What's the worst thing someone did when you had a new baby?

[Cuddlyrottweiler]

Another thread reminded me of this, it's probably tame compared to some of yours though!

MIL called my DH in from another room and told him to take my newborn, crying baby off me and give him to her. After I'd refused several times, because I knew what he needed and couldn't do it. Luckily for our marriage he saw the look and my face and told her no.

First labour was told I was making ex late for the gym by asking him to put on my TENS pads. Second time was told to shut the fuck up during a contraction after cleaning the house during contractions, slamming bathroom door into my leg repeatedly after not calling the midwife in time, caused tearing by making me push when I shouldn't have, handed baby to me and left me and baby on the bathroom floor covered in blood so I had to take off my shirt to wrap baby in as had nothing else, then after paramedics and midwife had come and gone, refused to get me anything to eat or drink and went downstairs to eat lunch.

Just given birth to dd3 and the midwife says 'it's a girl!... never mind.. you can try again' . While I'm laying there with the baby still attached to me by umbilical cord.

I'm hospital MIL saying how disappointed she was that it was a third girl when she got the call and being told off by SIL - she said this in praise of her daughter and how wonderful she is. The irony

It really ruined the moment for me because at the time you are hormonal and vulnerable and some people are just utter cunts. They know exactly what they're saying !

Sheer thoughtlessness but a very close friend told me when I was pregnant that her mother was an amazing help with her first born and ‘there was no way you could have a first baby without the help of your own mother’. My mother is dead so yeah… thanks for the tip.

@InkieNecro 🥺💔 I hope you are well clear of that vile sounding man; what awful, traumstic experiences ♥️💐

[quote Wam90]@InkieNecro 🥺💔 I hope you are well clear of that vile sounding man; what awful, traumstic experiences ♥️💐[/quote]
I am thank you, I'm living with a partner who adores me and my children and ex is being investigated for every single category of domestic abuse by the police at the moment and the children and I haven't seen him since last November.

Close relative said my 4 month old looked like an n word. We don’t talk anymore

When my son was born my mother in law visited and informed me the baby looked like her father

DC1- MiL (who lived under an hour away and is 100% self sufficient) came to stay overnight 4 days after my very traumatic birth which ended in a c-section:

1. accused me of 'keeping DC1 from her" as I was breastfeeding
2. phoned SiL (her daughter) and invited her to come and visit the same night and stay in our sofa without checking with me or DP first.
3. SiL then turned up and her and MiL proceeded to sit on our patio drinking and smoking until 11pm at night
4. kept pointedly asking me to go and get her things (cups of tea/salt for dinner/extra cutlery) despite me clearly being in massive ammounts of pain post section.
5. Kept saying to my DP 'oh no, you sit down, you are doing so much with the baby right now' every time he got up to do one one of the things she had asked me to do, as he was doing all daytime nappy changes and post feed burps/settles because of my section...

Different situation but I had a stillborn at 24 weeks, MIL insisted on coming round the day we got back from hospital, proceeded to ask how labour was, when I just said ‘painful’ (I could barely say my own name at this point) she then said ‘well…it’s a lot less painful when the baby is alive at the end’

First baby, I went into preterm labour at 28 weeks

Originally went to my local hospital that I had been to throughout the pregnancy but because the NICU was full, I was blue lighted to Sheffield. I was out of it on painkillers and then discovered my mother had put it all over fb to get the lovely sympathy she felt she deserved

Dd stayed in for another 10 weeks.

Ds..where do I start. He was undiagnosed with CMPA for 6 months! 6 months I had crying, vomiting and screaming. I barely slept, dh barely slept, we were at breaking point. The HV was doing everything she could but it was down to the doctor at the end and he just kept saying “it’s colic. Every baby has colic. He will be fine”

He suddenly went 3 days without eating anything. Took him to the doctors again who said “babies can go for a week without food”. Dh was not happy with that and asked the doctor if he would leave his own kids like that. Doctor admitted he wouldn’t and reluctantly sent us to the hospital. I was on the phone with the HV at the time and she was raging at the doctor. He did have CMPA and just one night on a new formula and he was a changed baby.

I hated the doctor after that

C-section on Friday. Released Monday. Back in hospital twice more that week because baby was losing weight (they forgot to weight baby when I left hospital and midwife kept guilting me to not use a bottle).

Anyway a week later on Friday I'm home and just about able to walk when my mum phones me and tells me she invited the whole family round and that I had better clean the house. My brother took one look at my face when he arrived and almost left except he had brought food so I told him to stay. Yet when I bring it up a few years later to her about what she had done she cannot recall saying that at all.