To have had my first quick comeback but now I feel SO guilty!!

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I'll keep this brief,

We're staying in a hotel, sitting at breakfast and my 5yr old is being a handful (nothing crazy!) just he is very excitable and can be loud at times. Anyway we're all sorted and he's eating nicely and a lady passes our table (early 60's in age I'm guessing) she started talking and then I realized she was talking to me. So I said "pardon" to which she blurted out "he's quite a handful isn't he, I should think you'll be stopping and doing yourself a favour and not having any more!"
Then...without further thought I turned and said "and isn't it a shame your mother didn't stop before having you, she could have done us all a favour before bringing another judgmental person into the world"

Well my husbands jaw dropped! She said "excuse me?" I told her to go away.

The woman on the table across from me said it was the most entertaining thing she had heard all summer and told me she was out of line. BUT now I feel immensely guilty

Should I find her and apologise? WIBU?

😂 well done 👍

Fuck her! She was really rude!!

Good on you for thinking so quickly!

Totally deserved.

Absolutely do not apologise. Well done. She hasn’t apologised for being so rude about your son has she.

Oh my god, you're the type of person I envy if I see in real life! I can never think quickly enough to give such good responses.

Well done.

You didn't swear or anything merely turned her comments back to her.

Now she knows what it feels like!

award for you! 😀😀😀

Well done OP! Though I do wonder how long it will be before someone from the righteous brigade comes along to ask you what her age has to do with it

I would feel shitty too, rightly or wrongly. I just don't want to be the sort of person who takes pleasure in saying unpleasant things when a blank stare would suffice.

I had a friend who said something similar to me once. We aren't friends any more, though it took some other comments for that to happen!
Even IF it was not meant to be as bad as it sounds, it was a thoughtless thing to say and the OP's actions mean it is unlikely to be repeated!

How did she deliver her line...if it was said seriously with a sneering look then yanbu. If she said it whilst smiling and laughing as in a joke, yabu.

👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 It might make her think twice about saying judgemental and unkind things to others.

Don't feel guilty! She's a twat and you're awesome!

Absolutely don’t apologise. You were rude, but she started it.

Well done

I am going to remember that and hopefully never have to use it, but if I do I will! Not to be childish but she started it!

I don’t think you should apologise and maybe she’ll think before opening her mouth next time.

Why do you feel guilty OP?

@frazzledasarock

You didn't swear or anything merely turned her comments back to her.

Now she knows what it feels like!

This 👆

She deserved that and more. Well done you. Too many people get away with making shitty smug remarks. I wish I'd have been a fly on the wall in that room 😆

No well done I wish I could be that quick witted. she started it ( childish) hopefully she will stop and think passing comment on something that is none of her business will result in a comment back .
If you hadn’t said anything you would of felt really annoyed and maybe upset at that comment and she would’ve got away with her judgmental comments.

Reading between the lines, your child was being a noisy brat, somebody said something to you and got an earful from you in response. I somehow think I would prefer her as a fellow hotel guest.

Well done!!

I need to remember that just in case....

That's a brilliant retort OP!! If I knew where you were and what table, I'd send you champagne!

@Aprilx - the being a bit noisy may have warranted the 'my he's a handful isn't he comment' but to carry on and suggest OP stop and don't have any more due to it is out of line and the person saying it knew that totally.