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... to ask if you were in love with the person you first had sex with?

253 replies

MissMojoRising · 02/08/2021 13:13

Something I've been thinking about recently, and had a discussion with friends. Were you in love with the first person you had PIV with?

I was not. Had a BF, I did like him, everyone else was at it, so we did it.

Not looking for any details, just a yes/no vote is OK

YES: I was in love
NO: I was not in love

OP posts:
gabsdot45 · 02/08/2021 15:37

Yes definitely. I had married him the previous day.

grapewine · 02/08/2021 15:37

No, it was lust not love.

HazelBite · 02/08/2021 15:40

No, but he was a very sexy older Frenchman, and at 16 it was all about the experience.

RevolvingPivot · 02/08/2021 15:42

I wasn't at the time I don't think but I ended up marrying him.

wordsareveryunnecessary · 02/08/2021 15:49

Yes. Holiday romance

TheNinny · 02/08/2021 15:50

No, but then I became embarrassingly besotted with him after 🙈

willithappen · 02/08/2021 15:51

Nope. I was 15 and I thought I was in love but it was more infatuation than anything

Looking back now it was deffo not love

Battleofwhocouldcareless · 02/08/2021 15:52

Yes and I'm now married to him.

MostlyNormalSometimesOdd · 02/08/2021 15:53

A resounding no, we were students from different colleges working in the same hotel for a summer placement, got drunk one night and the next thing you know it was all over and wholly forgettable

feb2022 · 02/08/2021 15:54

I thought I was 110% in love with him
When I look back he was just a complete arsehole!
Now I know what love is when I look at the father of my children

Aquagirl19 · 02/08/2021 15:58

No, he was gross.

3scape · 02/08/2021 16:00

Yes. The first hetero sex I was in love. But not my first homo time. That was definitely lust, I fell for her afterwards.

Heartofglass12345 · 02/08/2021 16:08

No, I don't even know his name, or the 2nd. I was in love with the 3rd man I slept with.
Also slept with a female friend who I wasn't in love with before that, but I like her lol

Mynameisrow · 02/08/2021 16:17

Not at all.

At the time I was so infatuated and thought he would get bored and leave me. In reality the sex was so bland I dumped him.

TheMoth · 02/08/2021 16:20

I told myself I was, because J17 said it was better to be in love with the person you did it with. But he was very sweet and loved me and wanted to marry me(few years older).

Had I not been bound by that, I wouldn't have wasted 2 years on him and would have had more boyfriends and more fun

5329871e · 02/08/2021 16:23

Yes
And reader, I married him

EleanorOlephantisjustfine · 02/08/2021 16:24

Yes. First boyfriend and lovely man.

imnottoofussed · 02/08/2021 16:28

NO

Clawdy · 02/08/2021 16:32

Yes, it was my wedding night!

SirenSays · 02/08/2021 16:36

Yes, he was my first boyfriend and we were together for a while. My brain tends to just focus on the negatives though so now I have the ick thinking about him. I wish I hadn't had such serious relationships and focused more on having fun.

DiaryofWimpyMumm · 02/08/2021 16:37

No

GlamourSpider · 02/08/2021 16:37

Yes

StarlightLady · 02/08/2021 16:40

Nope!

indecisivewoman81 · 02/08/2021 16:42

Yes; we were teenagers but madly in love

EBearhug · 02/08/2021 16:49

Not at all, but we liked each other, and we'd spent the afternoon in the pub, and it was his birthday. So we went back to my house, which was round the corner. And it was good fun.