To find this a bit annoying at EVERY meal?

[mockingbirdi]

A good friend of mine has invited a new friend into our friendship group. There was originally about 4/5 of us going for lunch or dinner whenever so now there's 5/6. Absolutely fine

Except this friend of hers is nice enough but insists on eating chicken nuggets and chips! At every place we go

She was invited out with us to an Italian on Saturday. She has posted in the grouch at that she won't come as 'There isn't anything on the menu for me 😔'

So now, my friend that was originally her friend before she came into the group is saying we should change where we eat! So no Italian because they don't actually sell chicken nuggets and chips. And no Chinese that we like, or Japanese, as again nothing she wants there

AIBU to think this is ridiculous now?

YANBU. Enjoy your Italian. Dietary issues or not, if what she wanted was to spend time with you all she could easily go and have a drink or dessert and socialize. I’ve had dietary restrictions in the past that meant I could die if I ate the wrong thing. This is what I did, and I was fully able to enjoy myself.

May have already been said but it's the predictability and sameness of nuggets and chips that people with food issues like. Historically they would have had bread, oatcakes or similar. Maybe cheese. Or just starved. Failure to thrive and wasting diseases are seen quite often if you look at causes of death. Especially among people who were considered "not right". Plus many such people were shut away in institutions and no one really knows what happened to them.

Her sad face emoji is annoying and manipulative. As pp’s have pointed out, you are a group who enjoy meeting in different restaurants. You wouldn’t join a cold-water-swimming group & insist they swap to indoor pools because you get chilly! I think it should be gently suggested to the introducing friend that it’s not a good fit for the fussy friend.

I know it isn't the same, but when I am having a bad time with anxiety I only eat toast.

@TheDevils

Please go and start your own thread. This isn’t about you…

[quote mockingbirdi]@dreamingbohemian Can you please plain how I'm the odd one out for not pandering to someone wanting people to just go to places, these people being completely new friends, unless there is a chicken nuggets and chips meal option available [/quote]
Has anyone else said anything OP? Did picky eater reply to your message about seeing her next week?

@mockingbirdi - I’m pleased that you and your friends haven’t changed the venue from the Italian place. Maybe when you are there (Assuming Chicken Nugget Chick sticks to sulking and stays home with her chips) you can speak openly with the group about how you all feel about this. She might be a nice person going through a bad time, but maybe her controlling/manipulative behaviour has had something to do with her situation. It is not reasonable for the group to continually pander to this.

Btw… I hope someone has responded to Chicken Nugget Chick’s sad face emoji ☹️ with…
“Okay, thanks for letting us know. 👍”

@Andrew2020 - Please go and start your own thread. This isn’t about you…

It may not be about her but it's educational to hear about her eating disorder. And she has a valid point about the attitudes of some posters.

[quote ToffeeNotCoffee]@JustCleaningtheBBQ

You can disagree without being nasty and goady. You just sound like your projecting. I've reported your posts.

Yeah, thought you would. Go and tell teacher.

You and all the rest, love.[/quote]
Yes, that's what you do to the playground bully - tell the teacher

What’s everyone else said?

@mockingbirdi

did you resolve this 🌸

I think you've done the right thing.
She could still come and just have a pudding or just eat fries.
She's being manipulative.

Ha. Should've checked the date 🤦‍♀️