[quote IGuessIdProbablyBeAnne]@NailsNeedDoing - parents need to bond with a premature baby. Can you imagine term babies being taken away from their parents for a few weeks after birth? And Dad not seeing them? That’s what you’re basically saying. What affect would that have on the parents, let alone the baby.
Babies born at 33 weeks still wake up in the day, hear their parent’s voices, feel the warmth from their bodies, smell them. Bonding is essential. Parents can help feed, change nappies, sing to their child. They’ll probably still feel useless and in the way, but that’s all you can do when your baby is in hospital. Why would Dad want to miss that?
He’s not a cock - you are, for having no empathy or even thinking about a situation.[/quote]
He can bond with the baby AND see his existing kids, it doesn't have to be one or the other.
He's not planning on staying at the hospital that entire time, he's spending a good majority of it with his other children at home. It's not about having NO kids, it's about having HIS.
Of all the children in the house only OP's kids are the ones who aren't allowed to go around. It has nothing to do with the hospital and all to do with him.
An afternoon a week would not prevent the baby from bonding with its Father, what it would do is make his children from a previous relationship feel like shit that their dad doesn't want to see them and only wants to see their half siblings and the new baby.