What's the worst thing someone did when you had a new baby?

[Cuddlyrottweiler]

Another thread reminded me of this, it's probably tame compared to some of yours though!

MIL called my DH in from another room and told him to take my newborn, crying baby off me and give him to her. After I'd refused several times, because I knew what he needed and couldn't do it. Luckily for our marriage he saw the look and my face and told her no.

@IncludeWomenInThePrequel

Maybe the person who posted that then felt beholden to actually go to the hen when she would have preferred to stay home with her newborn.

That's what I assumed to, she felt obliged to go when she wasn't quite ready to be separated from her baby.

I wasn't ready to leave either of my baby's much before they were 4 months.

She also told me that it was really weird to think I fed him with my boobshmm

This country, lmao

Boobs on the third page of the Sun and the Star, Carry on films, Benny Hill etc. - one sleazy boob based gag after another...

Books used for their main purpose, like all other mammals ..... eeeeww, weird!

My h made moo noises at me when I was trying a pump to help.get my supply going ... because his only experience of feeding milk or pumping is dairy cows on his uncles farm.

*Boobs, obviously.

@ellyeth

As weird as it sounds, having a stranger on the internet agree that what she said was out of line and that I'm not overreacting has really helped. I feel much better about it now. Thank you 😊

Ha, oops - name change fail 🤦🏻‍♀️ @ellyeth

MIL (lives abroad) came to visit when baby was a few weeks old for SIX f-cking weeks while DW buggered off on work travel. It was like having 2 babies to look after.

Not me , a friend who is an atheist with mad CofE parents - they took her baby and got it secretly christened...

I’ve read this entire thread. @mnhq please put this into classics. An incredible thread.

I’m due next week for a planned c section - have already had the ‘too posh to push’ comments and this thread has me bracing myself for much worse!

The worst health visitor in the world who said "your child's head circumference is very large. We need to keep an eye on that as it's not always a good sign." And then walked out of the door without another word leaving me in a stunned, panicky hormonal mess.

I was 21 when I got pregnant & all my friends dropped me like a stone, annoyed because I announced it over a group message (I didn’t know how to tell them). Bitches ruined my whole pregnancy & I felt so alone.

Horrible midwife in postnatal ward shouted at me for not getting DS dressed (he was wrapped up in a blanket on my chest after weeing on his babygrow). Later on, another midwife said he looked a bit jaundice & to pop in his cot by the window. Horrible midwife then had another go at me saying what was I doing, he would get cold. God, she made me cry, I was so young & felt useless.

FIL said I look fat when we were showing them the family photoshoot we had done when DS1 was 4 months was pretty harsh.

There’s probably loads more but I definitely care less with DC2/3 and would be more confident to give it back!

@spottedbadger ‘It was one fat ugly baby though’ - I’m sorry you struggled but this is a ridiculous thing to say!

@FuckingFabulous 4 years?!? Oh gosh you poor thing. Did paediatric ENT have any involvement with your DS? Mine is still under their care but dropped down to 6 monthly checks now. In a way i was glad of the noisy breathing because i could hear him clearly over the monitor. As he got quieter i actually slept worse because i couldn't hear him as well.

I look back at videos of those first 3 months before his first operation and I can't comprehend how the GP thought it was normal. 90% of my videos of him from that time are of his breathing to try and get them to see it wasn't normal. Makes me quite sad really.

After a horrific emergency c section my MIL proceeded to tell me how it was REALLY BAD when SIL gave birth 😏😏😏 it's not a competition!

God, a lot of these remind me why we didn't tell anyone when I was in labour with dc1! We also told them I was coming home a day later than I did so that we had some time just the three of us. When I was in labour with dc2 family knew because of childcare for dc1. Apparently my dad called my brother and was ranting about how selfish I was because I hadn't updated them after saying I was being induced and was in labour. Apparently he was very worried and I should have prioritised him. My brother gave him what for and said I probably had other things to be thinking about. 😡

I've remembered another. I was being induced before 38w for a number of reasons, including hypertension. The usual stuff didn't work, so after a couple of days they said they'd take me down to delivery suite to break my waters.

24 hours later I was still waiting (can't be helped, they were busy) & I was starting to worry about something bad happening to the baby as time was ticking on.

Eventually a midwife came to take me down to delivery. I was on my own and trying to get all my stuff together, she said to me "hurry up - I don't HAVE to take you, there are plenty of other women waiting". Once we got to delivery, she complained that she didn't know how to do an insulin sliding scale and if she'd realised I'd need one she'd have chosen someone else.

This might not seem like a big deal (especially compared to some other stories), but things went pretty pear shaped after that & i was left feeling like I was a huge pain in the arse to the midwife.

My friend drew a mother and baby card and sent it to me and my husband after I had my baby boy
She then slept with my husband within 2 weeks of my baby's birth.
It was on and off with them for a while
They eventually married after I divorced him
Here we are 20 years later
I am so happy and contented. My life is so peaceful and without stress
Meanwhile he had left her to live with another woman. She is trying to get a decent settlement. I wish her luck.

@Crossstitchismyhobby why the hell did he do that for? Bastard.

My mum after my emc: "you should have asked him to do a tummy tuck and liposuction while he was in there". Said repeatedly alongside other comments about me looking tired and fat after my three day labour which almost killed both me and baby.

My mil: "of course he's not a real grandchild because he's just my son's baby. The real grandma is the mum's mum. Your real grandchildren come from your daughter." Said repeatedly- just to make sure I understood that my baby wasn't her real grandchild.

@GreyEyedWitch yes, he did...

@Timeisavirtue is his name Jesse?

[quote Lorddenning1]@Timeisavirtue is his name Jesse?[/quote]
Nope. It’s very unique.... and possible outing so I can’t mention it...

I had horrid, horrid PNA with both of my DDs. Found spiteful, nasty texts on my 'D'Ps phone between him and MIL, saying I was pathetic, challenging, that DD1 was 'lovely around everyone else but not with her mother', that I 'sat around on my arse all day' (DD2 breastfed CONSTANTLY) 'thank god for nursery' etc. I've never forgiven either of them. They've never even said sorry.

When my son (who was my first child) was a day old, a midwife spotted his feet weren't touching bottom of the crib and said "do you actually want your baby to suffocate"! .

When I found out I was pregnant I told my Pilates group I had to leave and join the mums' group. One girl, we got on quite well, said... "Oh no... We'll maybe you'll miscarry then you can stay in this group." 😳😳😳 I don't think she meant to be cruel, but wow!!

@GrandmaSharkdodo

When I found out I was pregnant I told my Pilates group I had to leave and join the mums' group. One girl, we got on quite well, said... "Oh no... We'll maybe you'll miscarry then you can stay in this group." 😳😳😳 I don't think she meant to be cruel, but wow!!

That is awful!

Two of my very best friends just vanished. Ghosted me I suppose. It was awfully upsetting, I think one couldn't cope as she had fertility issues and the other saw the baby as an end to our fun. I don't really know though as that was that.