being a mom for the first time is so totally overwhelming, both in a good way and a not so good way. It’s exciting, it’s new, it’s unpredictable, it’s scary, it’s lonely, it’s life changing in every way. You obviously have a need for having a party like that - even if it’s something on a deeper level like wanting to have a little bit of exposure or practise with kids before your little one comes. Or wanting to connect to family and friends and having people share some excitement with you. Or even wanting to do something for yourself before your life changes.
The people who love you, and care about you need to set aside their own feelings about the uniqueness of it and just be there for YOU.
I am so sorry that you came up with an idea to fulfill your needs - possibly got excited about it - and had that completely crushed by those closest to you. As an adult, getting excited about things, and experiencing joy isn’t as easy as it was when we were little and it can be a hard blow when someone makes you feel silly about that. My heart breaks at the thought of people not being able to put you first at such an important time in your life, because of their own minor discomforts or insecurities.
I truly, truly hope you get what you need emotionally before the big day - and just know that there are people across the world wishing you well. Congratulations on your life change!